23 March 2012

and then it happened...

At almost 38 weeks along... babies can't really move around in your womb that much because they're pretty much out of room.

The last 4-5 weeks, I have felt nothing but baby back & bum when I touch my belly. And of course, I would feel an elbow or knee or something when he'd give me a good jab. But for the most part, his back was pressed up against my tummy, the way he's supposed to be. (anterior baby = good position).

Welp, last night I was woken up at about 1am because I felt this incredible shift in my belly. Like... Fitz was on the move hardcore... something he shouldn't be doing at this stage in pregnancy.

And then it happened....

After a about an hour of him struggling in there, I literally felt him FLIP over. From back to front. I put my hand on my belly and could feel his back/bum disappear and he rolled right over. Next thing I knew... my tummy felt squishier and I was feeling the pitter patter of little feet and hands from the outside of my tummy. That is NOT good. (posterior baby = no bueno).

Here's a little diagram to show you.

{if you want to know the reason why it matters how they are positioned, click here}

You might remember a post I wrote a few weeks ago about my "birth plan", and in it... I talked about how Bennett was posterior (or "sunny side up") and that resulted in a very stuck baby. Also resulted in an episiotomy, multiple vacuum extraction attempts, 3 hours of pushing, a whole crap load of stress, tears & pain, and a baby that landed in the NICU for 4 hours because of possible internal bleeding on the brain. m not even going to talk about how hard it was to recover from all of that.

I can tell you that at 38 weeks, it really takes a lot of work for a baby to flip around like that. Their head is already nestled in your pelvis, so for them to change positions at this point is really difficult. I'm really sad this happened because I'm terrified of what's to come now. I've already been through it. And yes, it could be much worse - this isn't the end of the world. But I was minutes away from a c-section with Bennett because he just wasn't dropping and progressing the way he needed to because he was sunny side up. :-(

My biggest fear was that I would have to deliver another posterior baby. There are actually quite a few risks involved with delivering this way, not to mention that delivering a baby like this is much more painful... and I'm just scared now.

There's little I can do at this point to get him to rotate back the way he's supposed to. I'm sort of hoping he'll just decide he doesn't like it like that and move back where he belongs.

But according to my OB, a lot of times the reason babies position themselves posterior is because of the way the Mother's pelvis is shaped. So if this is the case for me, little Fitz is staying put from here on out. And I'm in for it.

I'm going to just accept that I might go through something similar at the end of my delivery, as I did with Bennett. But I'm going to try to remain hopeful that maybe, just maybe, this baby will end up anterior and slide right out :-)

I'm sorry if this post stressed anyone out, you can probably tell that I'm kind of afraid of delivering this baby now. But... I can do it. I CAN do it.



33 comments:

Tara said...

I will be praying for baby Fitz to turn !!

Have you read if there is anything you can try naturally by sleeping a certain way, or anything?

Chelsea @The Curly Cues said...

Oh, I hope he turns back. Hopefully the fact that you have already had one baby will have paved the way for Fitz and it will at least be a little easier than with Bennett. I'm thinking lots of good thoughts for you. Maybe spending all day on your hands and knees will cause gravity to flip him! :) That is easy with a toddler right?

Kiara Buechler said...

I have been really bummed about this all day, and reading this I really do have tears in my eyes now.  I think you need to go rent one of those massage tables for pregnant ladies that has the whole cut out for your belly to hang through, and you should sleep on that every night until he comes.  Okay, that is a little ridiculous, but maybe just worth it so save some pain.  I will pray pray pray that he changes his mind and flips back over.  Come on Fitz, show your mama some love!

Tales_Of_Two_Girls said...

Oh no!  Kendall was sunny side up also, and the back labor was terrible.  I wasn't able to deliver her vaginally b/c of her position and her giant size, but I tried.  I hope he is able to turn around again for you!

sarahhalstead said...

Oh no!! I am so sorry. have you thought about going to a chiropractor? I have heard that sometimes help. Worth a shot. ha ha. Praying he switches back. 

Branson said...

Going to be praying like mad for you guys! I know when my labor didn't progress and I had a csection I was soooo upset, but my dr. told me during surgery that the cord was knotted and natural birth would have been dangerous. Sometimes babies know what is best, and my prayer for all of you is a healthy birth no matter how that happens. You are strong, and can definitely do this! HUGS!

Alissa said...

Dang!!! Crap, poop, and dang. Perhaps it is something with the pelvis - baby is just not comfortable facing a certain way. I am sorry you are most likely stuck with a similar delivery this time...but at least you know right off that you will most certainly be going for the drugs. That decision will help a little. I can't promise the labor will be shorter or you won't have an equally difficult time getting Fitz out, but at least you can possibly avoid some of the pain and fatigue.
You know I will do my darnedest to be there for you if you want me. I have not been through a delivery like you have, but I do understand the pain of being fully dilated without meds and the fear. I love you and will support you through whatever bumps may come.

amy@agoodlife said...

oh man!  i'm so sorry!  just keep telling yourself, you did it once & you survived.  an unplanned natural delivery of parker was the worst pain i've ever felt but now i know i've done it & if i have to, i can do it again.  and so can YOU!!  you've been there before, you've kicked it's butt & everything will turn out great!

Adedrickson said...

Since I have a lot of experience in the birthing babies world, I will chime in... it is very possible that your pelvis is favorable to a posterior baby. That may be the only way he fits. Sucks, for sure, BUT... chances are, your labor will not be as bad as Bennett's. You already had a baby, which means your body knows what to do this time. It's very possible that once the baby passes through your pelvis, he will turn. Don't be scared. You CAN do this. Know that. The average pushing time for a first time mom is 2 hours. The average time after that is 30 minutes.

Liz Luscomb said...

