26 September 2011

Watch your mouth, please.

{disclaimer: i apologize if this sounds preachy... it's more of a rant!}

The other day, I was at the outlet malls, just strollin' along with Bennett. I was fast approaching two younger ladies (I'm guessing early 20's) and with them was a very young girl, probably between 2-3 y/o. As I got closer, this is what I heard:

girl #1: "yah **** I told that ***** that she could **** and ******"
girl #2: "what??? **** that. I would have gone ***** ******."

(* = a very bad word that I will not repeat.... EVER)

On what planet is this language appropriate in front of a child? And on top of that, these gals saw me coming toward them with my toddler aged son. They didn't even bother to speak softer or hold their tongue while we walked by. They just continued swearing up a storm. It took everything inside of me not to stop and scold them like the Mama Bear that I am.
And that poor little girl. Was she related to them? Were they just babysitting her? Is this the language and lifestyle that this beautiful little girl is subjected to on a daily basis?? My heart aches for that little girl.

Okay moving on.

In general, here is my thing. Although I may not agree with swearing in front of children - what you do in your home is your business. But if you are in public where there are elderly people, children, or just other people around.... watch your language!! And especially, when my child is present. This is something I feel SO strongly about.

In no way do I ever want my son around that kind of negativity. I know what you're thinking. I can't shelter him forever. And yes, this is true. However, he is only 20 months old. He's impressionable, he's learning to use his own words, and he's in the habit of mocking behaviors. The last thing in the world I want is for my little boy to be around harsh language and the negative emotions that usually come with it. A blog post I recently published comes to mind right now about the purity of children.
Children are precious and they are innocent and we really should try to preserve this as long as possible. And I believe as adults, we should be setting strong, positive examples for them. We need to be the people that we want our children to become. (easier said than done, I know)

And I do know that one day, Bennett will be exposed to all of the grossness of the world.

But not yet. 

I'm not here to judge others, although it might sound like I am. I'm just asking that people be conscious of who is around them. Be a little more sensitive to your language and behavior when children are present.
 

19 comments:

Anne U said...

Totally agree.

Chelsea said...

Can I get an AMEN?! I, however, am not able to hold my tongue as well as you. I told a group of teenage boys to keep their profanity to themselves when children are around and I've also been known to either cough obnoxiously or tell people to put their cigarettes out when they're smoking right outside the doors of Target, the grocery store, you name it. That's one of my biggest pet peeves-- smoking. Oh, I better not even get started!

Kiara Buechler said...

Amen! You are right, it's not just the words they re speaking, but the negative attitude they are usually displaying about life, I had never thought of it that way. I promise to never swear in front of Bennett. Unless a bee is chasing me, then I may let something slip. But I promise I am working on that. Lately I just squeak Beeeeeeeee, as I am running away, and then Bennett will just think I am talking to him!

Amanda M. said...

I've been known to say something to people with an extra loud potty mouth! Sometimes, they don't even realize that it's offensive. Sometimes thy do ~ and just don't care. I, too, would feel sorry for the little one with those two.....

beautiful mess said...

I totally agree!

Libby's Life said...

I totally and 100% agree with you on this! It's not appropriate to be talking like that in front of little kids... they are like sponges and will soak all that up and think it is ok for them to talk like that!

Tara said...

Agree 110%...great post

Chelsey - The Paper Mama said...

I'm pretty darn good with not cussing in front of R and other kiddies.

BUT... I'm really bad about mentioning the words cakes and cookies... which means kids want cakes and cookies ASAP! Whoops! I must talk about it too much.

Sarah @ This Crazy Blessed Life said...

Preach on! I could have written this post.

My four year old said "Da** it" the other day. I KNOW that she didn't hear it from us, which means she heard it from someone out and about or when my 22 year old SIL was watching them.

Needless to say, I totally agree with you!!

ADSchill said...

I don't swear much, but occasionally I let the 'Sh*t' word slip. I agree that children and most people don't need to be around that kind of language at all. It bothers me that there are so many people who have no consideration for those around them. There is no filter at all anymore.
I know it would have been hard for me not to say anything either...some people!

Meagan said...

I couldn't agree more! It's just rude to use language like that around anyone, much less small children. Let's keep them innocent as long as possible.

amy@agoodlife said...

oh man, my heart breaks for that little girl too. i'm with ya 100%... little kids shouldn't be subjected to that.

Nae said...

So true!! It seems that respect for others is a thing of the past!! It's just like smoking in public to me, I don't want to be stuck inhaling your 2nd hand smoke, leave it at home!! (My opinion anyway!)

Skye said...

I agree completely about keeping them innocent as long as possible. It is a beautiful thing. You are better than me, I would have said something to the cursing girls. LOL.

Misty said...

I'm with you, girl 100%!

Sarah said...

I agree with you 100%. That is just crazy. Ugh!

Carly said...

I'll admit, sometimes I'll let a bad word fly... in front of a close adult friend. Never in front of a child, family member, co-worker, stranger, etc. It's inappropriate and embarrassing behavior. I think it's great that you want to keep Bennett from that for as long as possible.

Love, Chelsea said...

I know! Do I need to hang a sign around my kids neck that says "watch your mouth"? I am a little worried that my replacement swears aren't much better. If Lily goes to kindergarten saying "mother trucker" I am in trouble ;)

Michaela said...

Wow I can't believe that happened! It's so sad that people feel the need to speak like that. I totally agree with you...preserve their purity as long as possible! That language only causes negativity and not to mention, the person saying it (in my opinion) sounds very unintelligent!