03 April 2012

Post-baby update! (a quick one!)

Since being home, things have kind of been a roller coaster! The first day, Easton was nursing like a champ... he took to it right away and was eating well. But in the last two days, he's really been struggling. He is having a hard time latching and when he finally does, he falls asleep after about 2-3 minutes of eating. I have to constantly poke and bug him to get him to stay awake to eat.



We had a routine check-up at the doctors on Monday and Easton has already lost a pound!! It doesn't seem like a lot but relative to their size and entire body weight, that is a ton of weight to lose! The doctor is a little concerned but told us to just keep chugging along. So, that's what we've been doing. I have been feeding him every single hour. But it is really overwhelming because he's struggling so hard to figure it out, I feel so bad for him!!

Thank goodness I bought a pump because I would be so bad off right now otherwise! At about 3am last night we finally gave in and gave him a bottle to see if he'd at least take milk out of a bottle... and he did. It actually made me both sad and relieved. I was super sad because I REALLY want to breastfeed him, but happy to know that at least he's getting food -- and it's my milk.



I realize, though, that he's only 4 days old - so we have PLENTY of time to get the hang of breastfeeding. It will come. I just need to be patient and keep at it!! Any tips you might have on either helping him get the hang of latching, and/or keeping him awake for longer durations during feedings would be much appreciated!!

Also, Easton is a pretty good sleeper. He gives us 2-3 hour stretches at night (though not last night since I had to spend more time trying to get him to eat). He very rarely cries unless you're changing his diaper. Overall, he's just the sweetest little thing!! I just love him to death!


On another note, Bennett has been up & down since we've been home. On one hand, he's so sweet with his little brother. If Easton is crying, Bennett will run around and look for a binkie, or a blanky, or a toy.... or something to help him feel better. Bennett is very interested in him, and will give him hugs and kisses. We're just working on being gentle and soft :-)

But on the other hand - he has been throwing more tantrums and acting out a little more. I'm guessing this is normal. I feel super bad about all the time I am spending with Easton because I think Bennett is a little bit jealous. He's so used to having me all to himself during the days that it will definitely be an adjustment. I think it might be a bigger adjustment for me, than for Bennett actually. I have another blog post coming about Mr. Bennett and some pretty emotional feelings I've been having.... just need to find the time to sit down and get my thoughts out.
 
Thank you all so so much for your continued support!! I have gotten so many wonderful e-mails and messages since the birth of Easton! If you want to follow along a little closer, you can find me on facebook, twitter or IG (username: mandychiappini)! It's much easier to send a quick update or photo to one of those social networking sites than to sit down and blog! :-)

I have so many blog posts I want to write, hopefully I will find some time here soon!!! I'm working on my birth story - it's just taking a little while but it's coming!

46 comments:

sabrina said...

he is such a beautiful baby!!! don't worry about the jealousy, it's natural, we had it here too & with time everything works itself out!!! 

amanda meinert said...

Those feelings you're having about Bennette are TOTALLY normal. I went through them with Gavin when we brought Grayson home. Actually, I was totally depressed before I went into labor. I was afraid we'd made a mistake, but now I'm beyond thrilled that I gave him a brother. They're already the best of friends.


Easton is just so perfect and handsome and as for breastfeeding, it takes time. Gavin never got the hang of it and because of reflux, I decided to switch to formula after a few weeks. Grayson was a nursing champ, though. I did have to use a nipple shielf bought at Target at first to help him latch and then I'd sneak it off once he was on well and eating, as he got older (a week or so) he was a pro without it! Also, take advantage of those available resources, like lactation consultants!!Good luck girl, You have some gorgeous children :)

amanda meinert said...

and yeah, I realize I spelled Bennett's name wrong, lol

Jen Mallinson said...

so sweet. my daughter was the same way when we brought home our 2nd ( 2 weeks before she turned 2). sh e is so sweet with him and never mean to him but definitely acts out more at home for attention. it is an emotional adjustment for everyone but i do think it's worse for the mom b/c your heart feels split in two. i will say after 4 months i feel much less guilt and much more peace about giving attention to 2 babies :)

Karli @ The Bonnie 5 said...

Oh he is a little dollie!!!!  What a precious guy!  For the breastfeeding thing... (you probably already know this), but undress him a bit and keep him a little cool.  (vs. warm and comfortable where he just keeps falling back asleep).  This should help him stay awake a bit better if he isn't so cozy.  They also say stroke the bottoms of their feet... again, making them a bit uncomfortable and they'll stay awake.  Sounds so mean, huh?  I wouldn't want someone messing with me when I was trying to eat - LOL!  Just a thought...  Hugs!!  xoxo

Ashleigh said...

