05 December 2013

#sendhelp

I actually had a different post planned for today, but you know what? I needed to write and get this off my chest, because currently, I am in need of therapy of some kind or you might find me in the looney bin. I try pretty hard to avoid writing whiny/complaining posts, because well, I don't like to be THAT person. But dudes, I'm just gonna be real with you today.

Imagine listening to nails on a chalkboard all day. That's how whiny children sound to me. I can handle quite bit of whining actually, I really can. But there comes a point, like when a child whines literally all the live long day....where I just feel like I'm going to lose my ever-loving mind.

The past month or so, my littlest child, the one that I used to refer to as my "angel baby" that could do no wrong... has turned into a tiny terror. Running around torturing our family with his incessant whining and crying. I always felt it was too good to be true, how blessed we were to have such happy-go-lucky baby, that it was only a matter of time that his true toddler colors would show! Teething? Maybe. But I have yet to see any swelling or teeth breaking through. Growth spurt? Perhaps. Or just a battle of the wills? But oh my heavens, I am not over-exaggerating when I say that Easton whines and cries over every. little. thing. I try hard to savor the happy moments in between, the ones I so often blog about. But those moments feel like they are getting fewer as the days go on.

I have gotten so desperate that I am willing to give him ALL the things he wants, anytime he wants them, just to stop the whining. Which I'm sure, is only perpetuating the problem. Go ahead, tell me I'm being ridiculous, every child goes through these phases. Ugh.


I guess I just need to throw it out there, ya know, into the mommy blogging atmosphere. As much as I don't wish any of your kiddos are driving you as batty as mine is, I just wanna hear I'm not alone.

Obviously, it goes without saying that I love my little Easton to death. But man, that kid knows how to get under my skin like whoa.

"This too shall pass..." Right???

21 comments:

amber.m said...

Easton and Owen would be absolute best friends. I'm convinced of it.
Actually, I'm probably wrong. They'd probably set out to destroy each other just to make us that much crazier!

In all seriousness, I feel your pain! I swear I never remember Fin & Maddie acting this crazy! I don't know what to do or how to handle it and the fact that he is my 3rd, I'm just stressed like a lot of the times trying to just please him while still being mom to Fin & Maddie. Parenting is hard! INTERNET HUGS!!!

Jess Beer said...

I so wish I could help...but Abbie's just now becoming a toddler...and already whines. Seriously, how do they learn it so early?!?

Sarah [NurseLovesFarmer.com] said...

*knock on wood* Braden was never reeeeeeeally whiny until now! When he can use his words to be whiny. If Ethan is a bit whiny it's usually because he's hungry or tired! One of my favorite tricks is daytime baths! They both just love it!

Valerie Scott said...

I know EXACTLY what how you feel Mandy! My mom is always reminding me that "this to shall pass" but it's still difficult to save my patience some days and I often end up giving/doing almost anything to make him a happy boy. You are definitely not alone:)

Michelle Irish said...

I never comment, but oh.my.word I can so relate right now! I have a 1.5 yo who is currently in front of the tv (something I'm not ok with doing) just so that "the sound" stops and I get a second of peace! I can see new teeth coming in, I hope it is over with soon.

m&msmommy said...

I'd rather hear some of the most annoying sounds on the planet before I hear whining because it literally drives.me.insane! Unfortunately my almost 4 and almost 8 year old are in an exceptionally whiny stage, throw in lack of sleep (for me) because I have a cranky 11 week old, and well, you get the picture! ;) So no, you aren't alone, yes it will pass, but that doesn't make it any better! ;) This parenting thing is hard and sometimes don't you want to be the one sitting in the corner whinig and crying?!?! ;) I might try that next time! ;) Of course we love them, but sometimes it's just plain tough!

Michelle said...

I really think it is the age as Mason just started doing this exact same thing. I say we put them in a room together and we eat junk food without them looking. Stay strong!

Mandey Ejiasi said...

Some days Isaiah literally whines the majority of the day. Not over anything at all. He just clings to me, sits on me wherever I am and just whines, non-stop, making noise. It's exhausting. Usually he's just doing it for attention, and I try not to get frustrated (although I always do) and try to remember the whining means something. It really doesn't make it less annoying though.

Gretchen said...

