I try not to be what people refer to as a "helicopter" parent. I try not to hover, and in fact, I do my best to give my children a certain amount of freedom. Freedom to just be kids, and explore & find adventures, and sometimes, I even let them take risks. Because how will they ever learn boundaries if they don't understand consequences?
Being a Mom, heck, being human, I know that accidents happen. It's literally impossible for me to keep tabs on my children 24/7, and in all honesty, I wouldn't want to. Even though my children are running, climbing, risk-taking little energizer bunnies that never -- ever -- stop, I have sort of just accepted that. I put effort into just letting them just BE sometimes.
It's hard to predict when certain behaviors are going to result in injuries. With little kids, you know it's inevitable. But even knowing that, when your child gets hurt, regardless of the circumstance, you can't help but feel like there is something you could have, should have done, to prevent it. Or is that just me??
This is, I'm assuming what was happening when Easton fell yesterday:
I have been criticized before for letting my kids climb on furniture. And after Easty got hurt the other day, part of me felt guilty for allowing this behavior to happen in our home. Do I encourage it? No. But after months and months of asking Bennett (when he was younger) to stop jumping/climbing on the furniture, I've sort of just made a choice to let it go. He obviously wasn't listening and I could repeat the same thing 100 times, and put him in time out, and take things away as punishment, and it wouldn't stop my child from bounding across the couch every other minute. So when Easton started doing the same thing, I wasn't surprised.
I can't be sure that he was climbing on the chair when he fell and cracked his head, but if that's what he was doing, I absolutely feel partly to blame because I've allowed the boys to be act like monkey's in our house.
So the guilt crept in and for a minute, it made me question my parenting choices. Should I try to implement new rules? Should I be more strict with certain things? I don't know. But I do know that I can't always prevent these things no matter what I do. So even though it's hard, I've been fighting the guilt off, reminding myself that I'm a good Mom -- even if I do let me kids get a little wild sometimes. It's hard to put this all out there because it makes me feel vulnerable and I don't like that feeling. I'm just hoping that by sharing some of the things I've been thinking about, that others will be able to relate.
What do you do when Mom Guilt starts to take over?