I completely understand your distress about labor & delivery! I'm in similar shoes as you are.  I've had two previous pregnancies and I experienced preeclampsia on both as well as looooong, horrible deliveries.  I'm about to have my third baby on April 14th and unfortunately, I have preeclampsia again and they are looking at inducing me, again.  I'm not looking forward to this labor either! I'm worried too, I always end up having to stay at the hospital recovering for a week after each delivery.  Sheesh...

As far as your condition goes, I heard it's easier after having given birth to a posterior baby after you've already had one. ;)  And the nurse just told me that yesterday at the hospital! Maybe it was a sign for me to tell you that! lol

I'll pray for ya,
Liz

Sweet Green Tangerine said...

Think good positive thoughts. Walk into that delivery room with all of the confidence in the world. It won't make all your problems go away but it will help. :)
You can do this! And most second babies are faster thAn the first. Dont let yourself get worked up.

Christa Cox said...

oh man, thats stressful for mama! im sorry! i hope all goes well! 

Stephanie Doyle said...

I'm so sorry this happened! Hang in there, you a strong woman, and everything will turn out just fine!

libbyuglesich said...

I'm so sorry! Zane was like that and I ended up having a csection because he just wouldn't budge! I am praying that everything turns out ok. I know you can tackle whatever comes your way! You can do it momma!!!

Anne U said...

Wow, never thought baby could do that so late in the game.

discoverystreet said...

geez...i have so much to learn...this is super informative so thanks for sharing, at the same time I pray things turn around (literally) and that this time around it's a much better experience!

Merrilee Dilley said...

Oh no! Couple of quick recommendations - a doula can do Rozebo (sp?) shifting to help change positions. Also check out Spinning Babies, there's a lot you can do!

Disneybride2008 said...

My 2nd baby was just born on St. Valentine's day.  He did this at 38 weeks, I turned him back hands and knees style, then at 40+9 he did it again just before they induced me!  He flipped back on the way out, my midwife said a lot of babies do that :)  My 1st labour was 4 days ~ this timem 4 hours 33 minutes, only 8 of them were pushing and my labour was drug free!  You can do it; trust your body; it knows what to do this time!
http://www.keep-up-with-the-jones-family.blogspot.com

Courtney B said...

Ooooh no! So scary! I will definitely be praying for you and baby Fitz!

labarndt said...

Oh, gosh. I'm sorry, Mandy. Those darn babies! Ethan was breech, and we thought we were poking his butt all along. Nope. It was his head. Oops. We found out at 38 weeks, ONLY because I asked for an ultrasound ONLY because I was in the hospital with contractions a few days before. 4...count them...4 doctors in those past weeks told me he was "head down and ready." Apparently not. Hence the scheduled c-section I had. I can imagine your frustration. I hope he flips again for you! Stubborn babes.

Karli @ The Bonnie 5 said...

Oh geez Mandy...sorry!  :-(  That's so scary!  I wish I had words of wisdom, but after 3 kids I still don't - LOL!  Drew's labor nearly killed me!  (not literally).  :-)  Can't wait to see your new guy!  xoxo

Ashley said...

Apparently you have a determined little guy on your hands :).  I really hope it ends up going better than you are expecting.  I'll be thinking of you!

Karly Gomez said...

Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear that! Have you tried any of the tricks to turn him? I don't know if any of them work, but it could be worth a shot! Either way you can do this and you will be awesome. I believe in you Momma!

Kodi said...

You could consider a c-sec. I had an emergency c-sec the first time that I did NOT want, but my baby's heart literally quit beating. Now, I'd have 100 million c-sections to avoid that scary panic. C-secs are terrifying until you have one. Just a thought. Hopefully he turns & it was all for nothing!

Victoria said...

This is what mine did the little terror. Hoping that you an get him to turn back, i went swimming and spent alot of time on my ball.. luckily it helped :) but i know alot of the time really far it doesnt. 

Erin Waldrop said...

spinningbabies.com

Angie McCulloch said...

oh no!  i'm so sorry Mandy!  i'm still praying for an easier delivery than last time!

Jessica Pugliese said...

Wishing you the best Mandy. I know that's scary for you, but I know everything will work out just fine. You will soon have a healthy beautiful little boy in your arms :) 

melissa rohr said...

so sorry lady! stella turned last minute too - little stinkers! maybe because he is your second it will go smoother in this position. not trying to rub it in at all but give perspective, but when stella was op it only took me 45 minutes to push her out without any intervention, so the light at the end of tunnel won't necessarily be as rough as last time, and i will pray hard for you it won't!!
i will ask my doula friend if there is any good moves you can do too - she has had success flipping babies pretty fast before!

Jess @ Here Comes the Sun said...

Elliot was posterior, which, according to my delivering OB, is why I had such terrible back labor and why I stalled for so long, etc. I did eventually end up delivering him, but only after I got the epidural that I originally was adamantly against. I've been researching online "tips" on how to coax your baby into the correct presentation/position. I can email you some of the more interesting sources, if you want.
I'm sure it'll all work out, either way- but please, baby Fitz, go easy on your mama!

leah @marital bless said...

Oh sweetie, take heart in the encouragement that you have a favorable pelvis! You can, you can, you can.

Mama Monkey said...

Yes You CAN do it!!!! Second babies tend to be easier to deliver than the first. The first paves the way for the siblings :) if you are really scared remember to get the epidural sooner than later!!!!!!

molly said...

Oh, I'm sorry he flipped! Brigham was sunny side up and labor was very difficult. I couldn't get him out when I was pushing so the doctor took a risk and did an internal aversion. Worst.pain.of.my.life. But worth it because he popped right out on the next push. His position is one of the reasons I'm scared to go through it again! I really really hope he flips back for you!!!

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