16 January 2013

Relax

I'm kinda behind on this post, because well, life is busy. I actually started this about 2 weeks ago, and just finished it. #momlife

I don't make New Years resolutions, never have. But I do however, try to come up with small goals and things to strive for. As 2012 was coming to a close, I spent time reflecting back and I realized something about myself. I have an incredible need to be in control all of the time. And it makes me a little nuts. Why? Because having control all of the time with an (almost) three year old and a 9 month old is nearly impossible. Ya know what I'm sayin'?

Its just that throughout the day, I always feel like I need to be doing something. Or preventing something from happening. Stopping massive messes from occuring, keeping the kids clean, finishing a project, excessively picking up & vacuuming, stopping the toddler from climbing and killing himself, keeping the baby out of the kitchen drawers...etc. And when I am unsuccessful and Bennett spills milk all over the floor and has a meltdown, and the baby shoves a whole wad of toilet paper in his mouth and starts choking, I admit, I get flustered and irritated. I mean, I realize that I cant be in two places at once, and its impossible to have all of my bases covered, but somehow I always feel like I can, and should, prevent these little mishaps. And it drives me up the wall when I don't. Anyone else feel like that?

It's quite silly, right? Obviously these things happen, I'm a Mom. I have two little boys at home.

So. For the sake of my own sanity, I've decided on my "word" for twenty thirteen.

RELAX. 

It's really hard for me to do that......relax. But I'm getting better. I'm slowly teaching myself to just breath a little more often, and let things go. It seems that so many of you are supermoms, with clean houses, always have a yummy meal that you're preparing, and your kids are always well dressed. That is definitely not the case over at the Chiappini household. I admit defeat. I cannot do it all. I fact, I just put a decal on the wall in my kitchen that says "Good Moms have sticky floors, laundry piles, dirty ovens and Happy Kids". I got it to remind myself that it's okay to just BE sometimes. To remind myself to relax and just accept that I can't be in control of everything. It's OK to have messy kitchen counters, and it's OK if my laundry sits in the bin for weeks at a time. You'd think that by now, I would have already had this epiphany, but, I guess I'm a little slow. ;-) 

So my hope is that this year, I will chill out a little. Take things in stride and enjoy my little kids while they little.


14 comments:

Ashley | LifeAsAshlet.com said...

We'd all do better to relax a little now and then. :) Good luck!!

ruthy ann said...

My word for the year is peace...for all the same reasons!

dany said...

yup! I hear ya! I worked in a toddler room at a daycare for five years and that helped me relax with the craziness of kids, BUT there is so much more pressure (I feel) when it's MY house and MY kid going nuts, it can be a little overwhelming. but you're right, I'd rather have a happy kid with lots of memories of mom playing with her than a spotless house. :)

Anne U @ hot coffee mama said...

It's good to know I'm not the only one with a messy house and clean laundry still in the basket (it's better than dirty laundry, there's way too much of that too).

Amber and Scott said...

I'm not a mom but I relate to this VERY much!!!! I am a total control freak about my house these days and it's driving my husband insane ... I need to relax a bit too.

Valerie said...

Wow, this is something that I am trying to work on as well and I only have one kid(1). Its so hard to just let things BE for me. My biggest thing right now is trying to get way more organized, hoping it will help me relax a bit and enjoy my son growing way to fast.

Aliya said...

Thank you for this. Because I have literally run myself sick the last few weeks trying to "do it all" - be the best mom, wife, maid, cook, friend, daughter, blogger AND keep up with my business all while feverishly applying to jobs... It's exhausting. And this post just justified my sitting down (ok, laying in bed, lets be honest) at 11:30 for 30 mins once both babies fell asleep... Piles of laundry that needs to be folded around me. Thank you.

tolondonwithlove said...

Mandy, this is a must read for you.

http://www.pregnantchicken.com/pregnant-chicken-blog/?category=truth

I recently sent it to all my favourite moms.

Seriously. We feel this way sometimes, but we're all doing ok.

xo

Karen Bettencourt said...

I totally agree. My boys are 3yrs old and 3 months old and I've accepted that my living room will always be a mess before dinner (I recently convinced my son no dinner til his toys were picked up and so far so good), there will always be dishes and laundry that pile up, but at least they're happy boys.

Jeska said...

Amen! Easier said than done unfortunately. I used to be the biggest neat freak. When Addison started moving I had to let a lot of that go, toughest adaptation EVER! :)

Tara said...

This is great! And I think so important for moms to remember! Kids grow up so quickly and if all we worry about is how clean our house is or how awesome our meal is, etc we will miss some awesome moments with the kiddos!

skye fillmore said...

My daughter will be 3 in May when our son is due - I think I better use the "RELAX" word now b/c I am stressing about it big time.... :)

Courtney K. said...

I sure hope you don't get that Supermom vibe from me. ;) We stay in pj's most days and our laundry is never put away. Great word!

Laura said...

Yes, I often find myself getting angry that I wasn't somehow in control of all events and the kids did something naughty. It's ridiculous!! Anyway, I love your word and I'm trying to do the same. *fist bump* :)