22 May 2014

An ordinary life.

Growing up, I always had this vision of what my life would be. I suppose I pictured the "American Dream" of sorts. Husband, kids, a good job, a house... etc. And now that I'm here, it isn't all that it's cracked up to be. But let me rewind for a minute before that's taken out of context.

What did I think life would be like? Well, first thing, is that I never assumed I would stay at home. (re: Not What I Intended), so that part is a little different then I envisioned. But even after I decided to stay at home with my kiddos -- I envisioned a picture perfect life, with a perfect balance of laziness + tons of adventure. Like....my kids would be fantastic listeners, they would sleep through the night (and sleep in!), we'd play all day and do fun things, go on tons of glamorous family vacations, do arts & crafts together, laugh and get along all of the time, and somehow I'd still manage to get dressed and look super cute every where I went.

I had no idea what to expect out of my life once we decided to have kids. Let's just say I was naive. Because the truth is, the day-to-day of being a Stay At Home Mom isn't glamorous. I go makeup-less on most days, hardly ever get dressed, and I struggle to keep what little bit of me, that I have left. My family and I get sick of each other on the daily, we definitely don't take extravagant vacations, and  there ain't no sleepin' in going on around here... that's for darn sure. And most of the time? We're one big hot mess.

And to put it simply, my life is boring. So boring in fact, that as the kids and I were sitting downstairs playing, I started brainstorming ways to spruce things up. To make things more interesting.

Because I'll admit it. Sometimes I get yanked into the web of social media and I see all these amazing adventures that other families are taking their kids on. Or super cool experiences other people are having. It's a trap you know... comparing your life to someone else's. Thinking to yourself "wish that could be us!"

But then. This started happening.

After I stopped recording, this giggle fest went on for another couple of minutes. I literally sat there, engulfed in the the two of them looking at each other, and laughing. They were sitting there, doing pretty much nothing, but perfectly content with our ever so boring lives, and with each other.

Them? They don't need amazing vacations, lots of material things and extraordinary experiences. They just need each other. They just need their parents to be there for them, and to enjoy these little moments with them, and not to take them for granted.

And me? I sort of had an epiphany. I love my ordinary life, bring on the boring.


Andrea said...

This is exactly what I needed to read this morning!

Jess Beer said...

They are too adorable! And I agree, sometimes ordinary and boring is the best.

Loyal RUN said...

I would never have guessed that you are "ordinary and boring".
You do so much with your little ones and they will remember that as the grow older.
You are more involved in your children's daily lives than most parents these days.
So don't ever get down when you want to relax :) Just enjoy it!

Sarah [NurseLovesFarmer.com] said...

My boys are really starting to bond too, just love those giggles!

Gretchen said...

YES! And I totally hear ya on rarely getting dressed - when I do, it's photographed and shared, lol! Jem and Max's giggle fests and dance sessions bring me tons of joy too. Granted, I wouldn't complain if they happened on a luxurious beach somewhere, but all in all, life is very good and I count myself blessed!

Renee said...

So true!! This morning i showered (including hair wash and legs shaved) and got dressed, and i desperately want to write a blog post about it!lol I think tv and such really set us up for disappointment in the 'dream' department! I had the same thoughts on how it was all going to be...Big Let Down! Until i realised that life is pretty flippen Awesome as it is, in all its 'boring' and pj filled glory!! I've just changed my definition of boring :).....Besides, too much excitement and my boys have really bad sleeps!!

Laura Railing said...

Amen!!! Plus just a little secret: there is never "more" that will ever be enough.there is always something bigger and better and in the process of chasing after more and better, we completely miss the adorable blessed moments that are our "right now." Like that giggle fest! So sweet!

Jesse Blair-French said...

That is so cute!! This is such a relatable post, even though I don't have kids.

Tania T said...

Oh Mandy..when I read ypur posts, sometimes I feel like we are soulmates.Anyway..Well, what if we had a boring life?We still don't miss the "POW" .Right?