02 December 2010

very first tooth and BFing trouble.

Yes, you read that right! Bennett is getting his very first tooth... at 10 months old! Crazy! I was nursing him the other day and he bit me, he doesn't do it often but when he does it's usually not THAT big of a deal because it was all gums. Well this felt different. I was shocked at how it stung.

I knew right away it was a tooth poking through. I checked on it and yes... there was an edge of his front bottom tooth coming in! There's no way I will be able to get a picture of it so you'll have to just image what it would look like.

That hard part about all of this, is that in the last couple of days... he's bitten me several times and it HURTS. Recently, he's pretty much only been nursing at night and in the morning... and I have been okay with that.

Until now.

I'm not okay with this biting thing. But I'm so torn about completely weaning him completely. Part of me just really wants to be done with breastfeeding all together, but at the same time I'm hanging on to those few moments because as soon as I stop I will feel like he's not my "little baby" anymore. Ya know??

And a question for all you nursing Mama's out there. Since I'm down to only a few feedings a day anyway... can I just stop? Or... how does that work? *sigh*

Help!


23 comments:

Shawntae said...

I can't give any imput because I don't breast feed but all i have to say is that picture of Bennett melts my heart I love how he kind of squints his eyes when he smiles. Cute Cute bebe!!

[ker-AND-uh] said...

we didn't stop when A started biting. he was only a few months old and when he got bored he'd clamp his jaw down! lol i was so shocked! thankfully he didn't have teeth then. but whenever he did it [and he still does], i gently pull him off [after wiping the shocked look off my face] and tell him no biting and then give him a nursing break for a little while. just a few minutes. but refusing to let him nurse helps him get the idea that biting your food source is no bueno! lol good luck!!!

SarahinSC said...

I nursed both of mine until they self-weaned at about 12 months (both around the same time). I can vivedly rememeber the first real bite though and I empathize with you. It does shock you to your core! I remember at the time I screamed, he was started and cried, and I felt guilty. But, I think they need to be kind of shocked right at the moment they're doing it so they can relate biting to something they don't like (mommy temporarily losing her cool).

When they quit nursing it went kind of like what you're going through. It went down to just night time and then naps and then they just flat out wouldn't be still or didn't want to nurse anymore. I was amazed at how it just worked out without any planning. THey just wanted to be done, so I didn't really have a choice.

Enjoy those last few times! It's sure one the most treasured things I've ever done!

Melissa said...

Hi! I've been following your blog for a while and I just wanted to say that I LOVE it! Your little boy is too cute!

As for your teething issue. I have a 10 month old too, actually our babies share the same birthday! :) Well she got her first tooth at 4 months and thus started the biting during nursing. She also would pull on my skin and smack me, etc. while nursing. It was rough, she has 8 teeth now and I am still nursing. The first tooth I was about to give up nursing as well because I didn't know there was a tooth and why she was doing it. Then with each new tooth that came in, I tried to understand what she was going through and find different positions to help the both of us. It does pass once that tooth comes through and I will tell you that the top two are the WORST! This is pretty common for all babies I've reached out to a few moms and they all said the same thing. I hope this helps knowing you are not alone in the biting department. :) Good luck!

Sarah Halstead said...

Cute photo. Well if you want to continue you could tap his cheek and take him off if he bites you. That should stop him from doing it.

If you want to wean, take away 1 feeding a day for a week, then another the next week until you are done. If you aren't really producing anymore milk you could probably quit all together. That is up to you. What are you giving him when he isn't nursing?

Elizabeth said...

Girl, I feel your pain. I bf my Bennett until he was about 10 months old - he bit me and that was it. It HURT. Then I ended up getting mastitis on that side and it was awful. I was like, "done." I tried to continue, but I was always afraid he would bite me again, so bf was no longer that wonderful, bonding time anymore, but rather a nervous one for me, making sure nothing startled him so he wouldn't bite me again.

Good luck, it's a hard choice, but the good news is that you only have a couple more months until he can drink milk.

michael. mindy. dane. said...

When I went back to work this year, I started feeding Dane just at morning and night. I didn't feel like he was getting anythign (that's another story), so I finally just quit. Cold turkey. And I didn't have any problems. Then again, I don't think I mas making much anyway. So I'm not sure how it works for other people?

I felt bad quitting. NOt only because of the BF peer pressure, but because I felt like I wasn't giving him the best. I got over it pretty quick! haha. It's actually pretty convenient to just give him a bottle when we're out and about. I know BF is obviously the best for them, but formula is 100% fine too. Also, I feel like he's still a baby because he has a bottle. Now when I take that away...that will be another story.

Good luck!

Brooke said...

UGH BITING DOES HURT!! I stopped breastfeeding at 10 months just because i was all out of milk ha, but after that I put my daughter on formula since they are supposed to have either breastmilk or formula until they are 12 months then they can start drinking regular milk.

The Pepper. said...

Oh my, I know exactly how you feel!
Adrienne got her first tooth at 5 months (she'll be nine months next week) and now has seven of those little suckers to bite me with.

She only seems to bite me whenever the tooth is first coming in and starts to subside after a week or so.
The pain is definitely shocking and so not fun!
I was very close to stopping after her first one came in, but I've stuck to it and I am still trying to hang in there for another three months. Since I'd like to wean her off around her 1st birthday.

I would wait a week or so and see if things get any better if you still want to stick with it.
10 months is a long time to breastfeed, so don't feel bad if you end up deciding on stopping him all together since he's already down to bfing in the morning and night.

Good Luck:)

liz

Alexis said...

Yay! A tooth! I have been trying to get a picture of Dawson's since it actually sticks up now :) If you don't want to wean just yet, you have to tell him that biting is wrong. Take him off, tell him that's a no no and don't let him nurse again. I hear that actually works after a few times (provided he wants to nurse). Dawson hasn't bit me yet... I hope he stays that way haha.

