21 January 2011

A Letter from Aunt Alissa


I asked my sister (aka Auntie Lissy) to write a letter about being a first time Aunt, and how Bennett has effected her. She wrote this beautifully. Hope you have your tissues ready! :)


Auntie. That’s what I became on January 26th 2010. At the time, I didn’t quite realize what that would mean to me or how my life would change. Maybe that sounds a little dramatic, but for me it was truly a turning point.

thing is, for many years I was uncomfortable around children. I was even a little afraid that it translated into dislike. Having not been raised around kids or with any of my younger cousins, I had a hard time relating to them as I passed into adulthood.

When Mandy was pregnant I started getting excited about the prospect of a new family member. When little Bennett Roy was born, something inside me was profoundly altered. It was almost like a switch had been thrown - a light had been turned on.

The moment I was able to spend a few minutes with him, I started crying. I knew that I was utterly in love with him and my uncertainty disappeared. I had never before known the feeling of loving a child so completely.

I watched in awe as Bennett grew and thrived, as he curled his tiny fingers around my heart. He made me smile like I hadn’t smiled in a very long time. His toothless grin, all I needed to trust in my own future as a parent.

Being part of a small family has it’s advantages. It seems to make each individual all the more important. I feel that those people are not taken for granted as often, as might happen in a large family. You learn to appreciate and have the time to give each family member.

Lucky for me, my sister and brother-in-law live a mere 5 minutes away, giving me the opportunity to bond with my first and only nephew. It has been such a blessing to be able to see Bennett on a weekly basis. To not have to miss out on any of his milestones or hilarious tantrums.

I love that I am able to witness his developing sense of humor and quiet charm. That every time I come to visit, he smiles at me with a wide, knowing, 4 toothed grin. A grin that tells me he recognizes me as his family and as possibly someone he loves and trusts. I believe with all my heart that I can be that for him.

As Benny’s 1st birthday approaches, I know that his parents will long slightly for the times that were - the early months of his babyhood. Being the Auntie, I can only seem to look forward. I am excited to witness the next step in his young life and see what new discovery he makes.

At the early age of 1, Bennett has shown me how to live life and get the most out of it. He’s taught me to trust in myself and be confident in my ability to care for children. He’s made me happier just by existing and I think that is such a beautiful gift.

So for his birthday, I would like him to know how very much he means to me. I want to tell him that he will always be able to count on me. That he is a total joy in my life and I am lucky to be a part of his. He is my own personal sun, that both brings me energy and saps it away. But the warmth and light that follows him is worth everything.

I love you B.

Auntie Liss




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18 comments:

Andree and Josh said...

I love reading these. This is such a great idea Mandy. How awesome will it be for Bennett to read these in the future!

philipchiappini said...

Very sweet! I am glad that Bennett will be able to know at least a few of his aunts and uncles. I never really did.

Jeska said...

So sweet. Being aunt is such a wonderful gift. I know her exact feelings. When my first nephew entered the world I was in the waiting room and heard his first cry. My heart filled and I was in another world. Loving these letters!

Joni said...

so beautiful. i wish i had thought of this idea for each of my children. maybe i still can. my oldest will be 13 this year. hard to believe considering i don't feel that old. heck, i'm NOT that old. perhaps one advantage of having children at a young age. the time really does fly by though.

melissa d. said...

so wonderful! i love these letters!

Lindsi said...

I love this letter! It truly was written beautifully!

Nikki said...

So sweet Alissa! He's lucky to have an Aunt like you! I feel the same way about my Nephew and I love when he recognizes me, or comes to me over someone else. I hope that's not me being selfish, but there is something pretty awesome about it ;)

Carly said...

Being an aunt is amazing, and Alissa described it beautifully! I was watching the two of them interact last night and you can really see how much they adore each other.

Brooke said...

oh my goodness this is SO sweet :D

m&msmommy said...

SO sweet!

Sylvia Cook Photography said...

I knew Alissa would be able to put her thoughts and feelings into words beautifully....can I have a do-over?
I know how I feel, but can't make it sound as wonderful as Liss.

We are both so lucky and greatful we can be a part of B's life on a regular basis:)

AmyLee said...

ok she is an amazing writer! this was so so so sweet & i read every word. parker has an auntie that loves him the same way... it's amazing to share the love of your child with your family!!

amelie522 said...

what a beautiful post! aunt alissa did a fantastic job. coming from a small family myself, i understand exactly what she's talking about. what a beautiful tribute to a beautiful little boy.

Lea said...

Pure sweetness!

Deb said...

What a lucky little boy to have such an aunt. My boys are blessed with really wonderful uncles and aunts, too and I'm very thankful.

Grace said...

AWWWW, so sweet!! :)

Shawntae said...

You've got such an amazing sister!! Lucky girl you!! She seems like such a great person. I looooved this post!!

ADSchill said...

Happy birthday week my sweet sweet boy! And thank you to my sister for this super awesome idea and everyone for their kind comments.