06 February 2014

Why do you take so many selfies??

I wanna talk about something sort of silly.

Selfies.

Why do bloggers and Instagrammers take so many darn selfies?? It seems kind of narcissistic and ego-centric, doesn't it? I used to think so.

Just hear me out.

I can't speak for everyone, but this is my 2 cents on the selfie thing. Since having kids, my world revolves around them. Shocker, right?? But really. Everything is about the kids. They pretty much rule my life. I hate to admit this but a lot of myself, my hobbies, my goals... get lost in being a Mother. I think it's natural, to an extent, right?? I'm trying to do better about fitting in more time for ME. But I'll save that for another post.

Like most Mothers, I like to take tons of pictures of my kids. My blog consists of mostly topics about them and cute photos of them. My Instagram feed? 90% Bennett & Easton. Which is totally to be expected.

But you know what? I STILL EXIST. I am, after all, the person writing here. I am the voice behind all of the stories and pictures. Even though I get lost in the shuffle sometimes, my life and my existence are still very much significant, outside of being a Mother. I like to talk about myself sometimes. Does that make me conceited? Not at all. It means that I like to express myself as a human being, as a women.

So I take pictures of myself sometimes because I like to look back in a sea of photos and see that I'm still important in my own life. I like to remind myself that my thoughts and feelings still matter, that people out there still actually care to interact with me personally, and not just a Username. Hoping this all makes sense.. I could go on and on abotu this but I think you get the point, yes? it's just been something I've been thinking about lately.

So my suggestion to all of you. Is to get in front of the camera more. Do you need to share a picture of yourself every day? Not at all, because obviously, excessive selfies can be overwhelming to your readers and followers. But every once in a while, yes, take more of those ridiculous selfies. People might make fun of you and you might feel like a dork. But I don't think you will regret it later. And your kids won't either. I think they will enjoy looking back and seeing you, as you are right now. Because what you are right now, it's important, and so is this time in your life.

{on the left: I was talking about my excitement for a date night I was going on. on the right: I was explaining a major milestone I hit with my exercise. BOTH important things in my life}


16 comments:

Harrovian Mama said...

I think this is really interesting as (mostly) I'm only in a picture if I'm with one of my kids. However, I think sometimes my instagram feed can be overwhelmed with selfies. When its a new haircut or glasses or cute top, then I am happy to like and comment but sometimes when there are the repeated 'I'm feeling ugly today...' and the wait for the expected compliments and reassurance that it gets a little tiresome. We ALL have days when we can do with a compliment from online friends but when some people look to instagram for constant reassurance, I find a little sad and worrying. Beauty on the inside is what really counts right?! :)

Paige (The Last Doughnut) said...

I'm with you on the selfies. Sometimes I am having a bad day at work, and think I look as crappy as I feel. One quick selfie reminds me of how I really look, that I am of value, and that I should just smile and be happy!

gracie@ohgraciepie said...

I completely agree! I was looking back through my photos on my phone the other day because I needed a good head shot to practice photo editing on. I realized I barely had any, in fact the last photo I had that included my own face in it was from months ago. The rest of the album was Clark, the cat and random shots of clothes in stores that I wanted to add to my Amazon Wishlist. It was a little depressing.

Courtney said...

Team Selfie!! I don't have a problem with them....ever really.

Rebecca said...

I could not agree more, nor could I have said it better! Preach it sister! You are so right and more women need to approach the whole "selfies" posts with a clearer vision of the heart behind it. And your heart is beautiful!

Sarah [NurseLovesFarmer.com] said...

I rarely take selfies and I feel like I should take more....

Rj and Jessie said...

I agree completely!

Marie Luciano said...

I know a person from my high school that takes at least 4 selfies a day I don't mind them normally but when she does it it pisses me off lol

Gretchen said...

I love blogger selfies! It really helps me connect with them and put a face to their writing :) The more I "see" them, the more I feel like we're friends!

Jannatul JFR said...

like your selfies ♥

changeismyonlyconstant said...

Such a great way to look at the selfie! I feel like I could get sucked into the forgetting of myself once I have kids. This post helped to remind me not to lose me!

~Katy

Stephanie Clark said...

I completely agree with this and I have had a post about how to get in the shot kind of waiting to be finished. I have gotten better at it when we are at events, etc. But recently with instagram, I've noticed if I post a photo with me in it, I get I lot of responses that I don't get with my everyday kiddo stuff, but it makes sense - people are following ME.

Tara said...

I so agree! I have totally lost myself this first year of Adeline's life. I am working on being me and a mom. I am learning to make myself a priority. And I think selfies are a great way to make me aware of myself! I think for the first 8 months of Adeline's life I didn't look in the mirror. And then the past 4 months I don't like what I see in the mirror! So I find I don't look! Now I am trying to make a purpose to love me as I am, and work on bettering it! :)

Fran said...

Agree, completely! It's important to get in front of the camera every once in a while!

Lynda Lippin said...

Today I learned about a new trend I wish I didn't know about - teens taking selfies with homeless people, often when the homeless person is asleep or passed out. Just wrong! Stopping by from SITS comment love.

Marcy Knopf said...

What a great point to make. Just the other day my daughter was having her b-day party & I took a million and 1 photos. I stopped for a moment and thought that I should have someone take one of me & my girl. I didn't and really wished that I did. Thanks for the reminder that I matter too! SITS sis here! =) Marcy @ day2day SuperMom