15 July 2014

Guest post: 3 Ways to Encourage Your Children

Good morning everyone!! I'm currently relaxing and being lazy here in Idaho with my Husband's family, I brought my laptop with the intention of blogging but let's face it, that's hard to do with you're vacationing ;-) But I didn't want to leave the blog too quiet while we were gone! So I have Hayley here today to give us some words of Motherly wisdom! She blogs over at A Beautiful Exchange blog, so be sure to hop over and give her some love! She is such a sweetheart! :)


As a mom of one, I have really enjoyed learning and changing over the last two years. Often times, we have an idea of how we will do this or that when it comes to parenting, but if I've learned one thing about being a mom, it is that we have to be flexible, loving, and encouraging. I'll admit to you that I am not "parent of the year" and I don't have a whole lot of experience, but I am a firm believer that it is never to early to encourage your children. When we, as parents, search out opportunities to genuinely build up our kids, we are giving them something that they will carry with them forever--confidence and the knowledge that they are loved. As my two year old has become more testing with each passing day, I have found that it is even more important to encourage him consistently. Here are some ways that we can build up our kiddos:

Believe in their world.
This is applicable to kids of any age and never gets less important, even as they grow into pre-teens and teenagers. Kids have the greatest imaginations that have yet to be tainted by the discouragement of daily life, so take advantage of that. If your kid thinks that their colorful blocks are magic rocks that turn you into a princess, you should definitely walk around like you are the queen of the world. Even for little kids that just blab around, pretend that you know exactly what they are saying and laugh like it's the joke of the century. For those kids that are older, it is helpful to remember (or at least try to) things that we felt, said, or did at that age. As parents, we should remember not to write off something that our kids say "ruined their day" just because it seems petty stacked up against our "real" adult problems. If something makes our kids really discouraged, angry, or sad, let's figure out why and help them overcome that whether we think it's all that important or not.

Help them.
When they are frustrated trying to do something, ask them how you can help, then let them try again. Even if they don't get it right, tell them that they are doing a great job trying and that you admire their will to not give up. A calm compliment will keep them focused and away from frustration. My son in particular gets really frustrated when he feels like he can't do something, so sometimes it's hard not to just do it for him so that he won't cry or fuss. I have learned, though, that taking a moment here and there to really help him do something on his own makes him so proud of himself and helps him not get frustrated the next time he is unable to do that particular task.

Admit that you are flawed.
Take advantage of those teachable moments when you screw up. Share with them that even adults mess up sometimes and have to try hard every day not to make the same mistakes again. Helping them understand that "doing bad" is something that everyone struggles with will help them not get to "down"when they can't do something or mess up. 

I believe that these are tips that will be realistic, tangible ways to encourage your kids on a daily basis. Look for those moments where you can be a blessing to them and shower them in love.

How do you lift the spirits of your little ones?


18 comments:

Jordan Wise said...

Love that, believe in their world.

Neely said...

Really great way to look at things

Nay said...

This is a beautiful post - thank you.

Lauren said...

Wonderful tips, I think they are all attainable. :)

Kendall Rayburn said...

Such an amazing post - thank you for guest posting!!

Lissa Cole said...

I think too many parents get wrapped up in their own world that they forget to have fun and get lost in their childs world. I am glad you included that tip.

www.thatmamajama.com said...

Great post! Thanks! 😊

Ashley McCardia said...

This is an awesome post. These are things I also try to incorporate into my parenting.

Kiara Buechler said...

Great post!

Amby Felix said...

Great post. I agree in admitting that you are flawed. This comes in handy when your kids get a little older during heart to heart talks.

Jenn @ hellorigby! said...

even though i don't have kids myself, i think its important to keep these in mind for kids in the family and friends kids too!

Stefani said...

I love the idea of believing in their world - I have so much fun playing pretend with my daughter and I think it really helps to encourage her imagination and creativity! Thanks for a wonderful post! :-)

Chelsea Olivia said...

Love this! I don't have kids yet but when I do have them, I will certainly encourage them tons!

Carly said...

I am loving this post! It's so important to encourage our children!

Rebekah Clarke said...

Beautiful tips - I know it means the world to my son when I play pretend with him and 'believe in his world'!

Miranda Myrabev said...

Beautiful tips especially believing in their world

Kristine@thefoleyfam said...

Beautiful post and great reminders!

Brooke @ Youre in Brookelynn said...

What a lovely post! Great tips :)