30 September 2013

That moment I realized how annoying I am.

I spend from 6am to 8pm with Bennett (And of course, Easton. But this post is more about Bennett). That's a long time to spend with someone every single day. As adorable as my Three Year Old is, parenting him ain't no picnic. Ya know what I'm sayin? And as much as I love my little dude, I admit, there are days that he annoys me. But what I haven't really considered until the other day, was that, I'm betting that I annoy him as well.

Friday was a particularly hard day for us. Bennett was fighting me on everything and was just plain disobedient. I'm being too nice about this -- he was just straight up being naughty, a little monster. No matter what I did, he just didn't wanna cooperate. And it wasn't like I was asking him to do chores, I was just trying to get him to engage with me. I pulled out every trick in the book to try and distract him from his foul mood, but it just wasn't happening. It was like he just didn't want to be around me at all.

After my Husband was done with work, I was telling him about our challenging day, and that I wasn't sure what his problem was. To which, he quickly said "You know, it could be that he is just annoyed with you." WHAT? My own child is annoyed with me!? Impossible. I made this little human, and I'm the all-knowing adult, how could I possibly be irritating to him? But really, it's very possible. I've just never thought of it like that.

Bennett doesn't really know how to say he's annoyed with me, but I guarantee that is what his problem was that day. To him, I was just an overbearing banshee, spewing out rules and directions to him, that he clearly wasn't into. And even though he should technically be listening to me and doing what I ask... I'm sure that in his mind, he's thinking "oh my gosh, just shut up already and let me do what I wanna do!". I mean, when I look at it from his perspective, how obnoxious am I!? I kinda suck, in the eyes of a 3 y/o ;-) And just like anyone else, I'm sure there are days when he just doesn't want to be around me. But I admit, if this is the case, my feelings are kind of hurt. lol


11 comments:

Nikki @ WishUponAShootingStar said...

Love this post! I am always wondering what my 6 year old thinks of me. Am I a mean Mommy when I tell her "no" and don't let her have her way? What does she go to school and tell her friends about me? I mean I know she loves me, but does she "like" me? Ahhhhhh! This was a perfect post though, you aren't alone on the annoying Mommy part!

Jessie said...

I have a three year old too and have never thought of it like this! haha What a revelation! I think kids, just like adults, like to feel in control of their lives. I like to give Jed a lot of choices, even if they're silly ones. "Where would you like to sit? What slide do you want to try first? Blue plate or orange plate?" etc. It seems to help.

Lauren Davison said...

john tells me this all of the time. I like to joke w E and say stupid things to make him laugh and sometimes, I get that look, yknow the one I'm talking about that. The one that says, "seriously, you just said that?! Just let me play with my toys in peace!"

The Ramblin Rooster {Ashley Mills} said...

I have never ever ever thought about this with kids...it makes so much sense, but I'm pretty sure I would be like you, "ummm excuse me, I'm not annoying!" :)

Courtney said...

Haha, aww! Man, I always feel like our husbands just cut right to the chase. Like, they have this way of interjecting a really small nugget of wisdom that suddenly makes you go. "huh. what do you know about that."

Amanda B. said...

Well, if anybody knows how annoying we are, it's our husbands, right? :p

Cassie @ Live.Laugh.L0ve. said...

Well, heck. Now I want to go ask my boys if I have ever annoyed them, which I'm sure I have. Lol. Especially when Jay said in the car to me the other day, "I'm tired of answering all these questions." Jeez, I was just asking him about his day. Although, I do ask the same questions everyday after school... I could see how that could be annoying. Yikes! I need to come up with creative new questions. lol.

Leah said...

Love this. It's so true. They are little human beings, too and we just push on them what we want most of the time. I like how you said "I'm the all-knowing adult." Teehee!

Deanna H said...

Haha. Wow. I never thought of it like that either! It's a good point and my feelings would be hurt too. :-)

Lamielle Lira Lincke said...

hehehe...so cute and funny story :)

Fran said...

husbands really knows how to cut to the chase, doesn't they haha