02 June 2014

To be a Boy Mom.

Growing up, and even into my early 20's, I always saw myself as a Girl Mom. You know, doing girly things like taking my daughters to gymnastics and ballet class, painting fingernails, and playing dress up. It's probably because I grew up in a house with a single Mom and I had only one sister. Plus, the only cousin I ever got to know was also a girl.... so... girl is all I knew.

With my first pregnancy, as soon as I saw that positive pregnancy test, something inside me knew immediately I was having a little boy. I can't explain why or how I knew, but I did, and I never questioned it or felt disappointed. I just had this overwhelming feeling of peace & comfort come over me. So when it was confirmed at my 18 week appointment that we were in fact, having a boy, I wasn't at all surprised.


Fast forward to my second pregnancy. The first few weeks after I found out, I didn't have a feeling either way what the gender was. But about a week before I had an early u/s, that same overwhelming feeling came over me again. And I just knew that Bennett was going to have a baby brother. And just like that, I found out it was another boy I was carrying... and again... I wasn't shocked to hear it. The amount of excitement I felt when I found out we were expecting another little boy, it's indescribable.

People continue to ask me if I'm going to "try for a girl" someday. And the answer is NO. Absolutely not. For one thing, I don't have any say in what the gender of my children are going to be. And 2nd, I wouldn't want to. It's not that I don't think that I could be happy with girls, because believe me, I would be elated. And maybe one day, I will experience life with a daughter. It's just that I strongly believe that God sent these 2 boys to me because they were meant to be a part of my family. And me? I was obviously supposed to be the Mother of boys, they have taught me so much about myself, and about life. My boys, specifically, make me a better person.


Life is always an adventure with boys. They run, they climb, and they jump off dangerously high places, and give you a panic attack every other minute of the day. They have more energy than should be humanly possible in those tiny little bodies of theirs, and chaos is basically normal.

But their tiny beautiful hearts... they belong to me right now. 

It gives me all kinds of warm fuzzies to know that I'm the only girl in the world that exists to them. I'm kind of the Queen of this palace, you know what I'm saying? And I'll admit it -- I kinda love that. The day they give their hearts to another girl... is the day my heart will break into tiny little pieces. I'll be happy, but I will be weepy, too. I mean, these are my baby boys I'm talking about.

But I digress.




There's something so incredible about a Mother's bond with her son(s). It's unlike anything I've ever experienced or felt before. Through all the wreaking of havoc, to be a boy Mom, is my calling. To raise these little men up right, so that one day, they will treat a very lucky lady the way she deserves. And be the kind of Father's that their kids can depend on and be proud of.

So to all those that keep telling me that I need to "try again for a little girl".... my response to you is this:

To be a boy Mom is my greatest blessing to date, and I wouldn't change it for the world! If & when we ever have another baby, if I'm being totally honest, I wouldn't mind a house full of boys. Bring it on.

43 comments:

ashlyebrink said...

So funny you should post this. I had almost the same exact conversation with my family this weekend. How timely... I am also from a family with a single-mom (for the most-part when I was growing up) with one little sister. All I know is girls. And then I had a boy. And I knew it was meant to be. For a reason. And like you, I wouldn't trade it for the world. It is kind of the best thing ever. Thank you for sharing :)

Isabel Velazquez said...

What a sweet post. Makes me think of having boys a little differently. I'm sure it is so different with boys on a daily basis. Thanks for explaining how life has been with them. :)

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Jasmine Maria said...

I feel the same way about your post. I have two little boys but with my second pregnancy it was completely different and i just thought (and convinced myself) i was having a girl and when I went to check the gender they told me i was having a boy and I literally cried because thats not what i wanted but like you said God gave me two boys for a reason and I honestly wouldn't trade them for the world. Its hard being a boy mom sometimes because you want to be able to do girly things. Maybe in the near future who knows. lol

Jess Beer said...

I love this! It drives me crazy when people just assume you want both genders! I'll be good with whatever we have, whether it's a houseful of crazy hormone-charged girls, or if I get a boy in the mix.

Lizzie Simantz said...

So funny because I always pictured myself a boy mom (so did everyone who knows me) so when my first was a boy I was elated, then #2 was a girl and now I'm pregnant with #3 and it's a girl, funny how things work out but I am blessed to experience both!

Fran said...

this is such a sweet post, Mandy!

Logan Cantrell said...

Ohh man! This made me tear up and laugh. There is nothing like a little boy. :)

Life with Amberly said...

Such a sweet post and your boys are so cute!!! :)

Miranda Myrabev said...

Beautiful boys x

Jesse Blair-French said...

This is such a great post. I used to really worry about it because I thought I had absolutely no idea what I would do with boys if I had them as only child with mostly female friends, but lately I've just been feeling that "bring it on" attitude as well! I'll just be happy to have children someday; it makes no difference whether they're girls or boys! :)

Lauren said...

What a great response :) When I was a nanny to a little girl, the family got pregnant and wanted it to be a surprise and it turned out they had a boy. I grew to love that little boy so hard, it made me want a little boy instead of the usual girl wishes. Being a boy momma sounds amazing :)

Sarah [NurseLovesFarmer.com] said...

Slow clap to you from another boy mom of two. My great-grandma had EIGHT boys and no girls. There is no guarantee ever that you will get a girl no matter how many times you try. I always thought to myself if we had 2 boys it would be *extra* reason to have a third, to see if we could have a girl...but in all honesty girls kind of intimidate me. I know I'd love my daughter like everything if I ever have one and we'd learn from each other, etc....but boys are all I know right now and I love it. My SIL just had a little girl after having two boys, so I figure I'll just borrow my niece if I need a "daughter" moment :)

Miranda Ronevich said...

