26 June 2012

I am opinionated.

The internet is a strange thing. Blogging can be deceiving. I think a lot of times, we come across so much differently than we actually are. Whether we mean to or not, it just kind of happens. I try to stay pretty honest, and real here on my blog. But to my surprise, I was told by some good friends that I come across soft-spoken and shy. That came as a total shock to me because I don't consider myself to be soft-spoken at all!! In fact, I can be quite loud and opinionated.

After going back through and reading a few of my more "personal" posts, I can see why I would come across that way. It kind of makes me giggle a little that anyone would think of me this way. But what I've realized is that while I'm certainly not shy about my feelings, I am reluctant to share them & really open up about things that matter to me because I don't like to create controversy or offend anyone.

So I thought I'd better set the record straight. I don't want my blog to misrepresent who I really am.


My name is Mandy, and I'm actually very bold in the way I approach my life. I'm PASSIONATE about so many things, and I've very opinionated. I can tone it down if I want, and a lot of times I do just to avoid arguments. But don't mistake that as indifference.

I'm decisive (most of the time!), I know what I want & I know what I believe. I have direction and am not afraid to talk about it with people.

But with that said, I mostly stray away from anything that I have very strong opinions on (here on the blog, anyway), because I don't like being told that my feelings are wrong. What I feel personally, and what I believe, should never be "wrong." But unfortunately, there are people out there like that. People often times jump to conclusions about me based on some of my opinions, without really getting to know me and why I feel the way I do about things. I suppose another reason I come across this way is because I am very careful. Careful about what I put out there for other people to see. Sometimes I feel like my beliefs are so personal (and sometimes controversial), that I don't want anyone to attack them. Being vulnerable is sorta scary, ya know?
I'm not really sure where this is going anymore, ha ha. I just wanted to let me readers know that I am anything but shy and reserved.

I am very opinionated, ask anyone that knows me in person. (attn: kiara, amy, melissa, chelsea...)

But when it comes to my blog, I like to keep the worms in the can. Know what I mean?

19 comments:

JOYSLAUGHTER said...

I totally know what you mean! I only write a little bit about my feelings because I'm worried about the same things... being told I'm wrong mostly.

And I, too, thought you were shy and soft-spoken.  You seem like such an awesome sweet girl either way though and I hope that one day we can be friends in real life too. :)

I would like to encourage you to write your opinions occasionally because I would like to hear what you believe. :)

Summer Crosbie said...

Totally understand.  I try to not talk about certain things because I'm afraid of the backlash.   Not that I don't think I can't handle it, I just want to avoid it if I can.

I don't have all the answers or a perfect life, I lose my patience on a daily basis, I have zits, need to lose some weight but the pictures I chose to share might have others think otherwise. I'm also not a great writer so I tend to keep it easy and to the point.

Anyways, I get what you're saying!

Sarah [NurseLovesFarmer.com] said...

I'm like you. I'm very opinionated...but I'd just start a Mommy Wars and have pretty much no readers on my blog if I stated said opinions! My SIL and I joke that "we're the only ones who get this parenting business and we should write a book so that everyone else will learn"....and not buy it! ;) Of course it's just us being silly, but there's 1001 ways to do different things...so I don't blame you for not being "opinionated" on your blog!

ashley - the domestic wannabe said...

So totally off topic, but why is it that you can look so gorgeous in a sweatshirt and a hat?  You hot little mama you :).

I definitely get you, I'm not one to share too many opinions just because I don't like to ruffle feathers.  But I definitely have opinions.  However I'm probably not quite as decisive and confident in my beliefs as you.  Honestly I have no idea how I come across on my blog, but I think it is pretty true to life!

Courtney B said...

How funny! I never pictured you being soft spoken or indecisive with your thoughts and feelings :) I totally understand wanting to avoid controversy on the world wide web. There are some things that are just better left alone when it comes to blogging. But I think you seem like such a FUN girl and the best mama :)

Sara @ Seeing Purple Stars said...

I totally get that!! I am very careful about what i put on my blog. I am opinionated too. :)

Kiara Buechler said...

So, tell us how you feel about the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan...

