Am I starting to let social media take the place of my IRL (in real life) friendships? Okay wait, let me back up and state for the record -- that the friends I've made online (through my blog, or otherwise), are REAL friendships. But for the sake of distinguishing the difference of people I've met online versus the ones I know in my hometown... I'm going to use the word "real" a lot, in reference to the people I know in person. K?
Back to what I was saying. I feel like social media fills me up, so well in fact, that my "real" friendships are suffering a little bit. Is it that I'm truly drifting apart from my "real" friends because our lives or personalities aren't compatible anymore? Or... am I choosing to let my social media fascination/obsession sort of replace these friendship because it's easier?
I'm thinking it's a little of both. On one hand, I have all of you, the ones who read my blog & thoughts every single day. You all support and encourage me, and truly make an effort to connect with me, and sometimes I feel like the friends I've made through my blog "get" me more than some people I've known forever. But on the other hand, there's a lot to be said about maintaining the friendships we have close to home. I need to have face time with people, I need girls nights and dinners out. I need in-person giggle fests and froyo dates. Know what I mean?
The internal conflict that I'm having, is that I feel like sometimes I have to force myself to maintain my "real" friendships. And please don't get me wrong, I have a few very close friends that I will never ever let go of and that I will always put effort into. But there are some IRL friendships, that I feel like are starting to fade and some of it is in part because my social cup, if you will, is being filled up by online social media.
I guess what I'm wondering is, those of us who are social medialites, do we also take the time & effort to nurture and maintain our friendships outside of the online world?? Because truly, as great as both worlds are, there is a huge difference between being social online, and a real social life. Ya know? Gosh I hope this is making sense.
Does anyone else struggle with this or it just me? What are your thoughts on this?
I felt weird posting without a photo, so ya, here you go. This is me, ducking a candid photo my Husband was trying to take, and probably would have posted on his IG feed. Nope.