Back in February, when I was still pregnant with Easton, I had a whole buncha concerns about having two kids and sharing my time. How would Bennett adapt as a big brother? How would my husband adapt? How much would my life change with two kids? Well, as a result of that post, I had some pretty amazing feedback from my awesome readers. The theme of the comments I received was "don't worry, you will figure it all out and life with 2 kids will become your new normal" and "you will adapt, it get's easier, I promise!"
I swear that from the time I got home with my new baby, up until only about a month ago - I was going to write a response post all about how y'all were talking crazy, cause things were NOT easier, even after 3 months. There were times that I felt like my head was going to explode. I mean - a 2 y/o, a tiny baby and trying to run my business is all a little bit overwhelming sometimes.
I'm here to say that now that Easton is 4 months and Bennett has realized he's here to stay - things have gotten easier. I'm not sure when EXACTLY it happened, but we've settled in to a new routine and life with two kids is definitely "normal" now. Bennett loves his little brother and doesn't seem to have any resentment toward him at all (anymore!). He is so so sweet with him, it just melts my heart.
I'm not trying to say that it's all smelling like roses all of the time, life is definitely busier and sometimes I still wanna poke my eyeballs out (okay that's dramatic). But through all of it... yes, it is easier than it was when I first got home with my itty bitty and felt like life as I knew it was completely OVER.
I don't have all the answers and sometimes I feel like I'm still a bit in over my head, but for the mama's out there with one kid, and expecting their 2nd, your concerns are VALID!!! It's completely normal to feel like you're not sure how you're going to share your time or adapt with the new baby. It's a natural thing to wonder if your oldest will resent the baby, or resent you as their Mother. I was so scared of that. Believe me, those are all normal thoughts and yes it's completely hard, but you will get through it.
And for the new moms of 2 littles just struggling to get through all of the toddler tantrums, middle of the night nursing sessions, and complete and utter exhaustion- IT DOES GET EASIER!... I promise! After a few short months, you will hardly remember what life was like with just one!! And? You will have moments like these ones, to get you through the bad days. :)