26 April 2016

Making Social Media A Positive Outlet Again

It's been a super long time since I've just sort of chatted about stuff. Since I've spoken freely and honestly about whatever the heck I want. I kinda miss just brain dumping all over my blog. So excuse me, while I do that right now. :-)

I was chatting with a friend the other day about social media. Okay so mostly, social media is a great thing. It helps us to keep in touch with friends & family, stay connected to local communities and events, and gives us a place to share our pictures and goings on. I really don't have very many complaints about social media. But I think that is because I have chosen to make it a positive experience. CHOSEN, being the key word.

A lot of people get frustrated with Facebook, Instagram, Twitter... etc. and some even go as far as to swear it all off.  Some claim that people on social media are fake, and only show the most perfect parts of their lives. I get it, I get what you're saying. Because honesty, I'm guilty of that, too. But look, we all KNOW that no ones lives are perfect. Nobody. I don't care how much money you have, or how "blessed" you are. We all have our challenges, our faults, and our bad awful days when we just feel like failures.

Here's the thing. I have actually come to grips with reality, and have just stopped comparing. And it's amazing how great social media is again. What I choose to show you, that's my prerogative. Maybe I choose to "keep it real" write a post about how crappy my day is going, or upload a picture to show how messy my house is. It feels good to do that sometimes. But the truth is, some people just don't want to focus or dwell on the negativity, and that's fine, too. So let's just stop accusing people of being fake or "too happy", and recognize that beyond what they actually share online, we all know they have their share of difficult days, and let's move along.
And also, newsflash!! You can choose how you perceive things, and what you engage in. Don't get me started about politics or any other controversial topic! I have absolutely had my share of debates in the past, thanks to a hot button topic posted by friends on Facebook/Twitter/IG. But I chosen to disengage myself from any and all posts that have to do with anything controversial. I have made the decision that that is NOT what I want my social media experience to consist of. I don't need the added argument and stress. So yes, as harsh as it sounds, I will hide you from my feed, or "unfollow" you, if your posts attract a lot of debates or negative comments. It's not personal, I promise. I just want to focus on using social media in the best possible way. Otherwise, it will cause more anxiety for me. Which, is not worth it.

So if you feel frustrated by social media, here's my challenge.

Stop comparing, stop assuming that you have any idea what someone's life is like based on their feed, stop judging, stop the cyber bullying, and if you need to -- stop reading controversial articles & posts.

Make social media a positive outlet again.