13 November 2013

Blogging. Do what you want to do.


Blogging. Let's talk about it, again. And again and again and again.

Lately, I feel like there is a lot of pressure out there to "be" a certain way in this community. Recently, I have read  posts from some of my very favorite bloggers, expressing feelings of uncertainty about blogging itself. Many are lost, like they don't know where they want to go, or how their blog fits in with their lives anymore.

And you know what, I know exactly what they are talking about. I have been there so many times, wondering if it's all worth it. The time & energy I devote to my blog, does it even matter? Well I realized that yes, it matters as long as this blog means something to ME. Even if no one reads here, or even likes me. What it boils down to, is making sure that I am writing about what I want to write about. One day, it might be about my frustrations as a Mother. The next day, I might feel like sharing a recipe, or an outfit I love. And then if the mood strikes, I'll write up a photography & editing tutorial. And of course, I mix in sponsored posts here and there because you know what? I like doing them. I enjoy working with brands and the extra money is nice.

My point is, as bloggers, I feel like we are pressured to find our "niche."And then things get competitive. But why? Why does it need to be like that? What can't we just blog whatever the heck we want.

Me? I don't follow any rules. I can post once a week, once a month, or every freaking day if I want.

If you're blogging to make money, then that's your thing. If you're blog consists of nothing but cute pictures of your kid, then I say YES. I love looking at photo dumps. And if you want to post about 27 different topics like I do, and don't feel like "fitting in" anywhere. Then DO it.


^^ That's my mantra. 

The bottom line is don't put any pressure on yourself. The minute you do, and blogging becomes a chore, you will not enjoy it. And in that case, maybe it's not for you anymore? Or... maybe you just need to change the direction of your blog, if it's worth the effort. But I say stick to what makes you happy. Write about the things on your heart and in your head. And if you can fit in some other stuff, too. Extra points.

I just want to read your blog, the way you want it to be, not the way you think others want it.

30 comments:

Kristal @ The Strong Family said...

Thank you for this post!

happinessinlearning said...

Thank you for this really inspiring post. I was having a bit of a wobble this week because my (very new!) blog is already not what I intended it to be. I'm just trying to enjoy it and learn as I go.

Michelle said...

I had this revelation a little while ago. I wasn't sure what I was doing or where I was going and I felt like I didn't have enough followers or was pinning enough or posting enough and AHHHHH! Then I realized, I want this blog to be for me and my family. And I'm a big fan of photo dumps, lol! If for whatever reason my blog explodes one day, then that's what happens. If I never made a penny off my blog, that's fine. Otherwise I'm really happy with the way things are. And you know what? As soon as I really realized that in my mind, I was happy. And I still am :)

Sami Seibert said...

There are times like this when I wish we had LIKE buttons on our blogs! This post just made me feel more confident in what choices I make about my blog. It started out for ME and it will always be about ME.

Thanks!!
-Sami @ yoursmineandours2013.blogspot.com

Meg O. said...

AMEN, sistah! As soon as I took the mindset of blogging whenever I wanted and when I had something to say made me feel like the pressure was off. I am having a difficult time coming up with more personal posts because I feel weird sharing so much about myself. But it seems people really like those so I am trying to get inspired. I seriously have no posting schedule, unless I have a due date for a sponsored post. Haha. Loved this post!

Krista said...

Totally agree Mandy! Love the last line "I just want to read your blog, the way you want it to be, not the way you think others want it.". So true and so well said!

Linds said...

LOVE this! My blogging ebbs and flows, and I'm most definitely in a funk right now (likely because I am overwhelmed by life with three kids under the age of five, but that's a different story for a different day). At first I felt kind of bad about it, but then it was so freeing to know that I am blogging for ME, which is why I started to begin with. And this is just a season; I'm sure when Tyler is a bit older I'll feel like I have more time to devote to writing.

Cindy @ Cinsarah said...

love this! very well said!

Courtney said...

And this, right here, is why you are one of my very favorites. Absolutely spot on!

Jamie F said...

It's so sad others make us feel insecure about our accomplishments in life, and yes our blogs are our accomplishments...we all need to read posts like this more often to make us feel more secure! So thank you!

www.bugsandbeans.com

Ariel @ Dreams To Do said...

