27 November 2013

Guest Post: Terrible Two's ?! - Myth or Reality?

Stopping in really quick to introduce you to my featured sponsor this month! I love her blog and I know you will, too! She's also sharing with us, her thoughts on the Terrible Two's. I can certainly relate to what she's saying! Thank you, Glori, for taking the time to guest post for me!

Hi! My name is Glori and I blog over at www.GloriOnline.com. I work in Finance during the day and I am also a full time wife and mommy to 2 beautiful kiddos. My daughter, Gianna, just turned 2 and my son Miles is 5 months old.  People tell us all the time how lucky we are to have both a boy and a girl and we agree! No matter what we had we would be beyond the moon excited, but we look forward to getting to experience both worlds! To say we are blessed is an understatement. I blog about life! Life as a mommy, life as a wife, and just life in general. You may hear me talk about fitness some days or post my favorite recipe on another. I love this beautiful life I was blessed with and look forward to see what it has in store for me as I get to raise a little girl and a little boy. I hope you will stop by, read a little and start to follow.

Life with a toddler can be challenging, life with a toddler and a brand new baby is challenging! But hey, neither of my kids were surprises, they were very planned, so I {somewhat} knew what I was signing up for.  If you know anyone with small children prior to having kids, you have heard about the terrible two's.  Most people talk about them like they are legendary and horrific and you just think, "no, they are just blowing it out of proportion, how can a two year old be that bad?".

Now, I am by no means a parenting expert. I am only 2 years into this new gig and don't get me wrong, I am loving it, it is the best, most rewarding thing I have ever done.  My little girl is brand new into this "two year old world", but turning two isn't some magical day where your kid turns from angel to devilish child.  {At least I don't think it is.}  From what I understand, more advanced developmentally children may experience the frustration or "terrible two's" temper prior to turning two and some may just be the most amazingly, well behaved children on the planet and some, well, sorry some are just that -- devilish children, and for those parents, I am sorry!  However, my little toddler diva is a pretty great child.  For the most part she behaves wonderfully, she listens {somewhat} and she is as sweet as can be.  An angel in my eyes.

But...there are moments where I fight the urge to scream, where I fight the urge to cry or hide from embarrassment or cringe about what other people must be thinking.  I know, I know I shouldn't care and deep down and most of the time, I don't, but there are times when I need a breather.  See, this challenging life is all about picking your battles.  Two year olds {in my experience} are sponges.  They are soaking up everything around them, they are learning about their emotions, learning about the world, learning more words, learning cause and effect and testing, boy oh boy do they test!  There are some battles that aren't worth fighting.  If my two year old wants to wear her glow in the dark skeleton shirt, which is pajamas, out for the day, fine, who am I to fight her.  If she wants to take her teddy bear to dinner and I am just not in the mood to listen to her cry for 10 minutes, hey, works for me.  I know, I know, show her who the boss is, I get it, but there are only so many battles in the day and I can't win them all.

The important things aren't up for bargain though.  No matter how many times she says, "mine", she will learn to share with her brother, which she is doing AMAZING at.  She will be nice to mommy and daddy, she will be nice to her family, her school friends and her teachers.  She will say thank you.  She will stay safe.  We hold hands in parking lots ALWAYS.  We do not go near stairs without an adult.  Yes, we can have ice cream, but no more than once a day {don't judge}.

Gianna is definitely going through a period of testing us.  She has officially decided she doesn't want to sit in a high chair right now and will kick and scream sometimes if we attempt to put her in one and yes most of those times she now sits in a chair next to us or in the booth with us, and I am ok with that.  One day she loves the bath tub, the next she hates it.  Yes, sometimes she just likes to scream out loud in the restaurant or shopping store, it happens.  Tantrums have happened in the middle of stores, oh yes they have.  However, when she colors on tables, that is a no go.  If she tried to push another child {which I see ALL the time with other kids}, that is a no go.  If she calls someone a mean name, not acceptable!  As an adult, a care taker, a guardian and a mother I am going to experience so many battles over the years with my kids and some moms may be better at winning them all, but I am ok with losing a few, I will however fight hard for the ones I want to win.

In my eyes, the twos {a whole month in} are amazing!  They are magical. Gianna still has this beautiful innocence, but astonishment and excitement about the world around her.  She is constantly learning new things, she is kind, she is loving, she doesn't judge.  She sings, dances and enjoys life.  She is sweet and independent and so so amazing!  Yes, she has moments that make me cringe, that make me want to pull my hair out, that make me want a shot of vodka {or ten}, but don't we all have those moments? Yes, toddlers are challenging, because most of them don't grasp the concept of "No" or "we don't do that because, ..."or "If you do that, this is going to happen."  But, most toddlers are so loving and that has to count for something.

I can't wait to see what the rest of the two's has in store for us.  I can't wait to see Gianna grow up with her brother as he learns to sit up, to play with toys and to walk.  I love watching her learn and grow and of course she has some "terrible" moments, but she is amazing, the two's are amazing!  They are magical!


Sarah [NurseLovesFarmer.com] said...

We never hit the terrible two's, he just got a bit sassy at about 3.5 years! Amazing how different kids can be!

Kiara Buechler said...

Twos were fun! They were a bit challenging, or so we thought, then three hit. Like whoa. Good thing they are the cutest things in the world to balance out the insanity!