Amber Gregory said...

I totally understand! I am SUPER opinionated and I also have my foot firmly lodged in my mouth about 95% of the time. I've caused a lot of trouble in my life because of my big mouth, and it sucks. I hate it! Its not like I don't have opinions, but after 15 years of being on the internet, generally I have decided to be a POSITIVE force amongst ALL the negativity and anger online. I can choose to focus my blog and my facebook/twitter posts on the positive things in my life, and that's what I do. 

This does, however, have similar unintended consequences like the ones you've been laughing about above. Just yesterday someone said that "Amber is a stripper name, not a name for a a child" and then said that I was the most "un-Amber-like" person they'd ever heard of, and that I should be named something like "Daisy" because of how I come across online. I was like, really? Are you SERIOUS? If you looked at the internet archive and found my websites and livejournal posts from 10 years ago, you'd swallow your tongue! Things I AM: wild, unabashed, opinionated, wildly emotional, mood swingy, and a lifelong tomboy. Things I am NOT: girly, feminine, shy, or sweet. This person got the totally wrong idea about me just because I choose not to contribute to the unceasing negativity and cynicism on the internet. Hilarious but also a tad worrisome. Good thing I don't know this person IRL ;)

High Heeled Life said...

LOL... great post! and I think many can relate. xo HHL

Kelsey Zander said...

I always thought that too, until Chelsey set me straight. You know what else I think it is? The colors of your blog. Seriously! I find myself subconsciously putting a lot of weight into the color and style of a person's blog when I am imagining their IRL personality. Crazy really, but true!

melissa rohr said...

hehe! i love it though, your totally strong and "opinionated" but in a attractive way. we know exactly what to expect from you and it is super refreshing! i think i am totally the same way on the blog though, i usually get what i want and LOUDLY but i try not to come off as such a jerk on the blog, haha :)

Alissa said...

Yeah, I think I know you pretty well sis. I would never call you timid or shy.  :) But I know what you mean. I am very careful what I put on my blog. Some things are really personal and I'm not willing to let people that may not really know me, chime in or hurt me. On a more annonymous blog, maybe. It's good to be who you are but know when to edit or protect yourself.  

Katie said...

Ha! Love it! Me and you must be pretty similar in personality...I am very strong minded, but most of the time would rather keep my mouth shut than cause issue and stir the pot. The less controversy in my life means the less stress in my life- and I like it that way. So, though I may be opinionated, I'm pretty silent about it. :) Love your blog and love seeing those sweet boys!

Brandi Alfonso said...

In the blog world I think it is hard to try to describe yourself and someone who doesn't know you at all to understand. But we can use our imaginations and hope we get it right. Especially with typing we can only do our best to elaborate the way we would say something.

Totally understand! :)

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Chelsea @The Curly Cues said...

It's true people! Don't be fooled! :) I love that you are opinionated. I also love that even though we agree on certain things and disagree on others we know that it doesn't make either of our opinions less valid. Hooray for smart women with minds (and mouths) of their own!

Mindi @ Simply Stavish said...

Great post!  It is very hard to know what someone is like personality wise just from reading their blog.  I am actually opposite of this.  Outspoken with lots to say on the internet but shy IRL.  Well, shy at first and in large groups.  Once I get to know someone then all bets are off. :)  Like the changes in our layout!!  It looks great!

nekozawa said...

I love you (that might come a little strong) but I really love your blog, it is the different believes that make people who they are and very interesting at that. It is the respect that others show and that that person shows to others believes as well. Each individual is entitled to their own believes, as well as to be respected for them. :) I really enjoy reading your blog, and the differences that we have help me see the in between as well. Life become richer with different view to make the world go round.

sarah said...

You go girl! We all need to speak our minds. It's so important to our inner health. And relationships! No one wants to be with someone who just holds it in for so long! 

JoAnn said...

Blogging is really hard...it's like you suddenly become a 'famous persona' at times and often you also don't want to contradict your "image." I wonder if Lady Gaga ever just wants to go to the grocery store in sweats. I feel the same way when I blog...gotta maintain my image! Good luck to you in maintaining the REAL YOU!