15 October 2014

Yes Actually, I Am Having Fun.

I basically take my kids everywhere with me. The grocery store, the bank, the gym, Home Depot, doctor's appointments,  the post office.. you get the point. I mean, they're pretty much little extensions of me, so where I go, they go.

I'd be totally lying if I said that it was easy to go places and get errands done with a Four and a Two Year Old in toe. But I will say, that I enjoy their company none-the-less.


To the man at the grocery store that passed by me and my kids, laughed, and said "Having fun!?" with a saracastic I-Pitty-You smirk on his face: 

I can imagine it was quite the scene as you walked by us and I was simultaneously trying to diffuse a toddler tantrum and yelling at the top of my lungs for my 4 y/o to stop banging on the Redbox machine after he cut 2 people in line. But to answer your question.... Yes, actually. I am having fun. And no, I'm not being sarcastic. 

Let me explain. While going to the grocery store with my kids isn't usually my go-to idea of a good time, this is my life. These little boys, though hyper and out of control sometimes, they bring me so much joy. And it might be hard to believe, but they bring me joy even when I'm struggling. Why? Because sometimes you just need to laugh it off when things are going awry. See, it's a trick that us Mom's have -- that's how we stay sane. You just have to laugh.

And actually, the definition of "fun" is as follows:

fun
fən/
noun
  1. 1.
    enjoyment, amusement, or lighthearted pleasure.

So really, even if I'm not getting absolute this-is-the-best-time-I-ever-had enjoyment out of taking my kids to the grocery store, I am constantly amused by them. Even in the most frustrating of moments when they're running around like crazy banshees and doing generally obnoxious things. They make me laugh, which brings me joy. And remember, having fun includes amusement, per the aforementioned definition. K? So YES, I am having fun.


Okay so I didn't say any of that to that man. I just smiled and kept walking. But in all seriousness.

Either that man has probably been in my shoes at some point, trying to corral a couple of crazy kids in the store without completely losing his mind and was throwing some sort of empathy line at me when he said "Having fun??".  OR, it's perfectly possible he was being a jerk and was basically saying "I'm so glad I'm not you right now."

Either way... whatever. This is the way things are in this season of life. I'm trying to do my best to laugh it off when these things happen. Because they happen often. And I hope, no, I'm sure -- that sometime down the line, I will look back on these times and think of them as the good ol' days. And how much fun my boys and I had together.

18 comments:

shelbyclarkeblog said...

Life should be fun!!

Bethie The Boo said...

Sometimes people don't think before they speak or think they're funny. At any rate, I'm glad you find the fun in your daily adventures! You have to be able to do that!

Claire C. said...

People are so rude! Clearly that man doesn't know what fun is - kids are the funnest thing around!

The Contented Wife said...

Well said! Why do people feel the need to say things like that? Oh well, like you said - the best thing to do is laugh it off! :)

Miss.AishaLC said...

This is so funny, because even when my nephew is acting up, I am still having fun with him. Its fun to find new ways to NOT have them act like that (tantrums). LOL

Karissa Ancell said...

Yes sometimes when they are driving you crazy all you can do is laugh. It's the only way to get through it.

Lovelyladyjb said...

Love this, because being a mom is a super complicated thing and the toughest times make you stronger and when you look back over the day you realize it was a good day! Thanks for this!

Fran said...

Love this, Mandy!

Tania T said...

I'm doing exactly the same thing.I don't have help from parents or someone else,my husband works a lot and things have to be done.Pay the bills,go to supermarket etc.So me and my 2 yo go everywhere together.And I enjoy it every time.Because he is not gonna be forever 2 or 6 or 10 or a child, but when he grows up he will always be a grown up..

Ashley @ Hello nature said...

This is such a great post! I don't have kids yet, but I know when I do - things will be hard. And frustrating. And even annoying at times. But I can still have fun. And I can still enjoy the life I have.

Erica Bodker said...

I have two boys and my days are like that!

Amanda Jillian B said...

5 almost 6 year old boy with ADHD and a 3 year old girl, sounds like my shopping trips. The people at Target know us well, like by name, and love my kids.

Hannah J said...

I now live with three boys so I think the only peace is when they are all asleep. Life is fun and slightly crazy with three boys (Admittedly one of those is my husband but I include him as one of the boys!).

Laura Elizabeth said...

I have two younger brothers and they're always fun, but they really are a hassle sometimes!

Tara said...

What a great post! I am pregnant with my second (Adeline is 22 months right now, and will be less than 2.5 when baby is born) right now I struggle with running errands, and try and rush through them.. but this really has struck a cord (chord??) with me. I am a stay at home mom (sort of, I am a photographer and work several hours at my church a week) regardless, my child doesn't leave my side, I need to embrace my errands, and enjoy the whole process, not "cram" it in. Thank. you. for this post! :) Love it.

secondchancemom said...

Great post!! Love this :)

Laina Turner said...

Well said

mmw2008 said...

You definitely need to take everything in life in good spirit, well done!