13 August 2013

An update on having two kids.

The last time I wrote a post about life with two kiddos, was almost a year ago, when I was promising Mom's with a toddler and an infant that it does, in fact, get better. And less hectic. And a year later, I am happy to say, that is still true.

There are times when things get chaotic and we have our share of bad days. But the majority of the time, things are easy and manageable. Having two kids is just natural, and it's so. much. fun. I'm not being dramatic, I really really love it. Now that Easton is 16 months, he's really turning into a little boy (hold on while I go cry in the corner). But even as much as I miss my teensy baby, I'm so happy that he's getting to an age that him and Bennett can play together. And (knock on wood), they play well together... usually. They love each other and I don't think Bennett even remembers what life was like before his little brother came along. My heart turns into a puddle of mush when I see one of them go up to there other and just randomly give a hug or kiss. Or share without me having to ask.

And it's in these moments that I catch myself yearning for another baby (re: my baby fever). I can almost envision another boy (or girl) cuddled up with them, playing and laughing with them. The boys and I are in such a great groove, I feel like another sibling would just fit right in. Sometimes. If it was the right time, but it's not. But I'm serious, that is how much I love having more than one kid. But of course, I'm not here to talk about babies so let's get back to the original subject. 

You might think what I'm about to say is crazy, but the truth is, it's become almost easier to have two kids, as opposed to one. Say what??!? Besides the obvious reason, that they entertain each other, for me, i's  because when one of them is being naughty or difficult, the other one is usually an angel. And I thank God for those tender mercies, because in the heat of the tantrum, I can look at the other child being mellow and well-behaved and remind myself that this too will pass. Does that even make sense? I hope so.

Like I already said, having more than one kid is hard. But overall, having two kids doesn't even phase me anymore (although, my husband might disagree when he gets home from work at 5:00 and my head is spinning, lol). Granted, I can't get much done for myself throughout the days, and that can be challenging.... but our days are fairly easy. I'm not scared to take them out in public like I was when Easton was a baby and I was still adjusting to things.

I guess I'm here to say that life is good. Life is really good. We mesh so well as a family, and I'm so thankful for these two little creatures and the happiness they bring us!

And because I'm too lazy to pull out my camera and take a better quality picture, I quickly tried to snap a cute brotherly photo of these two a few weeks ago. Nailed it, obviously. ;-)

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14 comments:

Nikki @ WishUponAShootingStar said...

I am so ready for another one! I have two visions though, you know the first one where you have a screaming baby all night long and the lack of sleep, but the other one that makes it seem all worth wild is seeing Hailey as a big sister. I picture them loving on each other and her teaching it things. Her helping me with the baby and being such a good big sister. My husband only sees the dollar signs going out the door, but all I can do is smile thinking of sweet moments of Hailey having a sibbling. Reading your post made me feel better about the scary vision haha.

Meghan Breusch said...

My daughter is 8 and I've been ready for awhile for another one. I really thought that we would have been blessed with a second bundle of joy by now but God's plan is always greater than my own. I'm going to be ready whenever he is :)

Erin said...

Mandy, I love this post. You make two sound doable! Haha. I've read posts by so many mamas on this transition and often it doesn't sound like things are actually manageable even though that was their message, but this has given me a little glimmer of hope as my husband and I debate having baby #2. Thanks for sharing glad life is treating you all well :)

Bailey L. said...

Lately I have read nothing but bad things about having two, I'm glad you wrote this :) My son is a little over 3 months old and we just found out we are pregnant again. I am a little worried but this gives me some hope that things will turn out great!

Alyson McMahon said...

I agree completely. Two is SO much easier than one. I think that the biggest reason for that is possibly because they entertain one another. Even at a young age. My kids are almost 5 years apart, but there is still that ease of there being 2 rather than 1. I feel like they usually balance each other out too.

Sarah [NurseLovesFarmer.com] said...

I absolutely agree, I've blogged about it before too - 2 is easier than 1.

Discovery Street said...

this is so encouraging to hear!! we want to add another one soon!!

Laura Railing said...

This is such a well timed article what with TIME magazines article applauding those who don't have kids. No joke. This is beautiful Mandy.

Lauren Davison said...

after a full may- aug of it being just me and e (our 1st time), I don't know that I want any more kids. thanks for the reminder that it may, in fact, juuust maybe be ok : )
Lauren

Melissa said...

this is perfect and give me hope! i have two boys 2 and almost 5 months :) its been getting "easier" every day, but so looking forward to them playing together :)

Tiffany said...

I'm having my second in October. I wasn't nervous about the first one.. dumber people have been parents, we could do this. But a newborn with a 2 year old has me extremely scared. Thanks for the blog... makes me feel a little less nervous.

Chloe West said...

I love that picture of the two of them! I'm glad that it only gets easier having more than one kid. :)

tiffany | monuments and melodies said...

I completely agree! So weird how it makes sense, right?!?! I love having two kids, especially so close in age...21 months apart!

Leah said...

Love this post and the insight to having 1 and then 2 kids. I went and read your past linked blogs, too about your fears, etc. You have a new follower.