22 July 2013

In that moment, he needed me, and I needed him.

The other morning, I was in the kitchen making breakfast, trying to juggle scrambling eggs, mixing the pancake batter, and crisping the bacon just right -- when Bennett approached me from the back and hugged my leg. He clung on so tight, I could tell something was going on. I asked him if he was okay, or if there was anything I could get for him. He politely asked "A drink, please mommy." I gladly gave him some of his favorite flavored water, and went about my cooking.

A few minutes later, he was standing at my feet again. This time he literally turned my body facing him and then stretched his arms out up in front of him, as if he wanted me to pick him up. He didn't say a word, he just looked at me with his big puppy dog eyes and silently begged me to hold him. I will admit that right then and there, my heart melted into a puddle. And so I stopped what I was doing, and hoisted up my 40lb 3 y/o, he wrapped his long legs around me and squeezed my neck as tightly as he could. We stood there in the kitchen hugging for a good 3 minutes. The bacon was starting to burn and the pancakes were getting cold. But I didn't care.

In that moment, he needed me. 

And what I realized more than anything, was that I needed him. I needed that tender moment.

I've been pretty open and honest on this blog about Bennett, and the difficulties that we have. He's a high energy, hyper-sensitive kid, and you add a speech delay in the mix -- it can all add up to a lot of frustrating times. But, I think I take for granted the sweet moments. The ones where he shows outstanding manners by saying "please" and "thank you" all day. The ones when he hears his brother crying and runs to console him with a kiss or a hug. The days when he is an exceptional listener. The moments of pure joy and giddyness when he sees his Daddy come home. The moments when he reaches for me to pick him up, and just wants to take a minute to snuggle.

... Well after my arms started to go numb from holding my enormous child in my arms, I set him on the counter and told him I loved him, and that he was such a good boy. He grabbed my face and pulled me in, gave me a huge kiss on the mouth and then happily went on his way.

All it takes is five little minutes, nestled in a day full of crazyness and tantrums, to remind me that it's a two way street. He needs those sweet tender moments just as much as I do. We can help each other remember what it's all about.


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13 comments:

Rachel said...

Aww.. this is so true!!! Sometimes I forget or don't realize how much I need my little independent Addy to need me, even for just a minute or two.

tiffany | monuments and melodies said...

so SO true! i posted something very similar this morning. they teach us so much more than we teach them ;)

Heather N said...

Aw, such a sweet story and beautifully written! Your kiddos are super cute, Mandy!

Sarah [NurseLovesFarmer.com] said...

I love how God speaks to us through our children, just saying "slow down, take it all in". Awesome little story.

Skye said...

so sweet! I have a 3 yr old (crazy) girl and a 9 week old boy ... those tender moments happen very infrequently from my daughter - she is in a crazy selfish (sometimes nasty!) stage now. So if she initiates some love, I take it ALL! This made me tear up. It's those few minutes that make life worth living! :)

Discovery Street said...

oooooooooooohhhh...this made me tear up. These moments are just so precious!

Lauren Alberts said...

okay. bawled. sheesh, thanks ;) I have these moments with Ryan too. thank you for putting into words what i feel!

Libby's Life said...

first off... I'm balling like a baby over this post! second... this post hits so close to home with me right now because with Zane is acting out so much lately and I feel like I am constantly yelling or telling him to stop doing something. but when he gives me a moment like that it makes me realize how important it is to just stop and give more of those moments to them when they ask for them or beg for them almost. thank you for this.

Courtney said...

Beautiful! You will be so thankful you have that precious moment recorded here. One of the things I love most about blogging is the ability to write it out exactly how it happened so that you can look back on this and remember it fondly forever.

Kaymee said...

Your Bennett sounds just like my Lincoln...speech delay and all, but the sweetest boy in the world! Those moments make it all worthwhile :)

Melissa said...

so sweet and so true :) if you dont take the little minutes the big ones wont add up to squat! good job mama!!

the Momma Bird said...

I could have written this about my Cohen. So very thankful for those sweet moments :)

Mandy@ a sorta fairytale said...

Exactly!! I'm so grateful for this space! Hopefully my kids will read it one day and know how much I loved them! :)