Max has started throw down yelling and growling fits --- I too, find myself giving in to whatever he wants to just calm him. It's amazing how loud they can get!

Linds said...

oh girl. I feel you. Part of me wonders if it is birth order, because myself along with ALL of my friends have 2nd born children who are SO SO SO whiny. About everything. Of course, my other two also whine and have moments, so obviously it's not JUST my 2nd one, but for some reason it seems like he has more episodes than have been typical of my first born. Hang in there... you are not alone!

Kiara Buechler said...

Sorry mama. Good thing he is so darn cute. Dane never went through a phase where he whined constantly, but I think we are in for it with Q.

Lindsy Brock said...

I feel ya! My 2 year old is INSANNNE. "Raising Your Spirited Child" has helped us tremendously in learning how to deal with the whining. It came highly recommended by ... just about everyone! Good luck. Dont be afraid to lock him in his room or lock yourself in yours. It's ok. Take a break to recharge!

Laura Railing said...

Sorry girl. It sucks, that's all I can say! I have SO little patience for it, especially after working at a daycare! The best advice I can give is lots of sanity time away from him when you can, and positive reinforcement. If he doesn't have words yet, have him sign. It's a great way to teach manners. you'll make it through it!!! Maybe you should whine back at him lol

Stephanie Clark said...

It's like there's this period of time when they just can't have any rational emotion. Jonah has been super crazy over the last month and this past week or more he's had an undiagnosed ear infection and OMGEE!! I can't wait for some reasoning skill to kick in!

Aileen Johnston said...

I feel your pain! My 16 month olds favourite hobby is whinging and it does my head in!! I absolutely adore her and we tried for 5 years to have her but sometimes as I listen to her whinge (for no apparant reason!) I sometimes wonder why we tried so hard :) Then I feel guilty as so many people I know can't have children and last month my friend lost her 4 hour old newborn which is just horrific. However when it's 5pm at night and she ABSOLUTELY REFUSES to get in her high chair and is whinging and crying and just generally being a pain in the neck I do seriously think of paying someone to take her away from me for a very long time! I cannot wait until she starts speaking so I can understand what it is she wants from me. Sorry lots of waffling to say you are not alone and hang in there!!

Lindsay Daile said...

This made me laugh out loud! I have a little boy probably about the same age as yours, he is the youngest and has a big sister...I call his fits "little brother syndrome" because it sounds like he's a spoiled little baby! He too is the joy of the household as usually he is the happiest...but when this kid whines OMG!! He DOESN'T STOP! Ugh!

Joni said...

All kids have their quirks I guess, and I pretty much cry on a daily basis now because my two youngest girls drive me insane. I am probably the one whining around here because they can be so exhausting. They used the ladder to their bunk bed to climb out the window in the wee hours of the morning recently. Enough said! Ahhhhhhh! I feel your frustration!

ADSchill said...

yes, we have talked about this. Oh the WHINE! I feel the same way - it's so hard to listen to, especially when it's for almost NO reason. I set Coop down, he whines. I lay him for a nap, he cries. I give him the wrong thing for breakfast, he growls at me. Etc...

Just be happy kid!

Faith said...

Bless your heart!! I remember when Eli went through that. It was awful. I started putting him in his bed whenever he whined - we live in a one story so it wasn't too bad - maybe you could set up a little pack-n-play somewhere out of the way. Eli responded really well to this and it helped the screaming/whining. Also we use sign language. He had to sign please before he got ANYTHING and if he continued fussing he'd go to bed - and we did this over and over and over. It was time consuming and exhausting but it was a LOT better than the whining. Definitely don't take this lightly - if you let him get away with this now you will have to deal with it later and it'll be harder to correct! Love that you share the less pretty parts of your life :) you're such a great mommy-blogger.

Liz Luscomb said...

Nope. You're definitely not alone. And yes, "This too shall pass..." Just wait until the "tween" years come. I have the pleasure of one "tween" and two toddlers....so yeah, I get it.

Krista said...

We had a day last week where I just started laughing at my 3 year old. Literally everything out of her mouth was whining and I was going to lose my mind. I felt like a crazy woman laughing at my kid who was being quite annoying, but hey, it beats screaming or crying. You're not alone--and I'm gald I'm not either!