08 May 2012

Postpartum stuff.

My blog is so focused on my kids (as it should be because this is after all, a mommy/baby blog). But, I'm here too. *hi*

Not that many people talk about what it's like after you give birth, both physically and emotionally. And because I already wrote a post on the truths of pregnancy, might as well talk about postpartum stuff well, right?

As women, we have the beautiful privilege to grow & carry a baby for 9 months, and then give birth to that amazing little human. It really is such a gift and I'm so grateful to have that opportunity. 

But with this incredibly awesome experience - there are definitely a lot of "side effects" if you will.

I'm just gonna be real here.

As far as my physical recovery goes, I'm pretty much back to "normal". But there are lots of lingering post-baby nuisances, so let's talk about 'em shall we?

>>My stitches are gone I think (they dissolve after a little while). I had one tear that needed stitches and a couple small ones that didn't. The majority of the stinging is gone now. Yay! Thank goodness for witch hazel, it really did help a ton. 

>>The night sweats are pretty much over. Mama's, you know what I'm talkin' about right? After giving birth, your body is all over the place and it usually has a bit of water weight to get rid of. And for some reason it chooses to do this in the middle of the night. Nice right? Luckily, the days of waking up in clothes drenched with sweat are pretty much over! Usually only lasts 1-2 weeks, at least for me.

>>Soreness. The pelvis shifts and rotates when you birth a baby. I  mean, a little human being has to squeeze and stretch through the birthing canal so some stiffness and soreness is to be expected afterward. And dang... it's no joke. Thankfully it's about gone! I'm still achy in my back, though. Hoping I can convince the hubs to give me a few good back rubs- maybe that'll do the trick!

>>Complexion. Gahhh! Like clockwork, a week after both of my babies, I immediately broke out all over my face! I think I remember the crazy complexion issues only lasting a month or two post-bennett... so hopefully that's the case this time as well. Darn you hormones!

oh hi big fat zit in between my eyes! now get off my face! ;-)
>>Weight. Booooooo! That's all I have to say about that. Okay I lied, I have more to say. I gained 30lbs with this pregnancy. I lost 22lbs almost immediately and these last 8lbs are clinging on for dear life. I realize that I'm only about 6 weeks postpartum and I shouldn't be too hard on myself but its still annoying. I want to wear my normal jeans and clothes without being self-conscious. 

I am still wearing maternity jeans. Who knows how long I will be wearing these. At least they're kind of cute, right? And don't let this picture fool you, my tummy is still very flabby and my uterus hasn't quite gone all the way back to it's normal size... whatever that is this time around. 

okay baby weight... you can get off me, too. k?
>>Stretch marks. I got stretch marks on my tummy with Bennett. Luckily they weren't too bad. But this time? I got a few more. It's a major bummer, but in the end I guess it's not that big of a deal considering I won't be wearing any belly shirts or anything. It's more of an annoyance than anything else, but since I know I can't get rid of them... I'm just accepting them. Andplusalso, I'm throwing away all of my two piece bathing suits, finally. I've held onto them up until now. But what I'm realizing is that even if I was super skinny again and wasn't a little self conscious about my stretch marks, I still would never wear a bikini again. I'm kind of over it. Don't get me wrong, I am totally all for those hot mama's who can still rock a bikini, but I'm all about the one piece suits these days. Classy and traditional. That's what I'm about.

>>Emotionally. I'm definitely overwhelmed from time to time. Okay, truth? I'm overwhelmed a lot. I have felt a little spread thin lately, I just can't do it all. I try, but I'm realizing that this is my new normal. Overall, though, I consider myself very blessed because I think for having a 2 year old and a newborn, I'm doing fairly well. Mainly, I just feel tired. Hoping I will get into the swing of things and develop a routine. I'm still figuring this whole "mom of two" thing out.

Alright, well that's how I've been doing the last 6 weeks. And of course, I always have to end on a positive note because life is too precious, and through it all, I appreciate all of these experiences. 

So as I'm sure you expect I am going to say that it's all worth it. Yes, it is. After all, I get to snuggle this little man all day. If that doesn't make it all OK, than nothing will. 


24 comments:

Nicolette Springer said...

You look awesome! Glad to hear you are doing so well. I'm expecting my second baby any day now and this post is encouraging. I'm a little worried about being able to handle it all and get back to myself (whatever that means) as soon as possible but like you I try to stay positive and optimist. Thanks for sharing.

Olivia said...

Oh, the night sweats!!!  I had almost forgotten about those!!  You look great, mama!  Enjoy this time and take care of yourself!

Kara @ Just1Step said...

You really look good, Mandy.  I remember the night sweats, they were HORRIBLE.  I would have to get up in the middle of the night and change clothes and lay towels down to sleep the rest of the night, because I didn't want to wake Dave up by changing the sheets but my side of the bed was literally soaked in sweat.

I know life is going to get crazy overwhelming with two.  I am somewhat blessed by Krew's daycare - he'll still be going four days per week, so I'll only be by myself with both of them on Fridays and on the weekends during Dave's frisbee practices (which are every Saturday).

Don't worry about the weight.  It took me waaaaaaaaaaaay longer than six weeks to drop all my weight from Krew! I gained 38 lbs with him and it looks like I'm on the road to gain about as much this time.  You'll get back down to where you want to be, just give it time, and turn your head the other way when you see those mamas who amazingly look exactly like they did pre-pregnancy, one week after giving birth.  (I sort of think that's miraculous, personally, but I know several girls who were like that.)

Keep your head up girly, you can do it.  This too is just a phase. :)  

Skye said...

