06 September 2011

the best for the best

{wrote this a while ago, and don't know why i never published it}


I feel like I spend every minute with Bennett (which i totally love). When I'm gone, for even a little while, I miss him. I don't even remember life before my child. I know I was very happy, but since January 26, 2010- I have been in heaven. Or at least, I have a few pieces of it.

It's crazy to think about all of the petty things in life that I worry about. They're so silly and insignificant and just not worth it.

My time shouldn't be spent thinking about how I was stuck in traffic for 45 minutes and it ruined my day. Or that sometimes I throw myself a little pitty-party because I still have a little"baby gut". And why do I let the fact that the dog licks the carpet bother me so much? Well, okay maybe cause he gets all of the carpet fibers stuck in his throat and gags himself. But you get the point. I guess we're all complainers. We all tend to dwell on the bad sometimes. I need to work on that.

My time and thoughts should be centered around the good things. The positive things. I am constantly struggling with not taking things for granted. I think I do that way too much.

I think it's so important in my son's upbringing that he's raised in a happy, positive home. I don't plan to "shelter" him from the ugly. But I want there to always be a strong, positive spirit here. Hopefully as he grows up, it will help him to appreciate life, and everything he will have the opportunity to enjoy.

There is an innocence and a purity that can only be felt around a child. That's a lot of pressure when you think about it.... I mean, I truly want to be worthy of being around my own child. I want to be someone that always lifts him up and magnifies his purity. 

And it all starts with me. And with Philip. We have to be the ones to set that example. We are the ones he will look to for direction and support. We're the ones he will be observing the most, the ones that will have the most impact on him.

I want to be the very best for this little guy.

{an old picture of us... i just love it}

15 comments:

Tezzie said...

What a great reminder...thank you!

Love, Chelsea said...

I know, I do this too. Sometimes I just have to take a step back and appreciate how lucky I am. It is a good wake up call. Thanks for posting this :)

Kiara Buechler said...

Wonderful post Mandy, thank you for sharing with us. I agree with everything you said. It is scary this day and age on how easily our children can be exposed to unpure/negative things. I want to preserve D's innocence as long as possible. It is quite a challenge, but with friends like you it makes it easier.

Mommy R. said...

what a great post! and such a cute picture!!

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Shoni said...

So true! I find myself saying the exact same thing. I have an almost-2 year old and a 6 week old. These last few weeks have been tough, but I have to keep reminding myself of the very words that you wrote.

Great post and Bennet is adorable!

Lauren said...

love this and love you girl!

Tara said...

great post! Love it! Love the picture too!

Rebecca Bany said...

I try to be very positive with my kids too. I want them to be able to find the silver lining in any situation.
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Skye said...

Couldn't have said it better myself! It's very true that it all starts with the parents setting a good example. Any parenting book you read tells you the same thing - set a good example, it all starts with the parents :) He will follow in your footsteps - sounds like you are doing a great job so far! :)

Sarah said...

I love this post. Glad you decided to share it. I love that photo.

Casey Martinez said...

You are the best momma and it just shine in your eyes and smile whenever you take a picture with your handsome little sweetie! I totally get what you are saying about wanting to be worthy of their purity. They are so untainted (for the most part..lol) and they look to us for everything!! It is such a powerful job to be given and such a gift!

Ross said...

Great post! What people should look at in this post is what you said in the last few sentences, in that it all comes down to the parents and the example that they set!

Chelsey - The Paper Mama said...

Exactly. I agree! Being a parent is so crazy and overwhelming... but, it's an important and wonderful job.

Karli said...

I looooove this pic of the 2 of you! Wasn't it on your blog header at one time? It's just precious! I feel like I haven't chatted with you forever! I thought I was going to have so much more time once school started. Ummmm, no. Now my babysitters are gone - LOL! TT has me all to herself (scary).

LOVE your no heat curl pics too! I wish I looked like that at 7:30 in the morning. I don't look quite human yet at that hour. I'm like..."c'mon face! Work with me!"

It was great to hear from you & hope you guys are having a great week! XOXO