But I recently saw this post (and the backlash from it) and it got me really fired up: FYI: (if you're a teenage girl). It's written by the Mother, and she's addressing this post to the girl friends of her teenage boys. Basically telling the teenage girls that if they post pictures of themselves dressed inappropriately or skimpy, they will be blocked from their sons social media accounts because it's provoking their sons to think of these girls in the wrong way. That's a summary, feel free to read the post before you to proceed reading mine.
The response to this blog post has been ridiculous. On one hand, people are saying that this woman is trying to blame girls for teenage boys crude thoughts. The argument here is that women should never be blamed for the way guys think or treat them. They should be able to wear what they want, and it's all the guy's responsibility to control this thoughts. On the other hand, some people agree with this women's post, and think that skimpily dressed girls are provoking these thoughts from teenage boys.
Here is my take on this.
We can not control what other people think or do. We can only control our own thoughts and actions. Obviously.
So with that in mind, the answer to this is simple. There needs to be accountability on both ends. Period. No blaming the opposite sex. Just take responsibility for your actions, your thoughts, and how you act on them.
Girls: You can dress however you want, obviously, its your life and your body. But, if you dress in a revealing manor, please be aware of the the image you are portraying. This isn't to say that what you are portraying is an accurate representation of your personality, but people often judge the book by the cover. Is it ever okay for a boy to say crude things to you or to treat your poorly because of how you dress? Absolutely not. Never ever. And you are NEVER to blame for someone else's behavior. Their actions are on them. However, I am asking you to think about how you want to be viewed and dress/act accordingly. Simple as that.
Boys: Regardless of how a girl is dressed or acting, it is your job to treat them with respect and see beyond their exterior. Women are beautiful and should be treated kindly and with dignity. Though it can be hard, don't make assumptions about someone because of their appearance. If a girl is wearing revealing clothing and posting half naked pictures online, to a certain degree, she is doing it to get attention. But please, give her respectful attention (if you desire) and treat her kindly. And most importantly, do your best to control the path of your thoughts.
Parents: It is OUR responsibility to teach these basic principles to our kids. Teenagers, and adults alike, need to learn to respect themselves and each other. They need to learn accountability and responsibility. And they also need to learn that modesty goes a long way.
So bottom line, for me, is this:
What is your take on all of this?