04 April 2013

Me and Philip. Our story.

I don't think I have ever shared the story of how Philip and I met. Probably because its not exciting or glamorous, and actually, telling the story makes me look like a big jerk. So I don't tell it often. ;-) But, in the spirit of getting to know your fellow bloggers better, I thought it would be a good time for a stroll down memory lane.

Oh and also linking up with the ladies hosting the Love & Marriage series.

I'm not very good at story telling, so you'll have to bear with me. Oh and I have a really fuzzy memory about a lot of these details. I actually had to ask my Husband some stuff. And you might get confused because this story has a lot of back & forth, I'm even having a hard time keeping the timeline straight.

It was 2006 and I was 23 years old. I was in love with a boy, only the boy I was in love with at the time was not Philip. This was before I met him. This boy and I were in a serious relationship I thought I was going to marry him. The short of it is that it hit me hard when it didn't work out and we broke up. It was at this same time that I met Philip, who I'd actually seen around before because he hung out with some of the same people that me and my (ex)boyfriend did. But to say I was an emotional mess when Philip and I first started hanging out, was an understatement. I was heartbroken and confused after my boyfriend and I split up. Philip and I went through a lot, before we ended up together.

Anyway...

Right after my breakup, it was Halloween, and I went to a party with a "rebound" guy, when Philip came up and started talking to my date. At this point, I had never actually met Philip, and didn't really think anything of him. So I really didn't have very much interaction with Philip other than "Hey, how's it going?"

Shortly after the Halloween party, I was invited by some friends to go to a movie, and Philip was there. I ended up sitting right next to him. We talked a bit, and I thought he was a nice guy but again, didn't think much of it. From there, we always ended up at the same places because of the friends we shared. As weeks went on, we started talking a little more, and hanging out, he became a really good friend to me. Philip was kind, and generous, funny & witty, and always there for me. He was so loyal, which is a quality I've always looked for. It was at this time that I think I started having feelings for him, just didn't realize it yet.

But around Christmas, my ex-boyfriend and I started to talk again, and I spent Christmas with him and his family. Probably not the best decision but I was still in love with him, so there's that. 

The months following Christmas are kind of all a blur to me. I was seeing my ex again sometimes, which was confusing and all around a bad idea. Throughout the holiday's, I backed off quite a bit from Philip because I didn't want to send mixed messages. But I don't think I did a very good job. And it was kind of a sticky situation because the "ex"-boyfriend and Philip knew eachother, and every once in while, the 3 of us would all be in the same places. Awkward. But at this point, Philip and I were technically still just "friends" so I wasn't really doing anything "wrong." Wellll......I guess that's up for debate. ;-)

The end of January rolled around and I was all kinds of messed up, still. One thing was for sure, though, I was NOT getting back together with my Ex and had finally cut back on my communication with him, it was time to move on. So by Valentines Day, Philip and I were hanging out a lot more, and even spent Valentine's together, we watched "Saw" (yes, the horror movie, so romantic, right?). But the problem was that I couldn't let go of my ex-boyfriend.

{Are you still with me, or are you totally lost??}

So this brings us to the Spring/Summer. Even though I wanted to move on and "officially" date Philip, I was still struggling to let go of my previous relationship, because the truth is that my Ex never stopped contacting me and, well, it was a disaster. Eventually, Philip gave me an ultimatum. He told me in not so many words that he wasn't going to "wait around for me" anymore. Basically, he told me to get my crap together and get over my last relationship. (good advise, babe). 

Here I had this amazing guy (Philip) who had been waiting around, being so patient, but I wasn't giving my heart to him fully. I was such a jerk.

That summer, I attended a wedding with my Mom & Sister. And I so vividly remember sitting at a table eating the yummy wedding food, and of course, marriage was on the brain, since I was at a wedding after all. I told my Mom that Philip was the kind of man I could see myself marrying. Wait. I told her that Philip was the guy I saw myself marrying?! Not my Ex-boyfriend-who-I-still-talked-to-and-loved.

Epiphany.

It was after that, with a lot of prayer, that I finally came to the realization that I was being an idiot. So, I decided to just go for it with Philip. And so, we did. We jumped in head first to this amazing relationship.  Fell in love, and only a few months after that, we got engaged. 6 months after our engagement, we got married! Once I snapped out of it, I was able to really commit to Philip. And dang, it took me long enough, right?!

We had a small wedding on July 5, 2007. It was perfect.

And thank goodness for my sweet Husband for hanging in there and sticking it out. I am still totally in awe of everything he went through, and how persistent he was.  I'm a lucky girl.

And of course, I have to throw in some old pictures, right?

From when we were dating:

Wedding day:

And a couple from our honeymoon:

So that's how Philip and I met, and what led us to get married. Nothing jaw dropping or out of the ordinary, but it's our story and I'm thankful for the memories!
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27 comments:

Adventures with Little man said...

Great post! & don't worry I understood the timeline. I'm glad Phillip didn't give up. Y'all look so happy in you pictures. Lastly, as much as you want to feel like a jerk try not to worry. I think it's common to hold on to past relationship sometimes.

Amanda M. said...

I met my husband after a really dramatic break-up as well. It took me a good 6 months to get over it.....and 3 months to move in with my now-husband! ;)

Jodi said...

