18 March 2013

A perfect love.

Something I've been thinking about a lot lately as I've been trying harder to be the "perfect" Mom, is that there is no such thing.

I love my children with all of my heart & soul. I give them everything I can, and I try to always put them first. But the truth is that no matter how hard I try to be in two places at once, or multi-task, or always be calm and patient when my toddler is throwing a tantrum, or the baby is having a meltdown, I am never perfect.

I will never be good at preparing perfectly healthy meals all of the time, or keeping my kids from getting sick or hurt. I don't have all the right solutions to help my son with his speech delay, or the perfect creative ideas to keep him attentive to learning activities. I don't have the perfect understanding of what it must be like to be a helpless baby, teething, that only wants his mama... and whines and cries until he's in my arms. I'm not perfect in the way that I handle an angry child, or a frustrated baby.

I think that in life, we can let all of our imprefections as parents, as Mothers, to create insecurities. There will always be questions we're asking ourselves. "Am I doing the right thing?", "Am I raising my children up right?" This can really shake our confidence, you know? I hate feeling like I don't know how to handle a situation perfectly. There's a lot of pressure out there, isn't there?


As Mothers, I think we tend to carry around a lot of guilt. With all of these contradictory parenting methods in society today, and all of the social media pressure, and judgmental people... it's hard to just BE a Mother, isn't it??

But here's what I have learned.

I am not a perfect Mother, but the love I have for my kids -- is perfect.

It's true what they say, love has no limits. Our hearts can grow & grow, and right when we think we have no more room, it grows some more. So even though we won't always make the perfect choices, or be "perfect" Mothers, in the end, the perfect love that we have for our kids, will be enough. And the decisions that we make for our kids, will always come from a good place. I have learned to accept my failures as a Mother, forgive myself, and then move on. I trust in the perfect love I have for my boys. I know it's enough.

{because i have to have a picture}

17 comments:

dany said...

great post! I agree. I "fail" a lot, as a mom, but I figure as long as our kids feel they are loved, we are doing pretty darn good! :)

Liz said...

Ahh so true. We aren't perfect but our love for them sure is. :)

Rachel said...

I've been following your blog for a little over a year now and I don't know how many times I have read one of your posts and thought "how did she know how I was feeling?!". So, thank you for helping me to realize that my feelings are normal :)

Sarah [NurseLovesFarmer.com] said...

So eloquently put, Mandy! I've struggled with this a lot lately and it helps me so much to put my faith that God is helping me to raise my boys "perfectly". I trust in His plan and just pray that I'm doing right by Him!

Jess Burrell - Save Your Fork There's Pie said...

I think I nodded my head throughout this whole post. It's so true. Being a mom is damn hard but there's something to be said for caring so much, that right there is a sign of a great mother. Thanks for posting this! You've inspired me to write my own.

Amy said...

Agreed! I have a lot of mommy guilt.. thinking I am never doing enough for my kids and its hard. Happy to hear I'm not the only one!

Susi K (BocaFrau) said...

Perfectly beautiful. That is what this post is. Loved reading that and nodding along! :)

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Kat said...

an absolutely beautiful post and so true

Laura said...

SUCH a beautiful photo. :)

Courtney B said...

Oh how I love this post! I do feel like this love I have for Mia is insanely perfect.. and never ending (duh) but I know that I will have TOO many moments where I feel like an imperfect mother. This post is the best reminder of what truly matters!

Alexandra said...

I love your post, it's like I told a mom to be. This is her first child, and I told her that there would be plenty of advice given, but her and her partner (they are not married yet) will do what it's best in their eyes. Parenting is about making mistakes, and learning from them. Parenting is taking each day one step at a time, and smiling at every bruce we get in our hearts, it just means tomorrow will be a better day.

Anne U @ hot coffee mama said...

So beautiful.

Mrs. Mama said...

THIS post is... well... PERFECT.

Well said, Mama.

Lauren McGee said...

Such a truely brilliant post. Well said.


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cassie said...

This is a great post and something that I can 100% relate to.

Hilary said...

Well said!
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