08 August 2013

Refilling the tank.

I've written along these lines so many different times, but it's something I continue to revisit because I think it's SO important and should be talked about, as a reminder to us Mama's.

As much as I'd like to think I have it all together as a wife & mother, I just don't. I really really don't. Being a work-at-home Mom really takes a toll on me sometimes. Don't get me wrong, I love that I have the privilege to stay at home with my sweet babies during the day, but with that -- comes a pretty heavy burden. Mainly because some of the only times I get to work during the days are in the evenings or weekends, which takes me away from my family. And I don't like that. I like it when all 4 of us are together, but to be honest, that doesn't happen as much as I'd like it to.

I am so blessed to have a Husband that supports me passion for my business, and is supportive when I need to excuse myself from "family time" to take care of e-mails, editing, or phone consultations.

But I'm getting off topic.

Aside from the pressure I feel throughout the days with keeping my business afloat, is that honestly, raising two tiny tornado's is freaking hard. Not that my boys aren't amazing little creatures, but dealing with the ongoing tantrums, meltdowns, and clingy children is both physically exhausting and mentally draining -- to put it lightly.

So now that I'm done complaining, what I'm here to say is that we all need to refill our tanks, so to speak. What's in that tank, you ask? A whole lotta (or a little) "alone time." I know that for some of us, getting time to ourselves can be next to impossible. But it's something that as Mothers, we NEED. It's incredible what just an hour away from the house, alone, can do for us. It helps us to replenish when our mental state is in a craze after a long day alone with the terrorists kids. And filling our tank back up, can consist of a lot of things. We can take an evening to wander Target by ourselves, or run some errands alone (isn't it funny how grocery shopping alone feels like a vacation?!), go to dinner with a family member or friend, exercise (if you find that therapeutic), write a blog post, or if you're like me -- you'll go and pamper yourself with a mani/pedi. ;-)

I'm just saying, do what you can to sneak away for a little while. Trust me, you deserve it.

Oh, and, be sure to document it. So the rest of us can live simultaneously through you while you're refilling your tank.

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13 comments:

Kaylin said...

I'm not even a Mom and value the idea of refilling the tank. Great post. I'm actually heading for a Mani/Pedi today. So stinkin' excited :)

Sarah Notes said...

The lady does your toes has such a pretty apron...haha!
I completely agree; I will lose my ever-lovin mind if I don't GET OUT every once in a while. My best friend came to visit last week, and even though I still had two kids under two, and only got out with JUST her and me once...it felt like a vacation when we finally did!

Discovery Street said...

This pool we got fixed has totally done that for me...I feel like I'be gotten away just for a bit. I'm screwed when it gets cold again! Lol

Ashlea with an a said...

I can not agree more, Ive been getting more alone time then usual with my whole wedding planning experience, and its def. showing good signs for our family. It helps us all. Happy wife, happy life right? :)

The Ramblin Rooster {Ashley Mills} said...

My favorite "refilling my tank" activity is going to a movie by myself in the middle of the day. My husband thinks I'm nuts, but I absolutely LOVE it! Mani/Pedi's are definitely on that list too, though :)

Southern Wifey said...

this is so spot on to my life right now! literally i told my hubby on Monday night that i needed some "me time" and he said I should go get a pedicure thursday after work and that hed take care of the evening routine with our son. And today is finally thursday and i cannot wait to get my pedicure. i dont think ive had one since a week before matthew was born, and hes 14months now.its been too long.....
the sweet life of a southern wife

Valerie Scott said...

I am really horrible at giving myself/asking for "me" time. I work 3 nights a week and during the day on weekends so when we do get that family time, that's all I want is to be with my boys. The family time we get is not nearly enough but I should take a little time for myself. I know I wouldn't regret it!

Mommy Mandy said...

I agree that time away is SO important for all moms! Glad you got a little time:)

Cindy @ Cinsarah said...

Love this post! I really need to Refill my tank right now! I'm feeling overwhelmed!

Bunkin Mama said...

Grocery shopping alone is s vaca! I really like the idea of a pedi. Especailly since my feet are so sore right now. What color polish did you get?

Maggie said...

This has seriously been the biggest struggle for me as a new(ish) mom. I shouldn't feel guilty about taking time for myself and running errands, going to the gym, etc. but I so do and am still learning how to find balance (eternal struggle?). Thanks for the reminder.

Chloe West said...

Alone time is so nice! I've barely gotten any since having my son though. :(

Deanna Herrmann said...

Just came across your blog today and am so glad I did! Your real posts about being a mom make me feel "normal". I completely agree with refilling your tank and we should make it happen more often than we actually do!