*please proceed with caution... this will be a slight rant. i'm in some kind of a mood so you'll have to excuse the tone. i'm trying my best not to filter. keeping it real.*
I've noticed that there is a lot of judgement rolling around the Mamasphere lately. Not just judgement, but a lot of lecture-style posts (on FB, twitter, IG... etc). I'm all for giving advise and suggestions, in fact, I love that the blogging community and Facebook are such great resources to reach out other parents for advise.
But with that said. And that's a big BUT --
We need to be careful of how we're giving advise. Especially if it's not asked for. It's important to be respectful of people when we're sharing information. And it's super important that we are not judging other's for their parenting decisions or making anyone feel guilty. Sometimes even though we have good intentions, it can come across a bit harsh and judgmental.
Okay back to what I was saying.
There is a lot of pressure out there to do things a certain way. As well as a lot of trends that people follow. The thing is, not all things that apply to one person and their family, will apply to me. Or you.
What exactly am I talking about? I bet you're wondering. Here are a some hot button topics, to name only a few:
Co-sleeping. We've been warned this isn't safe for baby. But this is one of those things that you need to be responsible about and if you are, I think it's okay. I have been known to co-sleep at times. There are a lot of benefits to it, so let's be considerate to those that choose to do this.
The baby bjorn. All of the sudden, they're "bad" for the baby... hard on their hips? I guess I could see that. However, if you are using it on occasion... I think it's fine. I have the Ergo and I love but, but occasionally we use a baby bjorn because East likes to face out when he's being carried. I happened to post a picture of him in the Bjorn and within minutes I got a comment about how I shouldn't be using the Bjorn. Come on!
Rear facing until 2 years old+. Not a law but a very very strong suggestion. While I totally agree it's awesome to keep your kid rear facing in the car as long as possible... let's remember that just because someone turns their child around before 2, doesn't mean they don't care about their child's safety. Ease up a little.
Breastfeeding. I am a huge advocate of breastfeeding. I did it with both of my kids and I feel that everyone should at least give it a shot. But I do understand that it won't work for everyone. In the words of Mandy (at Harper's Happenings)... "let's just feed them, shall we?"
Cloth Diapering. This is becoming more and more popular these days. I mean, I even jumped on that train. But if I'm being honest it's not because I'm trying to be more "green". It's because I want to save money. The fact that it's better for the environment is just a bonus. But you know what? I totally get why people wouldn't wanna do this. I don't care how you diaper your kid. If it holds in the pee and pooh, we're all good.
Sleep training. I mentioned the words "sleep training" on my facebook page a few months ago and you wouldn't believe the comments I got about it. They weren't pretty. The silly thing was I didn't even get into a discussion about what sleep training methods I was using, people just wigged out. I won't go into this that much, but I will say this-- babies need to be trained to do basically everything in life. Eat, Crawl, Walk, Talk, Count to 10, Ride a bike... and yes, they need to learn how to put themselves to sleep. It seems to natural, but it's a hard thing for babies to do. So.... anyway, if you sleep train, cool. If not, cool. But please don't freak out on people that choose to do this.
I'm sure we all have opinions about every single one of these topics (and many more!)... But the bottom line is that whether you agree with other Mom's methods of raising their children or not, every persons situation is unique. We need to be respectful of other people's decisions and lifestyle. We're all guilty of judging others, to an extent. But lately, I feel like it's a little bit extreme.
As Mothers, I think we can agree that we all have maternal instinct when it comes to our kids. WE are the only ones that knows what is right for our children and our lives. Being a parent is hard enough as it is, we don't need anyone else criticizing or judging us for the decisions we are making. As Mothers, let's stick together, and let's be kind.