In your defense you were very young when you met him and when we are young we all are a little dumb with love! Once you realized Phillip was the one things went fast! You guys didn't waste anytime. I love reading people's story. It just shows that people come together in all different ways. I keep wondering what my story will be!!???? I hope their will be a love story to tell! :)

Andrea @ Mostly Happenstance said...

I love hearing stories about how other couples met. I'm so happy Philip didn't give up and gave you an ultimatum. Where did you go on your honeymoon?

Jordan said...

I love hearing how couples meet. Someday it'll be my turn! ;) Love the old pictures! =)

Whitney said...

I'm not going to lie, I totally have a similar story of how Nick and I got together! Definitely involved some exboyfriend stuff. I loved hearing the story! I can't believe you were my age when you met him. (Yes, I know I am young! haha)

You looked so beautiful on your wedding day!!

dany said...

my husband did A LOT of waiting around for me, too. I consider myself a lucky woman, as well. :) it's true what they say - when ya know, ya know! :)

SewSara said...

So fun to read your love story ... especially since I remember Philip from my childhood. You got a good one!

Emma @ Outmumbered said...

Your story is similar to mine... James was there in front of my eyes for so long before I actually realised he was the one. I was seeing someone else when I started to crush on him... the guy I was seeing was a mega jerk and treated me bad... so I left him and James and I had our first date on the same day haha. That was 8 years ago!

Lauren @ One Sweet Fairytale said...

i loved hearing this. i'm kind of still pining over my ex...it's been 2 months and while i'm moving on my heart's still with him. maybe theres hope for me after all

Becca Moss said...

You two are adorable! I loved reading this! (:

Lamielle said...

Mandy, you look so good together. God bless your marriage :)

Lamielle

Britney Snyder said...

I loved reading your story and did not get confused! :)
You two are a good looking couple, have two beautiful boys and looks so happy together!
So my questions is...are you done having kids!? :)

Mandy@ a sorta fairytale said...

Thank you Britney!! And I'm glad you didn't confused! I feel like I suck at telling stories. lol. And whether or not we'll have more kids?? I'm betting we will :-) But as far as the timeline, that is very up in the air.

Mandey Ejiasi said...

Aw! After you figured it out, you guys really trucked right along! When you find the one-ya just know, huh? Oh, and I love the old pictures. I just love flashback photos of couples before kids.

gina said...

such a sweet story! sometimes the simple ones are the best. I also like seeing those young pics of you guys :).

Lea Culp said...

Oh, I love hearing how folks met and this was a really good one with a happy, happy ending. I'm thinking you made a really good choice!

BTW, do you live anywhere near Gig Harbor? Hubby and I are visiting there for a week in August and sharing a summer home with his sister and husband. It looks like an awesome place and we know it will be a whole lot cooler there in August than here in Louisiana. I think I remember that you are from somewhere near that area.

Happy weekend!

pookielocks said...

Hi Mandy! I'm stopping by from #ubp13! I can be found at www.ouata.wordpress.com and at ouata.etsy.com Be sure to check them out! I've bookmarked your site! :)

AllThose ThingsILove said...

You look like an aorable coupon :) Found your blog hoppin' around the #UBP13 - looks great!

josie renee said...

Aww I like your story. I like stories that are real and genuine and not all rainbows and butterflies. You guys look adorable together. And I love that when you knew, you knew, and were married shortly after. Thanks for sharing your story!

ADSchill said...

I remember much of this. It must have been Mindy's wedding. :) I guess it ends as it should.

In This Wonderful Life said...

Love your story! So glad you ended up with the good one! I also highly doubt you were too jerky :)

Harrovian Mama said...

Cute story! My husband and I met when we were 17 and it took me FOUR years to get over the fact that i'd met 'the one' so young. I kept putting him off so that I could 'find' myselkf until he finally said ENOUGH. At which point I snapped out of it, we got married and now have two babies haha. Once I make my mind, I'm fast.

Found you through the Tichenors and love your blog. My little boy is turning one soon and I can't believe it. He's supposed to be the baby! Have signed up to mama memoirs too-so excited!

London, England mama blogger www.samandasha2.blogspot.com

MandeeFoFandee said...

such a great story! I'm glad Phillip stuck with you even though it sounds like you were a huge pain in the ass. ;)

Laura Railing said...

I didn't lose you!! I LOVE that you wrote this. It is always one of my favorite things to read about how couples ended up so blissfully together (haha ok at least most days right? ;-) )I think the ex-factor makes it all that much better because you realize how much better something else is. Thank you for writing this :)

Laura Railing said...

I love that you wrote this! I love reading about people's journey to fall blissfully in love (at least, most days, right? ;-) haha!) I think the ex-factor makes it even better! Such a wise guy you have, giving you an ultimatum! I think whether in friendships or relationships, we can get so caught up in the "might be"s and what we yearn for things to be even though deep down we know it just isn't going to happen. I'm so glad he didn't give up on you! Look at where you are at now :-) Thank you again for writing this! Made my day :)

Mindi @ Simply Stavish said...

I love your love story. I am glad it ended happy even though you had a rocky dating period at the beginning. Sometimes it just takes an ah ha moment to realize that you don't want to lose an amazing guy who is the "one". I went through something pretty similar with Adrian when we were dating in college. Good thing I finally woke up and realized I was being dumb.