18 July 2012

Trouble with the transition.

Bennett is 2 1/2 years old this month and he's still in his crib. It's not a bad thing at all, I would leave him in his crib until he was 5 if I could. It's just the thing is, his brother needs it. When I was pregnant with Easton, I decided that I didn't want to buy another crib. I planned to transition Bennett into his toddler bed when Easton was born and then move the crib to the babies nursery. Easy peasy.

Well East is nearing 4 months old and is still sleeping in our room. Don't get me wrong, I love having him in our room. He sleeps in his cozy little cradle at the foot of our bed and it's comforting to have him so close by. Makes it easy for middle of the night/early morning feedings, should they occur.

But... my husband is hounding me to get East out of our room. It was a struggle to let go of Bennett when he was a baby, too. I even looked up this post in my archives where I talk about how difficult it was to move him to his own room when he was 5 months old. (Yah, he slept in our room for 5 months even though his room was totally set up from the day he got home from the hospital! lol)

Sheesh. It doesn't get any easier does it?

The silly part is that not only am I having a hard time letting Easton go to his own room. But I'm having a hard time transitioning Bennett to his toddler bed. It's like... as soon as he's officially done with his crib - he's not a baby anymore. I mean, I know he hasn't been a baby for a while, but you know what I mean. I am not ready to tuck him into a "big boy" bed yet. It all goes back to the bittersweet-ness of it all, doesn't it?

I can only put it off for so long, little brother needs the crib and I have to face it -- Bennett is growing up. Waaaaaaaa!

I suppose I will just need to do it and get it over with. We've had the toddler bed in his room now for months... just sitting there waiting to be used. Bennett plays on it all of the time.

I wonder how he'll do with the transition? Bennett totally loves his crib. He's only gotten out once and he fell and hit his face on a toy... yah that was the last time he climbed out. I wonder if he'll miss it?





21 comments:

Ashley Paige said...

Oh, Mama. I feel you on so many levels. Have you thought about transitioning B to a larger bed? Carter is in a twin and I will say, the big boy bed snuggles are incredible. it definitely help ME transition him from the crib. As for the baby? Oh, honey. I've been co-sleeping with Mac in the GUEST ROOM for four weeks. I can't even bring myself to put him in the bassinet in OUR room. Let alone a crib. Carter slept in the bassinet until five months too. I swore I wouldn't do that this time around. Jokes on me, huh? ;) You're not alone.

Nikki said...

I bet he'll love it!  A new big boy bed all for himself.  Plus he gets to learn to share with his new baby brother.  Do it when you're ready, what's the rush?  Love Bennett's hair like that, so cute!  I'm going to have to remember the buzz cut because most parents never want to cut their kids hair and then they look like hippies ;)  Although sometimes that's cute too!

Ruthy T. said...

love these pics mandy...he's so cute! good luck with the transition!

Ariel @ Dreams To Do said...

It's ok, Landon totally slept in a pack n play in our room until he was 6 months old - and there was a perfectly good, EMPTY, crib waiting for him! Our issue was that Leila and him have to share a room, so that transition scared me. It all worked out though. We transitioned Leila to a big girl bed right around the time she turned 2 - so a few months before Landon arrived. She loved it! The only tricky part was getting her to stay in her bed those first few nights. I think we tucked her in at least 5 times on night #1. You can do it girl! Good luck!

Sara @ Seeing Purple Stars said...

it's so hard to let our kiddos grow up. My youngest was in our room for 5 months. :)

Sarah [NurseLovesFarmer.com] said...

I just love love LOVE that last picture! So toddler-esque! I feel you. I'm a newborn-mommy that need the baby in his/her own room because I don't sleep otherwise, but I feel you on the toddler/big bed. I'm not usually a suck...but I cried my eyes out when I knew it was Braden's last night in his crib and that we'd put him in his toddler bed the next day due to climbing out of his crib all night. I think the hardest part was letting go of my "baby" as you say. I hadn't viewed him as a baby for a really long time, but that was "it" it was letting go of my baby. Plus, it was on his terms, moving into the bed, not mine! Good luck, mama!

Courtney K said...

We had a hard time moving Noah from his crib to a big boy bed, too. For the same reasons you mentioned above. In his crib, he would stay put. He didn't climb out. We could control when he went to bed his and when he got up. The big boy bed is different. We never even bothered with a toddler bed and went straight to a twin (we ran up on a GREAT deal for a twin bed and frame that we couldn't turn down). It took some adjusting and it's definitely harder when they can get up and down without help. But Noah loves the extra bit of freedom and it's one of those things that's really amping up his "Big Brother" role around the house. Good luck! :) 

Sarah Ann said...

I can't even imagine how tough moving him from the crib will be! Agh! You have my sympathies!

Love, Chelsea said...