Congrats on your new little guy.  Your routine will all fall into place soon enough.  Give Bennett lots o responsibilities to make him feel really important, and try and squeeze in some alone time for him, trust my, I have twins, I know it's not easy to find all that "extra time" but you'll find the groove!  Congrats again!

Kyna said...

He is so adorable Mandy! I fear that whole jealousy thing too whenever we have our second! Ellie has had me all to herself for 2.5 years now, so I know it's going to be really really hard! I am torn up about it and we haven't even started trying for our second yet! Just the thought makes me sad for her...but I know it's good for them to learn to share, even share their momma!
♥ Kyna

Laura said...

Do you know if he is tongue tied? My first son was and sounds like a similar situation to what you are having. He couldn't latch, lost a lb, etc, etc. You should have the ped check it out or google it, nothing serious, just were the freulum (part of tongue that connects to lower jaw) is really tight so they can't latch properly. An ENT or some peds can snip it which will free it and allow him to breastfeed no problem. Signs are his tongue will be hind of heart shaped and he wont be able to get it all the way out of his mouth. Could be worth looking into! Good luck! Hope he starts gaining soon, thinking of you!

Mama Monkey said...

He sure does give me baby fever!!! :)

It only gets busier the more kids you have, but you find balance and adjust!!doesn't Bennett look huge now?!

I hear ya on blogging-- it's gone to slim to none for me :( I miss it because it was my "me" tIme. My babe is only 7 months, so I think things will slow down soon... I hope ;) haha

Shondra Walker said...

Oh Mandy...he's darling! I have that same little set of pajamas. 

I don't have too many ideas about breastfeeding, since both of my boys have done well with it.  However, my 2.5 year old (wasn't quite two yet when #2 was born) threw a lot of tantrums right at first.  To be honest, he still does when he isn't getting enough attention.  What helped me was having my husband absolutely smother him with attention.  My husband took him to the park, to the store with him, watched special shows with him, and basically just spent most of his free time with him.  

It will get better though! Just keep your spirits up and know that he'll be bigger before you know it. 

Kizzy said...

Hi Mandy, I read your blog for a while now, your in my reader. And I always read it with pleasure. You have Wonderful style of wrighting.
offcourse I followed your pregnancy to, and I want to say: congratulations with the birth of your second, precious boy. It's all new and everybody needs to find his spot in this new home situation.
But it will all work after time.

I don.t have Facebook or anything so I just look forward to your new blogpost.
And in the meen time, Enjoy every moment with your Wonderful boys.

Sorry for my terrible english.

Hugs Kizzy
From Belgium.

Lauren Vaughan said...

awww, he is SUCH a darling!!!! take your time enjoying your new baby. posts can come later. :) photos however, are heavily encouraged. 

Kristin said...

he is just the cutest thing!! congrats! and hopefully the nursing will get easier!!

Devon Nicholls said...

Hi Mandy!

Congrats again on little Easton. As for the breastfeeding Callie did the same thing...she'd feed for a little while and then always fall asleep.  First, I always undressed her and fed skin to skin.  Sometimes she was too warm when she was clothed and nursing.  Second, they told me since she's so young she gets really tired when nursing at first.  So nurse 10 minutes and then offer a bottle of pumped milk.  I actually really liked this because she is now use to a bottle AND breast and can go back and forth with no problem.  I love that my husband can feed her a meal if I want to nap.  I have friends with 11 month olds that STILL won't take a bottle cause they were never introduced to it when little. Then after Callie got a little older we worked up to 10 minutes on each side and then offering a bottle.  Slowly but surely she took less and less out of the bottle because she became more efficient while nursing.  Gradually worked up to full time nursing and now I nurse all the time except for one feeding a day which my husband likes to do.  I really like our situation because my husband can feed her at 10pm or 11pm and I can go to bed early and then get up with her at her next feeding around 3am or 4am.  My lactation consultant had a good point, that babies aren't born "knowing" how to nurse...they, just like us have to learn and work into it.  Keep trying, offering and pumping of course.  My first 3 weeks I pumped a ton and saved a ton.  Eventually though little Easton WILL get the hang of it.  Just know whether the breast milk is from nursing or from pumping he's still getting the GOOD stuff.  ;-)  Hang in there...all the patience and determination will pay off.Good luck!!Devon

labarndt said...

