18 April 2013

Mama Memoirs: Sometimes Kids Surprise You

Welcome to week one of the Mama Memoirs link up!! I'm super excited to follow along with you guys and read about your experiences with Motherhood!!

Here's my Mama Memoir for the week!

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I will be the first to admit that I always expect the worst from my kids. I always assume that there will be tantrums and meltdowns whenever we go out together. Obviously, there's reasons why I have grown to expect this bevior (re: I get it now). But honestly, I'm not proud of feeling this way, I'm really not.

Every single day is a new day, with a new beginning. And my kids deserve the benefit of the doubt. They deserve for me to believe in them. And beyond that, they deserve a Mother who is more confident in her abilities to take care of them, and resolve & diffuse any outbursts or issues that may occur.

Case in point:

On Monday, a friend of mine posted on FB that she was going to Ikea, and asked if anyone wanted to meet her there. ::raises hand:: Umm.. yes, I will!! That was my first thought. Then, I thought about it for some more and quickly decided that I'd probably better stay home. Taking two little kids to Ikea? That could prove to be exhausting and irritating, at best.

But then, another moment past, and looked down at my beautiful 3 y/o, who smiled up at me sweetly. Right then, I thought to myself "You know what, why the heck not?? I GOT this." And without another thought, I told her I would be meeting her at Ikea at 2pm.The baby woke up from his nap at 1:00, and I got the kids fed and ready to go. Bennett took a short little snooze on the way to Ikea & off we went to wander the gigantic warehouse.

And you know what?? The kids were amazing!! Bennett was well-behaved and followed almost every direction I gave him. And Easton was happy just being pushed around in the cart. I don't give my kids nearly enough credit. They deserve so much better from me. I don't want to be the Mom that doesn't go anywhere or do anything fun with my kids because I'm scared of what might happen when we get there. Kids have off days, and can be challenging, but that's life. I need to do better at just rolling with the punches.

My kids surprised me that day. And I surprised myself, too.

And I got some fun stuff for myself and the kiddos (a new rug, some play kitchenware for their playhouse, and some new candle holders.) Score!

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23 comments:

Cheryl Enlow said...

I feel the same way with just one. It is shocking when they surprise you, but I guess that means you are doing a good job as a Mama. Loving the link up :)

Tiffany said...

i love the idea of this link up! my boys amaze me every day! i feel like i'm the one learning on a constant basis, not them :)

Heather @ Cookies For Breakfast said...

Ahh I needed this! I am soooo guilty of expecting the worst from Benjamin and I get unrealistically frustrated when he isn't on his best behavior all the time. Thank you for this, mama - love this post! Great reminder.

melissa rohr said...

i was so impressed with how good b did! ou're doing a good job mama :)

Carrie said...

Yes, I feel this way... sometimes I will wait and not go to Target until I have a chance to go without the kids. Just because, its SO much more work to take them... Although, I do wish I had an IKEA by me! Love the little kiddie cart!

Ariel @ Dreams To Do said...

I have SO been there! Sometimes my laziness gets in the way of taking my kids out to do something new. But when I suck it up and we get out there, it usually ends up being a lot of fun and much better than I anticipate.

Sarah [NurseLovesFarmer.com] said...

I hear ya! I don't give my kids (or myself) near enough credit sometimes!

Jenn said...

I always love when I am pleasantly surprised by my kiddo. Those are the proud moments!

Alexandra said...

I know what you mean, about giving more credit. I have only one little one and sometimes I feel restrained to the house, but sometimes (it's starting to become most of the time) we actually go out together, not expecting any outcome. :)

Gretchen said...

It's totally nerve wracking to head out on your own with the kiddos - I've been there/am there most days! But I've been trying it more, and like you, it has been going well! I'm excited for the nicer weather so we have more outing options :)

Kassi Mortensen said...

It's definitely awesome when things work out better than you had hoped, right!? Hope it's ok that I linked up a post... I'm not technically a momma yet, in three months I will be, but I still think the topic relates. :)

Kassi @ Truly Lovely

Kiara Buechler said...

I am sure to get a meltdown at Ikea for some reason, it's like they pipe a sound through at a frequency that turns D into a crazed maniac. But I go there anyways, because I love the meatballs.

London Mama said...

Just wanted to say THANK YOU for starting this little linky, I am having so much fun reading everyone's memoirs.

Amanda Pawlak said...

Ikea in and of itself stresses me out haha! So I would think twice about taking both of my kids alone too. But I like your thought process here......I'm sure both of your kids will rise to meet your expectations more often than not :)

Courtney B said...

Ooooh my gosh! I love this link up!! I'm totally going to participate next time! The only thing I stress about (right now, I'm sure there will be plenty more to stress about as Mia grows and doesn't just sit in her carseat, ha!) is Mia getting hungry in public. She is not a public nurser and I don't think I could feed her without showing the world more than they want to see anyway. I get anxiety over the idea of having to feed her with no car to hide in. Ah!

Michelle Thomas said...

Try taking three kids to IKEA! But seriously, I love these moments where everything goes just the way it should...especially since they are so rare! :) This is a great link up, thanks for having me!

MandeeFoFandee said...

I seriously can't imagine having two kids. going to the grocery store with Ronin is a 3 hour adventure. and he's SUCH a good baby that having another terrifies me, hahaha.

so excited to link up this week. I made sure to finish & publish my pumping post this week so I could link it!

Meghan said...

These little people can be so surprising, can't they?! I tend to worry and overthink the things that end up being no big deal. Still- major props on a successful Ikea trip with little ones, lol.

Tiffany Ellis said...

I understand where you were coming from. My 2 year old has his moments and sometimes I find myself avoiding places because I'm afraid of how he will act. Glad you were able to have a great time with your kiddos at IKEA.

The Adventures of Curly Tot said...

I love those days when they seem to surprise you. I'm guilty too of always thinking the worst. :( sometimes I feel
like I don't even give my oldest a chance. Sometimes we avoid places b/c I think it won't go well.


You inspired me to start blogging again thanks to this new series :)

Valerie Scott said...

I am guilty of thinking this as well. I have been known not to do something or avoid things because I didn't think Brayden would behave. In the end most of the time he does surprise me and he does just fine. I need to give him a chance more often.

Nicolette said...

I totally get not wanting to leave the house with the kids some days but it's so awesome when they surprise you. When it was just one I felt more confident but with two I often just feel outnumbered. Thanks so much for hosting. I've found some great blogs. I love building my little community of Moms :)

Emily Peck said...

I love this new series and your post this week - such a great reminder to myself that it's important to get out of the house, even if we aren't dressed or ready! Sometimes I feel like Sky does BETTER when we get out of the house!! Maybe because he's less couped up? I always err on the side of staying home too and I need to get better about getting out!