02 January 2013

That time we tried to potty-train The Toddler.

About 6 months ago, I briefly entertained the idea of potty training, I felt a lot of pressure like that's what I should be doing. But we decided to wait and just go with the flow. And I'm glad we waited.

Well with Bennett's 3rd birthday right around the corner, my Husband I thought maybe we'd dip our feet in the water and try potty training. Okay, more like just jump in head first. Where you let them just run around in their undies and pee all over themselves and the floor, taking them to the potty every 10-15 minutes until they "get it".

I went out and bought all of the essentials. A stock pile of underwear, carpet cleaner, and little cookies for "rewards". Saturday morning, when Bennett woke up, we took of the diaper and that was that. We put his big boy underwear on and locked him in the back half of the house. The first 3 times he peed, he was on the carpet and hardly even noticed he was peeing. He didn't have much of a reaction at all, seemed kind of indifferent that he had pee all over his legs. But we'd take him directly to the potty and explain to him that we pee pee in the potty... etc. He was perfectly willing to sit on the toilet and didn't put up a fight at all.
The 4th time he peed, it was on the hardwood (thankfully) and he got really upset that he had peed. Of course, we told him it was okay and we would clean it up, but first we had to go to the potty. After 7 different accidents, he had still never once gone pee on the potty.

By mid-day, it was nap time. We put a diaper on him for his nap.

The second half of the day was actually a little better. I could drag this out and give you every little detail but I will make a long story short. He actually did go pooh in the potty, as well as peed in it a couple of times, and was showing that he had bladder control by stopping midway through his pee. We celebrated a lot and gave him his rewards, and he seemed thoroughly impressed and proud of himself for his accomplishments.

When we went to bed, we felt hopeful that maybe he really was ready.

We wake up Sunday morning, and he wants NOTHING to do with the potty. Nothing. He would throw a fit every time we'd take him into the bathroom. Halfway through the day, it was obvious that he was just not having it anymore.

So we quit.

I will admit, we were a little bummed out. We kinda felt like failures. But the last thing I wanted was for him to resent the potty, or us. I have read and heard that if a toddler starts fighting you about sitting on the potty, that it can just prolong everything. Definitely don't want that.

Do I wish our efforts would have paid off a little more? Yes. But I'm actually okay with it. I will continue to build off of this foundation, I'll take him to the potty here and there and see if he shows more interest. But I have decided that I will not stress out about it, and I refuse to push him into something he's not ready for. Bennett will potty train when he's ready and I'll be there cheering him on.

Until next time little dude...


14 comments:

Sarah [NurseLovesFarmer.com] said...

Good luck in your potty training methods, whichever you choose. I did want to clarify to your readers though that the real 3 day method does not involve taking them to the toilet every 10-15 minutes. It involves teaching them to learn their own cues for going to the potty.

You can read my experiences here if you'd like.

Good luck!

dany said...

I am not really looking forward to this process. thanks for sharing your experiences with it. I used to work at a daycare in a room with toddlers & we would always ask if each child wanted to try the potty each time we went in the bathroom to change diapers. we never pushed it, just asked. eventually, each child would just start using it more. sometimes they'd regress again and we'd not make that a big deal either. they'd start up again when they were ready. and every kid was using the potty on the regular by the time they moved up to the next room (or shortly after). just wanted to share that and say I agree with your approach to lay off for a bit.
as always, thanks for sharing your experiences with everyone. :)
best,
dany

jen said...

ugh, potty training was my least favorite parent task so far. we did it about 4 months before our daughter turned 3. it was basically a fight against her will for the first 4 days. i took her screaming to the potty plenty of times but she finally realized this was her new life :) i bought some cheap dollar toys and put them in a bag and every time she went potty she got to pick something out of the bag. that helped motivate her. it took about 5 days before she actually started telling me she had to go but once she did she's been great ever since. i'm already dreading it with our 1 yr old and the one i'm pregnant with though. good luck!

Laura @ The Everyday Joys said...

Ack - I'm sorry, lady. I'm all about "wait until they're ready," but every time Ethan goes on the potty, I feel like he's ready...and then he throws a fit the next time we try. There's no method to our madness...I think we just get lucky the rare times we ask him. It's hard to not get discouraged, especially after a day like that. Thankfully, he really WON'T be in diapers forever! Has to happen eventually! :)

Amanda Maddox said...

My older kids were very hard to potty train. They are both so stubborn and had to do it on their own time. {Both were over 3 years old when it finally "clicked" for them.} My youngest potty trained himself at 2 and a half because he watched his older siblings. So, hopefully it will be easier with Easton! ;)

Hang in there......

Molly said...

I am right there with you, mama. Potty training Landon was easy. But Brigham? Not so much. He's just more stubborn :) We're going to try again in Feb.

Holly Sosa said...

We are giving it another go now, too.

They look so stinking cute in bog boy underwear! Hahaha!

Meagan said...

Ugh, potty training is the worst! We took it really, really slowly letting Andrew lead the way. I started with just poop first switching him to pull-ups. After a month or two of that we moved on to underwear and pee. It seems kind of backwards, but it worked for us! I know you'll figure out what's best for you and Bennett. Good luck!

Courtney K. said...

I hate potty training. Hate, hate, hate it. Noah potty trained early before he ever even turned two...and then, for one reason or another fell back into NOT going potty. So I wouldn't push it. If I've learned anything with Noah it's that they will go when they get ready. And forcing it, only makes it worse. Good luck, mama! And remember...he won't wear diapers forever. Sooner or later, he WILL get it. :)

The Best of Both Worlds said...

Potty training is rough! We still have pooping issues with our son who's 5! I feel so bad for pursuing the potty with Chloe and then her ending up in the hospital with uti. I think your doing the best thing by not forcing it and letting it just come when he's ready! They can be so excited in the beginning to do/try something new but it's not always fun anymore after the first few try's or day! He will defiantly get it when he's ready! I'm hoping to try again after Chloe's turns 3!

Brooke O'Neill said...

Have you ever read Potty Training Boys the Easy Way? My son is 2.5 and I was beating my head against the wall till that book. Super easy read and it worked for us! Good luck- i know it can be frustrating!

annie leavitt said...

we had a horrible experience potty training our first child, and i am now a anti-potty training mom!

i don't potty train...at all.

#2 and #3 both decided they wanted underwear at 3yrs and 3 mos and 3 yrs old. and they did it in a day, and i never had to scrub poo or pee out of carpet for 8 months. i don't know why there is so much social pressure to train, it doesn't seem fair to the parents or the kids!

Tabitha said...

Wait till it's his idea!! It was my sons idea to use the potty a month after he turned 3 and he didn't even want a pull up at night and he did so well only a few accidents at night every once in a while. I've told a few friends to do the same thing and turns out shortly after their 3rd birthdays they potty train themselves. And remember boys are usually slower than girls at potty training.

Mrs. Mama said...

I came running to this post looking for what. Mama, girl we are in the same boat. A little different experience, but the same conclusion.. she's just not ready.

It's probably one of the most stressful parts of motherhood. Definitely.