What a sweetie!

sarahhalstead said...

It does get easier. Carsyn was a pretty lazy eater too. I would say put him to breast first then when you can't get him to eat anymore then give him the bottle. Dustyn was pretty jealous at first, it will just take some adusting. Congratulations again!! He is precious!

Nikki said...

Look at those sweet little bennett lips.  Your babies always have such lovely clear skin.  I have a lot of advice on breastfeeding and such, but no actual experience...I'll leave it to the experts and just admire your munchkin.  Go with your gut, you're a good Mama.

meaganbriggs3 said...

We used ice on her feet to keep her awake those first few weeks. It worked! She perked right up!!! :-)

Sara @ Seeing Purple Stars said...

congrats mandy! he is so precious!!  when i had my 2nd baby, his big brother acted out too. it didn't last long though. :)

Stephanie said...

Hang in there, praying that he takes to breastfeeding soon!! And seriously, he has to be one of the cutest newborns I have ever seen!!

Tales_Of_Two_Girls said...

Congrats!! He is so precious.  You're giving me major baby fever.  Both girls would feed like champs the first couple of days, and then we'd have to work at it again.  It'll come!!

nicole said...

oh those emotions when baby #2 comes along... 

mine are 13 years apart... and i still feel guilty when i pay more attention to the 3 year old vs the 16 year old. crazy. 

we definitely are harder on ourselves and have a harder time dealing with it then the kids do. 

your a great mom. your kids are lucky ducks. 

Mrs Ktparrish said...

He is precious! My little girl is ten days older than Easton. I looooooove having a newborn to snuggle with!

Sarah [NurseLovesFarmer.com] said...

Thanks for the update, Mandy! Glad to see you and your little man are doing well. You are very right, he's only 4 days old and has lots of time to get the breastfeeding down! Best of luck and I look forward to your updates!

Olivia said...

He is absolutely gorgeous!!  Look at those sweet lips!!!
On breastfeeding: you may want to have a lactation consultant or your pediatrician assess his latch and check his frenum.  Sometimes, when the baby is not able to open their mouth wide enough, it can make latching on more difficult.  Keep nursing him often, that will help with your supply and getting him adjusted.  Strip off his clothes, rub his feet, put a cool washcloth on his head.  If he falls asleep, do whatever you can to wake him up and get him to feed.  You can feed in short increments, though, like 10 minute feedings.  Good luck and keep at it!!!  Let me know if you need anything!!

Gretchen said...

Congrats on Easton! He is precious :)

Keep up with breastfeeding - it will get easier and your efforts will pay off. Like you said, it's only day 4! It totally takes time to adjust for you and him!

Courtney B said...

Mandy! He is seriously PERFECT! Lucky mama to have 2 perfect, precious boys :) I'll be praying that everything moves along more smoothly with the nursing!

Alissa said...

Love our boys. Anytime you want company or need help, let me know!

jennyguns said...

Hi Mandy. I am usually just a lurker on your blog...which I love btw...but I had a similar issue with my first. Have you tried a nipple shield. If he latches on a bottle, it might work for the breast. Then you can slowly remove it and he'll be good to go.

On keeping him awake...I agree to get him naked. Also, use a wet washcloth across his forehead, squeeze your boob while he's eating, tickle his chin, cheeks, feet, and scratch his head.

Hope this helps and do not give up. It would take my daughter an hour to get her to eat 15 min on each side...because she continually fell asleep. Til she was 3 months old. Keep it up...it will work out. Good luck.

Manda Dieter said...

Easton is seriously a beautiful baby. He looks like he is one of those famous babies in the calendar! I'm not a mom yet so I don't have any experience with that.  But I'm very glad to hear at least he's getting milk! 

jenni from the blog said...

Oh Mandy, he is just so precious!  I want to squeeze him!  GL with nursing hun, he'll get the hang of it!  I didn't nurse Brynn or Carter {long story, but short maternity leave and no place to pump at work} but will be nursing this baby, so I made sure to read through all the comments and suggestions others had!  There are some really good ones :) 

But I am, however, an expert on jealous toddlers. It's very common for them to act out, especially when you're feeding the baby.  I'm sure you're trying your hardest to spend some extra time with just you and Bennett even if it's just a few extra minutes a day playing his favorite game or reading his favorite book.  With Carter, I went up to bed with him every night while Bob had the baby and we'd cuddle just me and him like we use to before the baby came.  It's actually still something we do and we talk about his day, etc.  It's so special for both of us!