What a sweet post! It is completely obvious the love and passion you have for your boys. The bond is plain as day as I view your family through not only your blog but instagram as well. They really seem like the happiest little guys!

Discovery Street said...

As excited as i am to have another girl...i do wonder what it would be like to mother a son!

Kasi said...

Awe your post is so sweet! Your boys are precious and they are lucky to have a wonderful mom like you :)

Rebekah Clarke said...

Absolutely beautiful. We didn't find out gender the second time and I lost count of the times people asked 'do you hope it's a girl?' because our first is a boy. We had a girl, but I would have loved another boy too - I mean, look at those adorable button ups... so cute!!

The Girl who Loved to Write said...

This is so sweet! These pictures are priceless!

Charlie said...

Sweet, sweet post! Im super young to have kids right now, but I always say that I want to be a boy mom!

Laura Railing said...

I just love this!!! I absolutely love our two boys and for a while we felt like we were all done. That changed over time but I honestly would have been ok with another boy! Confession though: I totally cried at Adrian's ultrasound for a few seconds because I really wanted a girl! The sweet moment your heart falls in love though... Oh man. That does it :)

Sarah said...

yes yes and yes!
i had this same feeling when i was pregnant with crue. within 48 hours after taking that test i KNEW it was a boy. i told everyone. and sure enough, yep!

Carly said...

LOVE this, and your boys are adorable!

Caity @ Adventures Abroad Blog said...

Your boys are SO cute!! I always wonder about what type of family I'll have when that happens - we always say these things growing up like how many kids we want, what genders, what order, etc. etc. etc., but nothings ever certain! I try to not even have an idea of what I'd want, and just be excited for what I'm going to get!

onegentlemansperspective.com said...

This post definitely resonates with me on so many levels. A son learns what it means to be in the presence of a lady, through that of his mother. She can either enhance his perspective on the characteristics of a lady, or she can continue fueling that of bad behavior. In essence, she helps set the tone for his interaction with girls going forward. As much as a son learns how to be a gentleman through the lessons of his father, a mother's presence is just as important. Great post here...very nice message.

Errol | One Gentleman's Perspective

Christine Mondy said...

Oh my goodness, I love this! And you're my new favorite person. I have 3 boys and for quite a while, I thought this is someone's idea of a joke because I wanted a girl so badly. But over the years (and my 10 month old) I realized this is how it's meant to be. And finally a sense of relief has come over me. Lol, I am the same way when people ask me if I'm gonna try again for a girl. Nope, I am 80% sure I am done. I feel I'm at an age now where it's harder for my body to go through all of it. I am in the process of getting healthier and in shape so that's why there's a 20% chance I could still someday. ;)

Christine Mondy said...

And yay, another Washingtonian!

Anna said...

I love this post because although I don't have kids, I totally see myself as a girl mom....but I know that means I'll probably just have a bunch of boys. :p Your boys are truly lovely and you are definitely blessed to have two gorgeous, healthy little ones.

Tania T said...

I'm a boy mommy.I have always knew that some day I would have a boy.Yes from the early 20's..When I was pregnant I knew it from the first time.My little angel is everything to me.I didn't care if it was a boy or girl!But to be honest..I knew it..it was a boy!

Rachel Lynn said...

I am pregnant with my first...and it's a boy. I can't wait! I grew up in a house of women (single mom and little sister) and I'm looking forward to experiencing the difference. And I look forward to having as many children as God gives me in whatever gender they arrive in. :)

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[dianegatorfan] said...

Love this post mama! I can't wait to have my two boys and see their brotherly love. I did ballet and love shopping and I think there will be times where I will wish I had a daughter. But that doesn't mean I'd trade either of my boys for that experience!

Deidre Miller said...

I've always hoped I will be a boy mom. Love this post.

Starr Joy said...

First of all, your boys are so stinkin cute! I applaud you for loving and embracing the crazy! Boys are definitely a lot more of a handful than girls. You love your children and you're doing it right, mama! Besides, who wouldn't want to be the queen of the castle?

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Alicia Snow said...

And what adorable little boys they are!

Jessica Dimas said...

**Lump in the throat, tears in the eyes** Yes! As a mom of two boys myself, and also knowing before each ultrasound that they were boys, this post really hits home. Everyone says I need a girl, like having two boys is unfortunate. But I definitely feel otherwise!

Jodi said...

LOVE these photos! They are so cute.

Iris said...

Wow, lovely post and those photos- beautiful!

Renée @ The Good Hearted Woman said...

Such a sweet post. Your boys are adorable. Don't blink.

Kristine@thefoleyfam said...

Loved this post and your little men are so handsome! I need to do one on why I love being a girl mom :)

Jenn @ hello, rigby! said...

what a sweet post. your two boys are so lucky to have you! :)

Valerie Scott said...

Great post. Its so crazy but I have a somewhat similar post that has been sitting in my drafts for a while now. I am only a boy mom to one but it is way different than I ever thought it would be and I wouldn't change a thing. You have the cutest little guys. I enjoy watching them grow. I secretly hope that my next baby is a boy, it wouldn't bother me at all:)

Lana L. said...

So sweet - your boys are adorable! I'm a boy mama too - I have two sons that are 19 and 16 now. I've always loved being queen of the castle. I know I would have loved a little girl just as much, but I love being a mom to these two!

ADSchill said...

Those pictures kill me! I always thought I was meant to have a girl and it turn out I had two boys and a girl. That would have been perfect. However, since the only one I am raising is a boy I only know boys. It we are ever lucky enough to have a second I would welcome another boy. Brothers would warm my heart.

Brenda D Priddy said...

I love your prospective! I feel exactly the same way about my girls. I alway thought I would be a boy mom growing up. Would I love a son? Probably crazy much, but the idea of only daughters is amazing too! No matter what you have, being a parent is awesome.