28 November 2012

Kick the crib to the curb.

I've been putting it off for way too long, transitioning Bennett to his "big boy bed".  There were so many reasons NOT to move him out of his crib. So I didn't. But I think the major reason I haven't done it is because I was hanging on to him as my "baby".

But look at this kid. He is certainly not a baby anymore. He's a little kid. A kid that needs me to start treating him more like a small kid, and less like a baby.
We actually started moving him over to his toddler bed a couple of months ago, after I wrote this post. And the first couple of nights, he did really well. He slept in his bed all night and didn't give us too much trouble. But then, after night 2 or 3, he started getting out of bed constantly and coming out of his room. It became like a game to him. He'd open is door and make some noise, and then wait for us to walk down the hall, and then SLAM, he'd close his door. It was a battle to get him to stay in his room, and I definitely didn't want to resort to locking him in.

So... back in his crib he went.

Fast forward a month or two, which brings us to a couple of weeks ago. We decided we'd give the bed another shot. And I'm not sure what has changed, but something clicked and it's been much easier this time. He doesn't always stay in bed, and in fact, if he's out of bed and he hears us coming -- he makes every effort to run and get back in bed before we open the door. I much prefer this tactic, than him playing games and slamming doors when baby brother is sleeping next door to him. :-) Bennett has only come out of his room once. Last week, Philip and I were downstairs painting after the kids went to bed, and then all of the sudden we hear the pitter-patter of little feet and then out pops Bennett from around the corner with a shocked look on his face. I don't think he expected to find the family room rearranged and us painting the wall a different color. But he happily went back upstairs and went to sleep.

Oh and naps? I thought he'd give up his naps when we moved him to his bed. But nope. He naps like a champ in his bed. Not every day, but most days! It's been wonderful.


 I think the lesson that I've learned this this transition, is that I shouldn't push anything onto my kids. As much as I wasn't ready to move Bennett over to his bed, I don't think he was ready either. It was clear that the first attempt we made, it just wasn't going to happen. Sometimes kids just need a little more time. And that's okay. We just need to take it one step at a time, and pay attention to our children's queues. They will let us know when they're ready for the next step -- whatever the situation is. I'm thankful for my little man for teaching me this lesson!

Oh and now? Easton can finally stop sleeping in the pack n' play. Ha ha.

Next up? Potty training. Aye yi yi.

14 comments:

Tara said...

I can't believe how big Bennett is getting! Such a big boy! :) can't wait to hear the adventures if potty training!

Amy said...

So we have the potty training down, but my son (who is 3) is still in a crib, and I think as long as he is happy there we are happy there.

I know we should start the move soon though.

Kiara Buechler said...

I will never forget the moment when Dane appeared at the bottom of our stairs for the first time after getting out of bed a few weeks after we transitioned him. The sweet look on his face made us laugh. Now, it's not so funny. Alas, our boys are growing up, next thing we know they will be shaving :-(

Molly said...

I'm glad it's going well this time! Brigham is 2 1/2 and I know it's time but I have the same problem. I think of him as my "baby" and I don't want to let go of that darn crib! I don't have another baby to put into it! SOB.

But it's time. We're going to tackle potty training after we switch him to a bed.

Jess Craig said...

you're probably right. but it seems like you guys got it figured out now. i don't blame you for sticking him back in his crib! i'd do the same thing!

Sarah [NurseLovesFarmer.com] said...

I hear you on the big boy bed. I needed to do it before baby #2 was born, but Braden decided he needed it done way faster than I wanted shortly after he turned 2 and started jumping out! That was the hardest thing on me, because as you say, it was the last thing that really made him a "baby". Even potty training was easier than getting rid of his crib. I cried big mama tears his last night in his crib!

Laura said...

We planned to switch Ethan to his big boy bed shortly after we switched him to his big boy room...just to get the transitioning all over with BEFORE Gabe comes in March, and have time to deal with any issues in that frame. BUT. We still haven't done the big boy bed. Partially because it's at the VERY back of our storage unit, and partially because I'm fearing just that: him getting out of bed constantly, maybe not napping, etc. But there comes a day we just have to try...right? Maybe next week. ;) I'm glad he's doing well with it this time. What a relief, I'm sure!

Karli @ The Bonnie 5 said...

Mandy your boys are just precious! I have you in my feed and I don't miss a single one of your posts... i'm just awful at commenting. It was so great to hear from you! :-) And potty training??? Eeekkk!!! Best wishes to ya! xo (and hope you guys are all feeling better!)

Love, Chelsea said...

Thanks for doing everything I need to do before me so I can ask you questions ;)

The Best of Both Worlds said...

That's awesome! Way to go B! I often go crazy when my kids get up n out of bed over and over! I completely agree with the waiting until there ready! I'm happy to have put potty training aside for now. She'll do it when it's her time!

Manda said...

He is so adorable his smile !
I am glad everything seems to be working out for you and he's in a big boy bed!

The girls said...

Oh, what a big boy! Practically grown up & still just the cutest. This post gives me hope. My girl is 3.25 and we just set up her 'big girl bed.' She was perfectly happy in her crib until last month; then she showed signs of being cramped and climbed out for the first time. Crap. I'm hoping her transition goes as smoothly as Bennett's.

AudreyN said...

We are struggling with moving our 2 almost 3 year old to a bed. I don't feel ready to give it up, but then I feel like I am holding him back. Pretty soon we will move him. And start potty training!

Katie @ Loves of Life said...

We have had such an easy time with transitions IF we let our daughter lead. When she seemed ready'ish for the big-girl bed...we went for it. She did awesome and didn't look back. Same for potty training. It really has proven when you let them lead on (most) things it really helps with transitioning ;) Good luck with potty training!