08 January 2014

I'll take right now

The boys and I were doing some shopping at the grocery store, and we made a stop at the bakery to get some doughnuts. We made our way to the lounge area, I got the boys situated into their chairs and started to eat our breakfast. They were, of course, making messes, spilling water, climbing up and down on the chairs & generally just being obnoxious. And I'm sure that my frustration was apparent.

About 20 ft from me, a little old man was sitting by himself, sipping on a cup of coffee. I could see him mumbling to himself, and continually looking up and staring at the kids. To be honest, it made me a little uncomfortable, only because I didn't know what he was saying. A few minutes of this passed before he started to speak louder and then I heard him say "Hello Miss. You've got yourself some cute little boys." I smiled and thanked him for his compliment. He continued to talk, but again, I couldn't hear him very well, his voice was so faint and remember, rowdy kids. I asked him to speak up. Next he said "I've been right where you are before. I have two sons and a daughter. Enjoy them now because they get to be a pain in the butt later!"

When you're in the thick of wiping snotty faces, handling poopy diapers, diffusing ridiculously epic temper-tantrums, sweeping the floor fifty times a day, making meals, dealing with sleep issues & your sanity is hanging by a thread... Doesn't it feel like it can't get much harder as a parent?? At least that's how I feel sometime. You know, when I'm in the midst of it all. Because lets be real, these tiny people and all of their dependency, takes a toll. Doesn't it? Like... oh my gosh can I just go pee by myself. Please. Please?? Please?!

But what that man said. "Enjoy them now, because they will get to be a pain in the butt later!", it really resonated with me. Two things crossed my mind immediately after he said that.

"That guy is crazy, ages 1 & 3 is probably the hardest stage ever!"

...and then...

"Wait. How would I know?"

And there it is. With just a few short sentences, that little old man had no idea the epiphany he prompted. My snotty-dependent-diaper wearing little people are probably so much easier now, than their future back-talking-rebellious-teenage selves will be. Because I imagine that's the stage he had in mind when he told me "they become pain in the butts later!".

The rest of that day, I spent putting things into perspective. I made a decision to try and do better at taking the bad with the good. And appreciate how precious my little boys are. Enjoy the fact that they NEED me, as opposed to wishing they'd do things for themselves. Because one day? One day they won't need me like that anymore. They will want to do things their way, on their time. They will no longer think hugs and kisses are awesome. And in fact, they will hate them. My little boys will grow up and probably spend a better part of their tween/teenage years resenting Philip and I.

But that day isn't today.

Today, my children love me unconditionally. And I think they even like me sometimes. So... I'll take it, I'll take right now. Just the way they are.



17 comments:

Jess Beer said...

So sweet. I have little sisters, so I have an idea what I'm in for, and I'm not looking forward to Abbie developing the ability to talk back!

Bethany Hutton said...

This is a great post and a great reminder!

Sarah [NurseLovesFarmer.com] said...

I often think this to myself - enjoying the unconditional love my boys show me right now, because nothing is guaranteed as they get older :( I pray that I'll always have a good relationship with my boys and they'll grow hearts for God and always put family as a priority!

Angie said...

We had a rough morning at our house. I needed this reminder today! Love your blog by the way.

fifth house on the left | family blog said...

you're so right! this stage {14 months and almost 3 year old boys} is the TOUGHEST. holy man! my sanity is one step short on the way to crazy town. the thought of it getting worse freaks me the f out. you put this into good prespective because i fear the day they don't want to kiss me or cuddle me or give me hugs anymore. they love me like crazy birds right now and some days all i want them to do is stop stretching out my clothes and hanging on me and give me a kid free moment so i can do the dang dishes. i feel awful for even thinking that way some days {lately most often than not}, but i really just need to hunker down and enjoy the right now because they will soon want nothing to do with me. be all about their dad. then be all about their friends and want nothing to do with being home or spending time with us. ugh. now i'm stressed! ;) thank you for the great reminder today :)

Wildali @ These are the times... said...

We all need to work on this. Let's enjoy the "now". Some things seem to get easier, but others get a lot more complicated for sure. Great post!

Steffie said...

What a great reminder! So easy to get caught up and these precious moments are fleeting.

Steffie said...

What a great reminder! So easy to get caught up and these precious moments are fleeting.

Kaymee said...

Such a great reminder, that we can never hear enough! When my 4 year old is driving me crazy, I try to stop and think that he will only be this little for so long, and all too soon I'll be missing this stage he's at now.

m&msmommy said...

LOVE this!!!! Even though I work outside of the home, I too have those feelings sometimes of JUST LET ME PEE BY MYSELF! and then feel guilty for having them because I'm not with them for 8 hours a day! :( but yes, as that old man said, this is probably the easiest stage we'll go through! Eekkkk, I can't imagine! ;)

Kate said...

My husband and I have been talking so much about this lately. Our kids are 1, 3 and 11. The 11 year old is pretty mellow, but he has his snotty attitude back-talking moments. But the 1 and 3 year old are trying my patience a lot the past 2 weeks to much frustration on my part! I keep saying that one day we'll miss a lot of this stuff but I because of the 11 year old I have a pretty good idea of what is in store for us! And I think we're in trouble! :)

Amanda M. said...

I have to agree with the old and wise expert! I have a 19 year old (and then my little ones, ages 7 and 5) and I'll say this: my 19 year old keeps me up more nights than my little ones. It is so hard to be the parent of adult children.... My oldest son moved out of my house almost a year ago, against his better judgment. He's had a year of freedom and has realized that it's tough being an adult. He wants to come back home, but he's involved in things that I can't allow at my house. So ~ I have to be the "tough love" mom, filled with guilt, but teaching him a very hard lesson..... My heart breaks a little more every single day because of that boy. It certainly makes me hug my little ones tighter and makes me appreciate the little things more.

Tara said...

Amen to that sista! :)

Fran said...

So sweet, I love this post <3

{Katie} said...

Cute pictures of your boys! I always think about this! It's so hard right now, but I don't want mine to grow up. I already get sad about it. My sister, who just sent her oldest to college, says that the days go by slow, but the years go by fast. It sure puts things in perspective!

Amanda Jillian B said...

I'm kind of worried about what mine will be like as teens cause they are sooooo like me and my mom and me and mom were very rebellious as teens!

Hayley! said...

I love this! Such a good point! My toddler is a crazy man sometimes and can frustrate me to no end, but he loves me and I am soaking in this stage since I know he won't happily give me a big ol' wet one on my mouth forever!