I'm curious to see how Brynn does with this baby and how it will be nursing an infant while trying to keep the other two from acting out.  I've read that buying special toys for them that they can only play with during nursing sessions works well and keeps them somewhat entertained for a bit.  It's worth a try!!

Best of luck hun and congrats again.  I know when I had #2, I totally forgot about trying to take it easy to heal myself a bit... there's just no time, lol!  I hope you can squeeze some in :)

Lea said...

Oh, he is so, so precious!  Hang in there and I bet he'll get the whole breastfeeding thing figured out.  I do hope so and glad you have the pump until then.  Enjoy these special moments!

Matthew & Jennifer McEvoy said...

Congrats on your sweet little man! He is such a beautiful baby!!! I am sorry you are having a hard time with nursing, I know how it feels to just want it to work so badly. One thing the pediatrician told me when my daughter was born was that when babies are uncomfortable, it make them want to nurse. So if he can't stay awake try to make him uncomfortable by getting him naked, tickling him, that sort of thing. He won't get too cold because he will be right up next to you. I hope he gets the hang of it! Good luck with your little boys :)

amy said...

I absolutely love those pictures.  Breastfeeding is hard, hang in there!

Bea said...

So precious! I had a hard time with my little guy too, but I did exactly as Devon suggested and my little guy got the hang of it after a couple weeks. Hang in there! He'll get used to it.

Theboynamedafteracar said...

He is just so beautiful I can't stop starring at the photos! We went though the same thing with Harper when I brought charlie home, 7 weeks on it's a lot better, I know its hard to watch but just hang in there Bennett will adjust. 

I always found a bath worked to wake up Charlie or a cold face washer on her face, undressing, nappy changes before feeding. 

Well done Mandy, he is perfect.

Katie Lady said...

Congratulations! He is so precious! I think he looks a lot like Bennett in the second picture. :) I'm sure you two will figure out the nursing thing. Good luck!

molly said...

He is so precious, Mandy. We had major issues with Landon breastfeeding. He was severely jaundiced so he wouldn't wake up to eat. I will spare you our story because it is of no help to you. But I wanted to say I am rooting for you and Easton and to keep trying even though I know it can be so difficult.

thepepperandherpups said...

He's such a handmade little guy:) Such sweet photos of him sleeping. I thankfully haven't that much of a problem with getting adrienne to bf although she did tend to fall asleep on me a lot of times when she was really little. Having to poke at him and keep him awake is the same thing I had too do. Wish I had some better advice for getting him to latch on and keep at it, but it sounds like your getting through it. Have you went to a bf class for support/answers to your questions? Or just try calling a lactation specialist to help get some insight. Hoping that things get a little easier in that department for you and your little guy, but don't sweat it even if you end up having to pump him bottles since you'll still be getting the best of both worlds (a little more time to be able to play with bennett and still give easton your own milk). & it sounds pretty normal how bennetts been adjusting to having a little sibling in the house. Will definitely be interested to see how Adrienne acts once this little guy gets here in the next two weeks, hopefully she'll transition as smoothly as a toddler can hah:)

Katie Perdue said...

Congrats!! Glad to hear you guys are doing relatively well. He is beautiful!! We had issues with latching also, and a nipple sheild saved our breastfeeding life. I could never wean him from the sheild- but he nursed like a champ with it and I am so thankful that I could breastfeed with it. Medela makes a great one- I would definitely recomment it! Good luck and hang in there!

Chelsea @The Curly Cues said...

Oh man he is so cute. I am looking forward to your post about missing Bennett, I am so nervous about this. I know it just takes time to adjust and find balance, but I can tell it is going to be really hard. 

Skye said...

Congratulations! That is so awesome and he just so adorable! I am interested in reading how your older son adapts to the new baby b/c I am due in December with my 2nd (my daughter will be 2 & 1/2 when the new baby is born!) - Great post! So happy for you and your family!! 

Anne U said...

Such sweet photos.

Cari Terbush said...

Congrats on the gorgeous baby boy!. 

About the bottle feeding. I know how that goes. My son was actually 2 months premature and I had to pump for 5 months when he FINALLY learned to latch on, then I nursed him until he was almost 2. With my daughter I had to pump for 3 months. Nursed her till she was 15 months. 

I couldn't breastfeed my youngest. 

You will make it through this! :)

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Angie M. said...

Congrats again on little Easton! Praying everything settles into place quickly...I just know it will! Hugs!

Kat said...

Oh goodness he is seriously adorable. I love the little gloves.

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