03 December 2013

My kids & the Internet.

I've been asked before, about all of the info and pictures I post of my kids online and if I worry about privacy and all of that.

And the answer to that is.... sometimes. But not usually.

I mean, obviously, I don't post things like our address, the names of the kids schools, or specific information about where we live. And I don't post any immodest photos of my boys prancing around naked or anything. It sucks we have to think about creepers and worry about privacy. It more than sucks. But, I feel that I'm doing my due diligence in protecting the important information, while still running a public blog. And my last name being included everywhere, well, I own a photography business that contains my last name and it's all over the internet already, so I really can't "hide" it.

But of course from time-to-time, I wonder if I share TOO much information. How much is too much, though? I think it's a personal decision. The problem with social media, is that people can pretty much gain access to all your channels if they want, even your personal FB page, no matter what we do to protect them.  If someone really wanted to get pictures of my kids or anything other information, they could. Privacy is hard to come by in this day & age.

So that being said, I guess what I'm trying to say, is that unless I want to remove myself from social media ALL together (including my blog, facebook, fanpage, instagram, twitter..etc) then I don't really see the point in worrying about putting pictures of my kids on my blog. This is MY space to do with what I want, I will always take precautions, but I want a place to share my photos & stories, ya know?


I've also been asked if at some point, I will stop sharing so much about my kids and their lives. That's a good question. Will they care when they get older? Will they want their pictures plastered on my blog for all to see? One can only hope they won't mind, I mean, I AM a photographer so taking pictures is my livelihood. And the purpose of this blog is to have sort of an online journal for them to look back on. Not only to read stories about themselves as children, but for them to get to know me better as well. And not just as their Mother, but as a person. So.....I will continue to blog what's on my heart, and that will include pictures of my children. And by doing this, I realize that my photos WILL BE STOLEN. It's inevitable. It sucks... but basically, people suck. I won't let them ruin it for me. But... they can have fun trying to get my watermark off. ;-)

I will tell you one thing, though, the minute my children ask me to stop blogging about them, I will. No questions asked.

How about you?? How do you feel about privacy and posting pictures of your kids? And do you think it's OK to share so much of your lives online?

15 comments:

Pieni Lintu said...

I don't share photos with my kids' faces, names etc. And I use watermarks too!

amber.m said...

Yup yup! couldn't have said any of this better myself!

Holly Sosa said...

I love this post. I totally agree.

Loyal RUN said...

I agree with you! I am so glad you share pics and info of your boys. I may have all girls but it's nice to be able to relate to different subjects. Plus they are so darn cute!!

beckyj @ A Lazy Crazy Life said...

I feel similarly. Although my blog is much smaller than yours, it's still public, accessible to anyone. I take precautions like watermarking photos (fully inspired by an older post of yours!) not showing our address, and I don't even have our last name or hometown anywhere on my blog. I also made sure to turn off geo-tagging on my phone. But unless I become a total hermit, I won't feel bad about posting pictures of my kids on social media because someone could just as easily take their own photo of my child while we're at Target. I love having such an easy way to share photos with friends and family. I do fear they day my boys tell me to quit blogging about them though. :)

Kiara Buechler said...

I feel exactly as you do, unless we remove ourselves completely then we cannot expect any privacy.

Sarah Halstead said...

Totally agree. I think it is really hard too since we own photography businesses connected to our name. So if they went to our photography facebook page then they would see the city where we are and where we like to take photos, etc.... So I just try to take precautions but also try to trust that we will be protected.

MJ said...

Totally agree. I often wonder if my kids will ever mind that they were/are the subject of my blog? I also try and remind myself about why I chose to start my blog. It's their baby books of sorts. Just be smart about what your post. Good post. :)

Jazmyn said...

I have a hard time with this. I go back and forth all the time about it. I recently took down my blog because a couple of people were making me feel extremely uncomfortable and I just felt as if I needed to lay low and hide for a bit. But at the same time I love blogging and sharing with friends and family so it's kind of hard to just stop. Like you said unless we give up all social media pretty much anyone can gain access.

Jess Beer said...

I have about the same outlook as you. I figure if people really want to steal my photos, they will no matter what I do. The internet isn't private. I just feel the pros outweigh the cons.

Joni said...

I see things in the same perspective that you do. And honestly, as a mother of an 11, 14, and 15 year old, I can tell you that my children personally could care less about my blog. Like you, and most people, I would never blog their most private information, or inappropriate photos, and those are pretty much the same guidelines they live by as well. Other than being reassured that that isn't happening, they never even read my blog even though they are welcome to do so. They definitely don't share it with their friends either. I am just grateful that they trust me and allow me to have a space of my own to share about them in a tasteful manner.

Fran said...

Totally agree! Interesting story, for one of my classes this quarter we read up on privacy and information. One of the articles was from a journalist comparing privacy concerns online vs. privacy concerns 20-30 years ago. What I found interesting is that 20-30 years ago he hired a private detective as an experiment to see how much someone could find out about you if they really wanted, all he gave the detective was his name in the by-line of an article, which is an alias. Within weeks the detective not only showed up at his house but knew everything from his mother's maiden name to his social security number to where he had been the night before. This year instead of a private detective he hired a hacker and gave him the same information, similar results, only the hacker got into his computer and wracked havoc instead of showing up at his door step. Moral of the story, if someone really wants to find out about you, they will, whether you're online or not lol

Courtney said...

I love this post! I agree whole heartedly. It's my blog, it's my baby book, it's what I want to share....so I'll share it :)

Kristin Turnbow said...

I totally agree with this!

Bianca said...

I totally agree with you! I don't think there is any right/wrong answer. I remember when facebook and instagram joined up and I freaked out a little bit as I realised that I probably was sharing a little too much. I then closed down my blog and started a new one that I was more wise with. I do still share photos of my kids all the time though. It's a lifestyle blog they are a huge part of my life! I'm just more careful. I would be sad if you didn't share so much on your blog as I love it. :)