If you do want to wean, you can just stop- especially if you are nursing only a few times a day. You may get engorged for a day or so... use cold compresses. You can pump or express some milk if it's too uncomfortable, but it should just dry up after a few days.

Good luck!

The Reluctant Blogger said...

Looks like you have gotten a ton of good advice. But just a note on my experience...James was biting a lot when he first got his teeth and it hurt, I did the same as many and stopped nursing for a few minutes so he realized that biting equaled no more nursing. It took a while of us doing that and me thinking of throwing in the towel on nursing for him to get it. Now he hasn't bit in quite a while, and he has more teeth! Do what feels best for you.

Angie McCulloch said...

I think all babies go through this when they get their first teeth...and it is NO fun for mommy! Kaylin has bit me probably 10 times total and she actually broke skin once and it hurt sooo bad to nurse her until it healed. I kept with it and now I don't even really notice the teeth. If he bites, just be done with that nursing session. If he really wants to eat, I don't think he'll bite (but I'm no expert!). I think teeth are the sharpest when they first come in too, so it will be dulled fairly soon. I totally support whatever you decide! Good luck!

Kali and JT said...

I just went through this like umm... two weeks ago? I let miley lead the way and she was only nursing at night and morning and then she stopped at night because we started trying really hard to brush teeth after, and she usually would fall asleep during so then she would wake up so it just sort of got eliminated and then over the course of a week she wouldnt sit still in the mornings and then one day I realized I hadn't nursed in like 3 days and nursing days were over... ha ha I am a little sad about it. I hope to make it to a year with my next one but it works for Miley so go with what works for your boy!

Nikki said...

Hmmm...I have no idea. Could you use a nipple shield?

Chelsey - The Paper Mama said...

Oh man, I'm no help. I'm just trying to work the no more pumping thing. It's ouchie... BUT, I did read yesterday that if you want to stop breastfeeding and need to relieve some pressure: don't have Bennett BF. I guess it confusing your body and you'll keep producing milk.

Jess Craig said...

i didn't read through your comments because there were so many! so i apologize if this is redundant, but...

when wyatt would bite, i would say NO and then immediately stop nursing. that way he'd get an idea that he wasn't allowed to bite. but, also, biting usually means that they just want to play. wyatt would never bite if he were hungry or needed to be soothed. so if he's biting, i would suggest just stopping that nursing session to begin with.

Michelle said...

I feel your pain - I have a biter!! A MAJOR biter and I don't know how to stop him :/ He's 15 months and has 12 teeth and I know I'm so lucky to have made it this far with bf....but I bf my daughter til she was 25 months and I feel like I HAVE to do the same with my boy, lol.
I've tried the "No!" and put him down approach but it just makes him laugh...the firmer the NO the more he laughs :/ He just doesn't get it!
My mother in law told me to bite him back =O and a few people have said to give him a smack but I just couldn't :(
I think its so bad at the moment because he has 4 molars coming in at once. He doesn't just bite while bf either, he'll toddle up and have a good chomp on your hand or leg too..argh!
Good luck with your decision, I think at this stage if you want to stop you should just be able to stop, I don't think you'll have any trouble with engorgement, maybe just for a day or so :)
Gorgeous photo by the way!

Karly said...

I had the same issue with Afton, and after several failed attempts at finding a way to get her to stop biting me, a friend's mom told me to give her a quick (but not hard) flick on the nose. It startles the baby and generally gives them the sense of Uh-oh, shouldn't do that. It worked like a charm.

Mercedes said...

I cried when I had to stop nursing my son and even more when I stopped producing milk and had to put him on formula at 11 months. With the twins because of one of my meds I lost my milk at 3 months and HATE having to give them formula but there is not much I can do about it. What helped me deal with this is knowing some moms don't ever get to breastfeed.. their milk just does not come in so at least I had it for a little time.

The Bonjour Four said...

awww im so sorry! We stopped breast feeding at five months {i wanted to go a lot longer}, but it work got in the way. :( my milk production started to go down and i couldn't produce the amount Noah needed. Anyway, so we never experienced biting! Ouch! Hope you are able to make it a few more months, but if you don't don't be hard on yourself. 10 months of breast feeding is wonderful!

question: how do you always get your sweet little guy to smile in every pic?! seriously! I rarely can get a smile out of Noah. :)

Kelley & Gabriella said...

I remember the biting....ugg...no fun!!! I couldn't help but yell. It was just my instant reaction, and it seemed to help. If you WANT to continue nursing, there are different methods that people have said that worked - putting them down for a moment, having your normal reaction (ie yell), lightly tap their mouth, etc. One tip that works really well in the moment is to press their mouth TOWARD you (not pull away). This can help release the mouth w/o hurting you more. Does that make sense? You can email me on fb it you'd like a better explanation.

People may judge if you stop or don’t stop, but my number one advice is do what works for YOU and your sweet boy, and do it when YOU’re ready. I felt like my time to stop nursing came naturally and it just felt like it was the right time. I admired my friends that nursed longer than me, but I was also really proud of my friends that even just tried to nurse at all. It a wonderful gift and boding experience, but you will be creating those in every aspect for the rest of his life in a ton of other areas.

You’re doing great Mandy!!!

Kelley & Gabriella said...

Whether or not you continue to nurse, Gabi loved when I rubbed her gums. You could possibly try it before feedings. I rubbed them with my fingertips with a decent amount of pressure and it really seemed to ease some of her discomfort. Oral stimulation is their way of learning at this stage.

Roy said...

Bennett's grandma read the first paragraph, chuckled cutely and said "that's when I cut Leah right off!"

Other that that I have no personal experience.