05 July 2014

Seven Years Together & What I've Learned.

Today, Philip and I celebrate our 7 year anniversary!! Some days, it feels like we've been married a lot longer than seven years, and other times, it feels like it was yesterday! So much has changed since we've been married. Philip graduated college, we've moved 3 times, bought a house, had two children, I opened my photography business, I became a certified Rizzmic instructor, and we have both grown and changed a ton. We've had our ups & downs but here are some of the things I've learned about marriage over the last 7 years.

A little love note my Husband gave me this morning! *swoon*

I've learned that no matter how hard you try, you will probably not be the wife (or husband) you thought you would be.

I've learned that change is inevitable. You and your spouse will grow to be different people than when you were first married, don't try to change them. The goal should be to grow along side them, and be accepting.

I've also learned that any changes we make, should be with our family in mind. We should always be striving to improve & progress as individuals, and in turn, it will strengthen our marriage.

I've learned that sometimes, compromise doesn't actually always work. Contrary to what some experts might tell you, it isn't always possible to "meet in the middle" on things. Sometimes, you will have to make sacrifices to make your marriage work. Be willing to do that.

I've learned that when compromise isn't possible, and it is necessary for one person to make a sacrifice, be ready to reciprocate it when the time comes. Marriage is about give & take.

I've learned that in order to get through the hard times, you need laughter. Lots of it.

I've learned that you won't always like your spouse, they will disappoint you, and they will make mistakes.

I've learned that forgiveness isn't always easy, but it is essential. But apologetic and be forgiving.

I've learned that kids kill romance.

But I've always learned that you can find ways to do small things that count. You just need to put in the effort and be creative.

I've learned that saying "Thank You" goes a long way.

I've learned that even when you are upset with your partner, there are always things to appreciate in your spouse. Find those things, don't take them for granted.

I've learned that communication is probably the most important thing in a marriage. Open your mouth and speak (kindly) to your spouse and tell them how you're feeling. They can't change or fix anything if they don't know what you're thinking.

And the most important thing I've learned being married, is that life is always better, more fulfilling, when you have someone to share it with. Loving someone is the greatest gift in the world, it takes a lot of hard work to get it right, but it will be forever worth the effort.


Happy Anniversary to my wonderful Husband!! So happy that I get to do life with you!!!

26 comments:

Taneja's Bride said...

Both of you look great in your wedding photo! Happy 7th Anniversry and MANY MANY MORE! I love everything you wrote - it's all true! <3

Whitney M. @ The Married Me said...

I really enjoyed this! I love seeing people's views on marriage and what makes it work. Happy Anniversary!

Mohammad Shohel said...

Happy anniversary!

Becky Goerend said...

Happy Anniversary! I think communicate, communicate, communicate would be my advice to any newlywed. Very well said!

Lindsay Ropella said...

Happy Anniversary!! My husband and I will celebrate our 2nd anniversary in a few weeks. Even though I haven't had nearly as much experience as you, I can tell this is a perfect list! In just the few short years that I've been married, I've seen many of these first hand. Especially the "you will not always like your spouse" and that "compromise doesn't always work" but that marriage is totally worth it!! :)

ADSchill said...

Ooohh, don't forget that when things are rough and you need space before you blow-up, take a step away and have froyo with your sis. Then go back and talk with your spouse. ;) Happy Anniversary my sister. I hope all the rest to follow are filled with happiness.

Discovery Street said...

you speak truth girl! happy anniversary!

Jenn @ hellorigby! said...

some great lessons here. hope you had a happy anniversary! :)

Rebekah Clarke said...

Love everything about this post. You were a stunning bride! (you look the same 7 years later - not fair!) We just celebrated our 7th in May. Happy anniversary!!

Jessica Starks said...

You guys are so sweet! I hope, when I do get married, that mine will be as sweet as yours :)

Sarah Shermann said...

Your wedding photo's so sweet. Congrats on 7 years together thats amazing :-)

Kendall Rayburn said...

7 years! Congrats love! That is so exciting! XO

twolittlepigs downunder said...

Beautiful words :) and photo! Congratulations on your anniversary!

Jess Beer said...

Love this! Happy Anniversary!!!

Kristine@thefoleyfam said...

Beautiful picture of you guys! Happy Anniversary!

Samsam Cherie said...

Happy Anniversary! You two sound and look so happy, I'm so glad for you! :)
~ Samantha

Miranda Myrabev said...

Happy anniversary to you both and many more happy returns x

The Girl who Loved to Write said...

So very sweet! Happy anniversary to you guys!

Stephanie Wolfe said...

ive never seen your wedding pictures! your dress was gorgeous. you look like a princess :) happy anniversary you two!

ashlyebrink said...

Happy Anniversary!!

Joanna Sormunen said...

Congratulations! You both look very beautiful and happy in your wedding picture! I wish that you will have that happiness together always!

Brandi said...

Happy Anniversary!

Esther Ju*Lee said...

happy 7th anniversary! :) I agree with what you wrote. We're about to be on our 4th this august.. so I know I can learn a few things from you guys!

Deidre Miller said...

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! Love this post.

Krystyn @ Really, Are You Serious? said...

Happy anniversary! And, yes, you can't always meet in the middle for sure!!!

And, kids do sort of kill the romance...or we have to work a lot harder at it!

Carolina Perisse said...

Happy anniversary! sooo true!!! the good part is that at the end love does exist!