Night sweats. Oh my gosh - I forgot about that! I am laughing b/c I remember waking up thinking I was running a marathon in my sleep LOL. Yeah, the stuff we go through after is a blast (NOT!) - but you know, like you said, it's sooo worth it. Totally. 

Katie McKenzie said...

Oh girl- this post brought back some memories...five months after my little man, somethings still aren't back to normal. Lets talk about the hair loss? I mean really- its amazing I still have hair on my head. In a lot of ways, I view the postpartum experience harder than actual pregnancy or labor. Just because- it takes so long, and you are taking care of a newborn on top of feeling cruddy! Hang in there (those last few pounds will fall off once you stop breastfeeding probably). You look great!

Happiness is Eva said...

Great post -- very honest and true. Although having read this brings make so many memories, which has made me realise I'm not quite ready for #2! 

lilvicky14733117 said...

Im 4 weeks post pregnancy today and everything you said hit the nail on the head. I sweated that much in the night i got sore inbetween my boobs.. i had to talc myself! One of my stitches came undone.. o dear! My stomach and womb went back straight away but im not quite yet back in my jeans, need to hit the gym (if i ever get the time) and tone up abit before. And like you, the two peices are getting binned and im buying cut out one peices or high waisted bikinis in the future.. maybe i can rock the vintage look? x

Becca said...

How precious to have a little two-year-old and a newborn. :) I hope things settle in to a normal for you soon and that the feelings of being overwhelmed go away.

Kiara Buechler said...

You are the most beautiful mama, don't worry, the rest of us cannot tell how tired you are.  You boys are so lucky to have a mama who takes such good care of them, pouring every ounce of her energy into their well being.  xoxo.

Summer Crosbie said...

The night sweats are the worst.  Both times after my c-sections I woke up drenched I was so hot so I had Sean but on the A/C.  Then 10 minutes later I was freezing and shaking since I was so cold.  Luckily I knew what to expect the 2nd time around. And yes, only at night!

Emily said...

You're looking great! And don't fret about those lingering pounds! I gained 30 with C and was in the same boat as you. I've finally realized that they're all gone now (after doing very little) and he's 5 months. Could I have gotten them off if I tried harder? Probably. But, seriously, would I rather be working out or hanging with the kid? That's a given. Also, I hear ya on the stretch marks. My stomach was covered, and still is. At least they fade a little? 

Isha said...

The night sweats were perhaps the worst thing ever. Ugh! 

sarah d. said...

you sound like you are doing great!!  i was a mess after the birth of my daughter (who is almost a year old now) for at least 6 months....and some days i still feel off (exhaustion is to blame). 

i too am done with the bikini.   i'm all about the tankini or a cute retro one-piece now a days.  

 

Amy said...

This brings back so many memories from a few months ago! I remember the night sweats well...and the stitches. I spent the first two weeks sitting on that U-shaped pillow that was supposed to be for breastfeeding. Good times. Eli is almost six months now and I'm preeeeetty much back to normal...except for the hair loss. It seems to finally be slowing down. We girls are so lucky :)

You look awesome. And just eight pounds of pregnancy weight at six weeks PP is amazing!!

Karly Gomez said...

Oh my night sweats were the WORST for me, it was like I had jumped into a pool and then straight into bed, it was so bad! And Vivi is just a week away from being one and I still occasionally wear maternity pants, ha ha ha!

Angie said...

You are doing a great job! I can't even imagine what it would be like with 2 kids! You are a great mother!

jenni from the blog said...

Great post mama, I think you look amazing!

Emily @ PeckLife.com said...

I agree, you look great! These are all not too bad of problems to have....I'll take them any day over the "first birth" post-issues, LOL. I'm sure as time goes by it will get better and better. I hear ya on the one piece suits...! :)

amy@agoodlife said...

way to keep it real friend!  it's so funny the things you forget about... those awesome witch hazel pads & i had some sort of pain relief spray in a can that made things "down there" feel oh so much better.  oh joy. can't wait.

Michelle Parrott said...

I'm pretty sure I could have written this myself. It sounds exactly like me post-partum. Except for that whole weight loss. You are one lucky lady. Even though I know you aren't completely happy with having those last 8lb to go, I'd have LOVED that. I had about 15 that I needed to shed and on a 4'11.5'' frame - that's a LOT. I'm pregnant with our #3 and I'm just praying it comes off quickly since I'll have a 3.5yr old & 2 yr old to be chasing! lol
Now go snuggle that sweetness ;)
prayers for you during this hard time with your dad passing as well hun. 

Katie Randall Jessee said...

Love this post Mandy!  I love how real it is and how you hit all the points that I'm just starting to deal with at 1 week postpartum myself.  Keep em coming!
Baby Grace was born on May 2!  :-)

Ashleyforchelli said...

Love the honesty! Being a mother of two is SO hard. Seriously, I would never trade in my daughter or regret her at all but if I had had a real glimpse into how hard it was before I had her, I think I would have thought twice! I have no idea how people have 3 or 4 or more! Your boys are so adorable and it is all worth it but it does kick your butt every now and then. You look amazing!! 

Rachel Dillard said...

I'm a postpartum nurse and a brand new reader of your blog and I loved the honesty and truthfulness in this post...I loved reading this from the Momma's viewpoint...I know how hard some of my moms have it, and their strength and willpower just amaze me! You look incredible, btw...I know that sweet little love of yours is making all of the recovery just a little bit easier! Love, love, love your positivity. It's so necessary! Happy weekend to you...can't wait to keep reading!

mandy @ asortafairytale said...

 Thanks Rachel!!

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