Good luck Mama! We are putting this transition off as long as possible, but we got a free second crib so I can't complain! I love that last pic, he is so mischievous!

Kristin said...

transition is never really fun, but once they learn to love their big bed it is so much fun. I hope it goes smoothly for you... we will be doing this with our third in just a couple months! love these pics by the way!! the last one is just great!

molly said...

We had to transition for the same reason. Although I was dreading it because man, it's hard to see our kids grow up . . . it actually went very well. Landon really liked feeling like a big boy and I was so very proud to see him in it!

Michelle K said...

My little man is almost 3 and we've recently made the big boy bed transistion. He took to the change just fine, he picked out a Fireman Sam quilt cover and has never hopped back out once he's in bed :) I on the other hand have had a hard time letting go and his crib is sitting in the lounge room, collecting dust because once I get rid of it I will officially have two "big kids" and no more babies, lol!
I love that last picture, so adorable!

Janietilly said...

Tough, tough, tough stuff!! We transitioned our son, Alex (then 2 1/2) for the same reason. New baby was coming, the time was right, it seemed the 'thing' to do. He was fine. Actually, he was so excited about the novelty of being in his room, but not being contained by the crib, he played quietly for hours before we even knew he was awake. For a couple weeks!! It.Was.Awesome. Bennett will do great and adapt much easier than you will (emotion wise, anyway....just like me!) And the question remains; when WON'T they be our babies??? Never? Hey, we grew them in our organs, so we have the right to call them our baby and embarrass them to our hearts content. It's our payback for stretch marks and sleepless nights. :)

Amber said...

It's so hard to know if they will miss it.  Every child is so different, but I think it's great that you have had his toddler bed in his room for a long time.  Does he ever ask to sleep on it?  I got Bennett some new sheets.  When he saw them he couldn't stop talking about sleeping in his big boy bed.  He loves it and honestly it has been nice to crawl in bed with him during bedtime to tell stories, sing, LAUGH, etc.

zookeeperjess said...

Aww, he is so cute!! My oldest was a crib baby. Wouldn't sleep anywhere but her crib so the transition scared me. She did amazing though! No problems at all! Good luck, mama. I know how bittersweet it is. My youngest is 2 1/2 and she transitioned from toddler bed into bottom bunk bed a few months ago. She is doing so much and it just makes me sad because she IS the baby!

Kiara Buechler said...

I hope my pack n' play idea works out. I would definitely want to squeeze every last night out of my toddler in the crib that I could!

laurenalb said...

its such a hard transition! but its fun too :) new stages are exciting! embrace it. 


I havent been on the actual site in forever not sure when you redid the top but i really like it! and i love you! 
sincerely, 
the girl who reads every post and never comments 

Summer Crosbie said...

It's a hard one!  We actually transitioned Hudson to his toddler bed before the baby came.  That way (we hoped) he didn't feel like the baby was taking his space. We were lucky though.  He never got out of his toddler bed for over 3 months on his own.  It was like he still thought we needed to come get him out.

I know that doesn't really help but it is something you just have to do.  I hope he likes it!

Mrsswaddle said...

At 2yrs, does it become a safety concern with him in the crib? From one of the picture it looks like he can crawl out.

Alicia said...

It is so hard to see them grow up! We had Simon's toddler bed set up in his room for a while before we transitioned him. I wanted to do a "gradual" transition. Start with a nap here and there just so he could get used to it. (That was how we transitioned him out of our room and into the nursery when he was a few months old.) But, after that first nap, he loved it and didn't want to go back into his crib at all! For us, the transition was much harder on mama than on the little one. I'm pretty sure I shed a few tears.

MalloryMusing said...

I've been meaning to comment on this but I read it for the first time on my phone and well it's no fun writing a long comment with a tiny keyboard. We moved my daughter(She turned two on 3/8) to a toddler bed almost 2 months ago. Like you I wanted to use the crib for our new baby who is arriving the 1st week of September (maybe a little sooner- keep your fingers crossed for me). I had written about being worried about the transition on my blog and someone gave me the advice of putting her big girl bed in her room with her and her crib and kind of making it out to be a cool thing. Playing on it, talking about it, you know. Sure enough within a week of us putting it in her room she asked to sleep in her big girl bed during nap time. She got out twice but went back in without a problem. She hasn't been back in the crib since. I think there were one or two other times where she got out but that's it. I think it helps that she never got out of her crib. She is tall- 37" so I knew she could, I guess she just didn't want to. I was shocked about how easy it was. While she was an amazing baby, she is a bit of a troublesome toddler. Don't even get me started on potty training- I have been working on that for over 6 months and she is still in diapers with no sign of giving them up. She also still refuses to nap or sleep without a binkie, so yeah she isn't the easiest child. I say just give it a shot- he might surprise you.