AMEN!! Love everything about this and couldn't have said it better myself. :)

beckyj @ A Lazy Crazy Life said...

I totally agree!! I don't have a lot of readers, which sometimes makes me question the point. Like, why type if no one cares? (I'm being overly dramatic because I have made some lovely blog friends who care, and I know my family cares.) But then I realize that *I* care, and *I* like having an outlet for what I'm thinking and feeling and a convenient place to look back at all my family memories. The only guilt I have with not posting more frequently lately is on myself--that I'm missing out on documenting stuff I want to remember later. Thanks for this post!

Leah D said...

OMG! This is EXACTLY what I needed to read today. Thank you!

Sarah [NurseLovesFarmer.com] said...

I agree. I think the #1 rule of blogging is to do it for yourself and that's all that matters. For me I cannot be a "niche" blogger. I would get bored and constantly be worried about finding enough inspiration to blog consistently on only 1 main topic day after day. I love working with brands SO MUCH and the supplemental income from blogging has helped my family tremendously. I blog like you - a little bit of everything, but at the end of the day I do it for me!

Daina Ankrum said...

I couldn't agree more. With teaching taking up so much of my time, I try to not pressure myself with my blog. After all, I started it for fun! I do sometimes find myself wishing I had more followers, more sponsors, more giveaways, etc. but then I just remind myself that in the scheme of things none of that matters. The connections I have made and the happiness taking photos brings me is enough!

Thanks Mandy!

Tabitha said...

Agreed!

Valerie Scott said...

Great post! I love my blog just the way it is, photo dumps and all:)

Alyson McMahon said...

This is such a great post. I feel like my blog ebbs and flows. Sometimes I'm so inspired and can write out a few posts that are straight from the heart, other days I just want to share fun things, etc. For a while there I tried to make sure I was blogging 5 days a week, no less. And then, I realized that I couldn't always do that, it just wasn't in me. I still try, but don't stress if it doesn't happen. And, like you, I write about a little bit of everything. I don't feel like I have a particular "niche" either. I love your blog & your posts though. :)

Casey Martinez said...

Precisely! I probably blog twice a month and honestly do it simply for my own creative release. I love blogging now that I do it for me and not to impress or whatever. And like you I blog about whatever I want whenever I feel like it. IT's awesome and liberating this way Great advice:)

Kala Bernier said...

I agree with this 100%! I have been blogging for 5 years, my readership is not huge at all. But I LOVE it. I love going back and looking at how my life was years ago, how I have grown, and seeing dreams I once had turned into reality.

I don't care what you blog about as long as you are honest and writing about what you love that is all that matters : )

Also I think the wide variety of topics you post about is why i LOVE your blog.!

Kala@ TheWishfulLamb.com

Kiara Buechler said...

Amen sister!

Amanda Komoski said...

I love this post! I have only been blogging for a short while and too be honest sometimes think "What's the point?" And the point is because I enjoy it! I like you write about any and everything under the sun. The way I see it I am not just a mom, just a photographer or even a beauty consultant for that matter but I do enjoy all of those things and so much more so why stick to just one...

Tara said...

beautiful post! Love it! And that is why I love you! :) can we be friends :) hehe

Alessandra Ferguson said...

So good!!

jessica | piganddac said...

I'm so glad you wrote about this because for the last few weeks, I've been wondering inside my head "what's the point of my blog?" since I don't make money from it. And everything you read says "find a niche!" "set a routine" OR ELSE. I just want to blog for me, as my creative outlet. I love your blogging posts, it's what brought me to your blog in the first place :)

Samantha said...

I LOVE this. I am a mama that falls into the "blogs about everything" category. I have thought so many times about transitioning into one particular subject, but then it wouldn't be my life, my family, my children, which is why I started blogging in the first place!

Chloe West said...

Love this! I've thought about quitting blogging, but when I think about how much I love it, I just know that I never could, even if I can't post as often as I'd like to.

Whitney said...

Amen! I am a "blog about everything" type of gal, and my redesign is really going to help with that. Can't wait to get re-started!

Fran said...

Amen! I was thinking about writing more or less the same post, hah! I hate it when people are all "You MUST find your niche and write for you audience!". I have no niche and I love it, I write about whatever I feel like writing about and I'd hate to think of this as such a chore and "having" to do things lol

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